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		<title>Conventional wisdom: In times like these we need more of what specifically?</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/communication/conventional-wisdom/</link>
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		<pubDate>Sun, 04 May 2008 15:20:49 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[I didn&#8217;t choose to do all this philosophizing the way one chooses a career. I got into it by necessity. What I had to go on before was inadequate. I had hit a midlife crisis armed with state-of-the-art wisdom from self-help and Buddhism . . . and it just wasn&#8217;t up to the task. That [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Exaptation: The loose link between representation and function</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/communication/exaptation/</link>
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		<pubDate>Sun, 27 Apr 2008 15:18:39 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/?p=964</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[I&#8217;m a musician. I&#8217;ll admit that when I was a teen, I got into it as a way to improve my status with women. I don&#8217;t know that it ever helped much; I&#8217;m no superstar. Still, I&#8217;ve stayed a musician. Music has stayed functional in my life. But now, music represents something other than status [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Floating for-ness: Under a firm mantle of function, molten motives churn.</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/communication/floating-for-ness/</link>
		<comments>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/communication/floating-for-ness/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Thu, 24 Apr 2008 02:34:51 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<category><![CDATA[Am I missing the forest for trees?]]></category>
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		<category><![CDATA[cause]]></category>
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		<category><![CDATA[Evolution]]></category>
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		<category><![CDATA[reliability]]></category>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/?p=963</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[You&#8217;re in love, or so you think. You certainly feel in love, but now that you&#8217;ve been run through the mill a few times, you wonder what the feeling really means. You love being loved. But think about it, why does this person love you? What&#8217;s the motivation? When someone says, &#8220;I love you,&#8221; what [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Self-efficacy: How supply permits demand</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/career/self-efficacy/</link>
		<comments>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/career/self-efficacy/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Wed, 02 Apr 2008 00:32:37 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<category><![CDATA[What should we do about this family issue?]]></category>
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		<category><![CDATA[ability]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[childrearing]]></category>
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		<category><![CDATA[Evolution]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Learning]]></category>
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		<category><![CDATA[self-esteem]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[self-worth]]></category>
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		<description><![CDATA[&#8220;Give the work to the busy man,&#8221; my mother used to say. It made sense. A busy man (or woman, in her case) had momentum and a can-do spirit. The technical name for a can-do spirit is self-efficacy, a belief that you are capable of being effective. Psychologist Albert Bandura, who coined the term, attributes [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Butterfly punch: Shaming your opponent into putting on kid gloves before you knock him out.</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/communication/butterfly-punch/</link>
		<comments>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/communication/butterfly-punch/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Tue, 12 Feb 2008 17:17:02 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<category><![CDATA[Am I missing the forest for trees?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[blame]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Decision making]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[moral dilemmas]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[moral principles]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Politics]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Religion]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Rhetoric]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[shame]]></category>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/?p=953</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[Think back to a time when you fought really hard for something. Back then, how sure were you that you were right? How sure are you now that you were?If you&#8217;re like me, you pick your battles, and sometimes you pick wrong. You also intuitively track how often you changed your mind later about your [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Guesswork: Enough is enough, but how much is enough?</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/communication/guesswork/</link>
		<comments>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/communication/guesswork/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Tue, 12 Feb 2008 17:10:39 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<category><![CDATA[ambiguity]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Can I get resolution on this?]]></category>
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		<category><![CDATA[deduction]]></category>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/?p=951</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[Three weeks ago I recounted a lot of tough problems raised over the ages about how cause and effect really work. One of the toughest was that if cause and effect works like we normally think it does-thing A bumps into thing B and moves it in a precisely predictable direction, then the whole universe [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Cause and Effect: Not black and white, but read all over as if it were</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/what-should-i-do/cause-and-effect/</link>
