For reading between the lines with greater comprehension
F. Scott Fitzgerald said “The test of a first-rate intelligence is the ability to hold two opposed ideas in mind at the same time and still retain the ability to function.” To which I’d add that the test of a first-rate capacity for empathy is the ability to hold two opposed positions in mind at […]
The quickest test is your gut intuition: Do I like them? Do they like me? But that’s too quick. The stakes are high. Most of us have had the crushing experience of trusting someone untrustworthy simply because there seemed to be mutual rapport. And the only experience as crushing, is not trusting someone who turns […]
I play bass and sing in jazz combos. Unlike rock, where band members stay together for years if they can stand each other, jazz gigging is more like pickup softball games. You get a call asking if you can make some café gig and if you can, you’re often meeting fellow players for the first […]
Which is healthier: To be receptive or assertive? To be flexible or firm? To be unsure or sure? Not obvious? We have other words for these traits so let’s try a few more. Which is healthier: To be easy-going or pushy? To be accommodating or pigheaded? To be generous or stubborn? Now it’s clear isn’t […]
I hate feeling used; I love feeling useful. Really, what’s the difference? In both cases I help someone. But one feels awful and the other feels great. An intuitive answer is that you feel used when you’re not compensated and you feel useful when it’s a fair exchange. There’s something to this but it doesn’t […]
| M | T | W | T | F | S | S |
|---|---|---|---|---|---|---|
| « Apr | Jun » | |||||
| 1 | 2 | 3 | ||||
| 4 | 5 | 6 | 7 | 8 | 9 | 10 |
| 11 | 12 | 13 | 14 | 15 | 16 | 17 |
| 18 | 19 | 20 | 21 | 22 | 23 | 24 |
| 25 | 26 | 27 | 28 | 29 | 30 | 31 |
Subscribe for email updates