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		<title>Seven Wonderings of the Modern World: The human tough judgment calls</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 10 Jun 2008 17:07:47 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[I&#8217;ve been doing Mind Readers Dictionary steadily for close to five years&#8211;one article, one idea per week. Only now am I getting around the stuff that started it all for me, the universal tough judgment calls at the heart of all the uncertainty we feel in any and every area of life. Last week I [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Seven Wonderings of the Ancient World: Life&#8217;s universal tough judgment calls</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/should-i-commit/seven-wonderings-of-the-ancient-world/</link>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 03 Jun 2008 17:37:24 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[&#8220;If everybody minded their own business,&#8221; the Duchess said in a hoarse growl, &#8220;the world would go round a deal faster than it does.&#8221; Lewis Carroll, Alice in Wonderland* Minding one&#8217;s own business commonly means not minding other people&#8217;s business, but its literal meaning is still implied&#8211;don&#8217;t mind others&#8217; business because you have business of [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Granularity: Think as big as possible but no bigger</title>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 28 May 2008 21:23:47 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<category><![CDATA[Einstein]]></category>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/?p=968</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[I&#8217;ve argued before that there are three types of guidance or wisdom. The first and simplest is the &#8220;always do X&#8221; type. For example, always think positive thoughts, always follow your father&#8217;s advice, or always do what the Bible says. The second is the &#8220;a time for X; a time for Y&#8221; type, the wise [...]]]></description>
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		<title>ACIDs (Ambiguous Cues; Incompatible Dos): What eats at us when something does</title>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 21 May 2008 22:41:03 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Last week I argued that we need names for the generic tough judgment calls we all deal with. I gave a few examples: Should I be receptive or assertive? Should I manipulate or be honest? I argued that we pretend we can live by one-sided principles &#8211; assert your rights, accept things as they are, [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Generic Tough Judgment Calls:  Why don&#8217;t we have names for them?</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/communication/generic-tough-judgment-calls/</link>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 09 May 2008 14:59:43 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<category><![CDATA[close calls]]></category>
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		<description><![CDATA[Recently, I was listening to an NPR report on Jimmy Carter&#8217;s meeting with leaders of the Palestinian militant Hamas party. The reporter had two experts on to debate the merits of Carter&#8217;s action. One argued that Carter sent the wrong message. Diplomatic engagement only encourages Hamas leaders to stand irrationally firm. The other said Carter [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Floating for-ness: Under a firm mantle of function, molten motives churn.</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/communication/floating-for-ness/</link>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 24 Apr 2008 02:34:51 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/?p=963</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[You&#8217;re in love, or so you think. You certainly feel in love, but now that you&#8217;ve been run through the mill a few times, you wonder what the feeling really means. You love being loved. But think about it, why does this person love you? What&#8217;s the motivation? When someone says, &#8220;I love you,&#8221; what [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Deduction: The dream and nightmare of absolute certainty him in a</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 12 Feb 2008 17:07:39 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/?p=950</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[Last week I began comparing and contrasting computers and minds, examining both human intuitions and appetites regarding the prospect that our minds are governed by the same kind of direct one-to-one-correspondence kind of cause-and-effect we see in the physical world (Aristotle&#8217;s efficient cause). If minds are really like computers, just translating information from one form [...]]]></description>
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		<title>The Golden Paradox: If we always sacrificed for each other, no one would ever have to make sacrifices</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/business/the-golden-paradox/</link>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 25 Dec 2007 19:27:09 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/?p=944</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[You know me. I&#8217;ve got hardly any moral principles; I&#8217;m all about moral dilemmas. I made the case a while ago (see Liar&#8217;s Paradox Moral Litmus Test) that if you can come up with a Liar&#8217;s Paradox-like statement regarding some moral principle, then it really isn&#8217;t a moral principle. Instead, it&#8217;s a moral dilemma. In [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Thanksgrieving:  Cheer up &#8217;cause it&#8217;s downhill from here</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/children/thanksgrieving/</link>
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		<pubDate>Sun, 02 Dec 2007 01:41:41 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[In response to last week&#8217;s song, people wrote with praises (thank you) and concerns for my health. I&#8217;m fine. More than fine. I can&#8217;t imagine being much happier than I am these days. I&#8217;m very lucky. I say this to ward off concern about my wellbeing in response to the following tune. When we&#8217;re down, [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Yearnocracies: Negotiating the slippery slope between hope and hoax</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 23 Oct 2007 03:34:51 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Real estate has buyer&#8217;s and seller&#8217;s markets&#8211;and other industries have them as well. Information industries have a particular kind of seller&#8217;s market in which demand is high for information that is not reliably available. Cancer treatment, money management, leadership training, alternative medicine, psychotherapy, get-rich-quick training courses, spiritual guidance, diet programs&#8211;these are just some of the [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Exploratory Commitment: The try/buy dichotomy</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/career/exploratory-commitment/</link>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 23 Oct 2007 01:50:52 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[How should I negotiate this?]]></category>
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		<category><![CDATA[Should I stay?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Which move helps my career?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[buy]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Causality]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Decision making]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Environment]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Evolution]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[feedback]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Goethe]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[investment]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Paradoxes]]></category>
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		<category><![CDATA[Romance]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[speculation]]></category>