		<comments>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/what-should-i-do/cause-and-effect/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Thu, 03 Jan 2008 03:40:41 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[What should I do?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Aristotle]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Causality]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[efficient cause]]></category>
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		<category><![CDATA[Hierarchy]]></category>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/?p=948</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[Cause and effect&#8211;we all believe in it and think we know how it works, but when we stop to think about it, some inconsistencies suggest there&#8217;s a lot more to it. And yet who studies the actual workings of cause and effect? Researchers in the philosophy of science&#8211;not a specialization you&#8217;ve probably heard or thought [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Thanksgrieving:  Cheer up &#8217;cause it&#8217;s downhill from here</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/children/thanksgrieving/</link>
		<comments>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/children/thanksgrieving/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Sun, 02 Dec 2007 01:41:41 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<category><![CDATA[addiction]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Am I missing the forest for trees?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Decision making]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[expectation]]></category>
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		<category><![CDATA[generosity]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[gratitude]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[grocery stores]]></category>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/?p=940</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[In response to last week&#8217;s song, people wrote with praises (thank you) and concerns for my health. I&#8217;m fine. More than fine. I can&#8217;t imagine being much happier than I am these days. I&#8217;m very lucky. I say this to ward off concern about my wellbeing in response to the following tune. When we&#8217;re down, [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Yearnocracies: Negotiating the slippery slope between hope and hoax</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/friends/yearnocracies/</link>
		<comments>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/friends/yearnocracies/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Tue, 23 Oct 2007 03:34:51 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<category><![CDATA[Should I hold onto my dream or face reality?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Am I missing the forest for trees?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Causality]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Decision making]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[demand]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Environment]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Evolution]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Kant]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[law of attraction]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Learning]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[need to known ratio]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Paradoxes]]></category>
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		<category><![CDATA[quality control]]></category>
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		<category><![CDATA[The Secret]]></category>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/?p=934</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[Real estate has buyer&#8217;s and seller&#8217;s markets&#8211;and other industries have them as well. Information industries have a particular kind of seller&#8217;s market in which demand is high for information that is not reliably available. Cancer treatment, money management, leadership training, alternative medicine, psychotherapy, get-rich-quick training courses, spiritual guidance, diet programs&#8211;these are just some of the [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Exploratory Commitment: The try/buy dichotomy</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/career/exploratory-commitment/</link>
		<comments>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/career/exploratory-commitment/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Tue, 23 Oct 2007 01:50:52 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<category><![CDATA[buy]]></category>
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		<category><![CDATA[Environment]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Evolution]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[feedback]]></category>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/?p=932</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[Last week I discussed the relationship between the questions &#8220;How can I succeed?&#8221; and &#8220;Can I succeed?&#8221; The two questions form a loop. In one direction, ambition inspires you to ask, &#8220;Can I succeed?&#8221; To answer that question, you ask, &#8220;Well, how can I succeed?&#8221; Then you explore particular plans to do so. If you [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Passive vs. Active Hope: Is a will a way or a way to a way?</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/business/passive-vs-active-hope/</link>
		<comments>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/business/passive-vs-active-hope/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Tue, 23 Oct 2007 01:49:28 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<category><![CDATA[Should I hold onto my dream or face reality?]]></category>
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		<category><![CDATA[Accept vs. Aspire]]></category>
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		<category><![CDATA[Causality]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Decision making]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Evolution]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[expectations]]></category>
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		<category><![CDATA[perfectionism]]></category>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/?p=931</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[Your marriage, business, career, plan to end world hunger isn&#8217;t going so well. Two questions might come to mind: &#8220;How can I succeed?&#8221; and &#8220;Can I succeed?&#8221; The first question focuses you on evaluating specific plans for their probability of success&#8211;hope in this plan or that. But drop that first word and you pop up [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Mindreader’s Rights: Don&#8217;t tell me what I&#8217;m thinking</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/communication/mindreading-rights/</link>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 05 Oct 2007 23:42:13 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Doctor: Bob, bad news. You’ve got cancer. Bob: Well, I’m going to want a second opinion. Doctor: All right, you’re ugly too. Joe: X is true. Sue: No it’s not. Joe: You just don’t want to admit it’s true because you’re stubborn. Sue: That’s not true. Joe: Yes it is. Sue: Don’t tell me what [...]]]></description>
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		<title>The Second Fundamental: Stalemates and infinite loops in a human-persuade-human world.</title>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 27 Sep 2007 14:40:44 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/?p=927</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[“You can’t change other people. All you can do is change your attitude.” People say this sort of thing when they’ve decided to stop trying to change someone. Maybe generalizing like this helps convince them to let go, but of course it’s not true. Influence happens. Influence is as old as ecosystems. We are extensions [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Chiasmic Questions: How do you jump-start virtuous cycles?</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-trust-them/negotiation/chiasmic-questions/</link>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 01 Mar 2007 01:36:24 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[I love teaching at a small college because it forces me to be a generalist. I teach history, psychology, philosophy, economics, marketing, writing, and literature. As a result I work primarily with the patterns that connect various disciplines. Here’s one that keeps popping up. It’s a chiasmic* question&#8211;a question that addresses two alternatives, each an [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Letter and Spirit: Two-fisted adventures at home and in the classroom</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/communication/letter-and-spirit/</link>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 26 Jan 2007 03:12:40 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/blog/?p=64</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[I grew up in a very nice home on Chicago’s South Side, two stories with a full attic and basement. On the first floor we had the kitchen, dining room, living room, den, and the “powder room” or guest bathroom. My father ran a big company and once a year and invited his top executives&#8211;some [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Figments of Ultimate Satisfaction: Our high ideals may be our downfall</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/career/figments-of-ultimate-satisfaction-2/</link>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 22 Dec 2006 17:56:48 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Life is a game, though not because it’s casual, unimportant fun, which is what’s implied most often by that cliché. Indeed, that’s the greatest dissimilarity between games and life. Life is very much a big deal. How we do at it defines us personally. It shapes those who depend upon us, even people we don’t [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Getting Philosophical: A good coping strategy sometimes</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/is-this-worth-fighting-for/conflict/getting-philosophical/</link>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 23 Feb 2006 00:00:00 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Talking to the occasional troubled friend lately, I&#8217;ve had the urge to recommend getting philosophical about the trouble. But I&#8217;ve held my tongue, largely because getting philosophical has a bad reputation. It evokes images of indifferent or glib people saying, &#8220;Hey, shit happens, what&#8217;re ya gonna do? Life ain&#8217;t a bowl of cherries.&#8221; Or maybe [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Substrate Neutrality: The mental health benefits of saying, &#8220;I wouldn&#8217;t put it past me.&#8221;</title>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 01 Dec 2005 23:24:38 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/blog/?p=153</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[In what&#8217;s called Lojong practice, Buddhists meditate on slogans. My favorite says, &#8220;Drive all blames to one.&#8221; This slogan promises an end to squabbles over who is right and who is wrong, suggesting a big clearinghouse somewhere to which we can drive all blames. Of course, if the slogan is to be of practical use, [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Going Meta: On the pleasures and perils of higher consciousness</title>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 29 Sep 2005 18:26:13 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/blog/?p=51</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[The prefix Meta- comes from the Greek. It originally meant &#8220;after,&#8221; so when late Greek scholars were cataloging Aristotle&#8217;s works, they called his books on fundamental philosophical assumptions &#8220;metaphysics,&#8221; meaning nothing more profound than &#8220;the books that come after the books about physics.&#8221; Aristotle&#8217;s metaphysics seeded inquiry into existence&#8217;s overarching questions. As a result, meta [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Upleveling: What to do about your dos and don&#8217;ts</title>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 13 Apr 2005 19:05:05 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[The Buddha said we suffer because we cling to our desires, and it&#8217;s true. I&#8217;m always clinging to the past or future, what I wished had happened or what I hope will happen. It&#8217;s terrible. So I&#8217;ve tried to just live in the here and now, to enjoy every moment and accept what is, without [...]]]></description>
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