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		<category><![CDATA[try]]></category>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/?p=932</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[Last week I discussed the relationship between the questions &#8220;How can I succeed?&#8221; and &#8220;Can I succeed?&#8221; The two questions form a loop. In one direction, ambition inspires you to ask, &#8220;Can I succeed?&#8221; To answer that question, you ask, &#8220;Well, how can I succeed?&#8221; Then you explore particular plans to do so. If you [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Hope: As an answer or a question</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/communication/hope/</link>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 23 Oct 2007 01:27:31 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[How can I communicate this to her?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[How should I handle it with my friend?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[How should I handle this conflict?]]></category>
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		<category><![CDATA[Is this worth wondering about?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I fight on?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I hold onto my dream or face reality?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I sacrifice?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I say it?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I stay?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[What should I do about this business problem?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[What to do about finances?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Which move helps my career?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[action]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[belief]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Causality]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Decision making]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Environment]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Evolution]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[hope]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[law of attraction]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[magical thinking]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[optimism]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[pessimism]]></category>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/?p=930</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[Success is as dangerous as failure; hope is as hollow as fear. Lao Tzu (translation: Stephen Mitchell) One interpretation of this line from the Tao Te Ching supports a popular piece of advice: You shouldn&#8217;t care about success or failure. Caring only makes you anxious and competitive. If you succeed at not caring, you neither [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Mindreader’s Rights: Don&#8217;t tell me what I&#8217;m thinking</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/communication/mindreading-rights/</link>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 05 Oct 2007 23:42:13 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Can I trust them?]]></category>
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		<category><![CDATA[How should I negotiate this?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Is this a sign?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Is this worth wondering about?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I fight on?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I get over it?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I give in?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I hold onto my dream or face reality?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I say it?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Decision making]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[feedback]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[honesty]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[individuality]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[mind reading]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[mindreading]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Politics]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Religion]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[rights]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Romance]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[self-awareness]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[self-doubt]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[sovereignety]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[tell me how I feel]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Tough choices]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Wisdom]]></category>

		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/?p=928</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[Doctor: Bob, bad news. You’ve got cancer. Bob: Well, I’m going to want a second opinion. Doctor: All right, you’re ugly too. Joe: X is true. Sue: No it’s not. Joe: You just don’t want to admit it’s true because you’re stubborn. Sue: That’s not true. Joe: Yes it is. Sue: Don’t tell me what [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Careful Caring: We can&#8217;t always care, so why feel guilty when called uncaring?</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/friends/careful-caring/</link>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 25 Apr 2007 16:43:52 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Can I trust them?]]></category>
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		<category><![CDATA[Is there a win/win solution?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I be thinking about the bigger picture?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I commit?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I fight on?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I give in?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I hold onto my dream or face reality?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I sacrifice?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I stay?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I wait?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[What's the moral thing to do here?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Am I missing the forest for trees?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Am I sliding?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[blame]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[care]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[charity]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[connotations]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Decision making]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[denotations]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[generosity]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[guilt]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[kindness]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[loaded terms]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[moral absolutes]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[moral principles]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Romance]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[shame]]></category>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/blog/?p=18</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[&#8220;Don&#8217;t say I don&#8217;t care. I do care.&#8221; Like many words, care means different kinds of things. It has its descriptive meaning&#8211;its denotation: Caring is a certain kind of behavior. But it also has its prescriptive meaning&#8211;its connotation: Caring is good. You should care. Being uncaring is bad. Combining denotation and connotation you get a [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Chiasmic Questions: How do you jump-start virtuous cycles?</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-trust-them/negotiation/chiasmic-questions/</link>
		<comments>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-trust-them/negotiation/chiasmic-questions/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Thu, 01 Mar 2007 01:36:24 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[How should I handle this conflict?]]></category>
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		<category><![CDATA[Is this worth wondering about?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I be thinking about the bigger picture?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Am I missing the forest for trees?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Causality]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[chaism]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Decision making]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Emergence]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Hierarchy]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[liar's paradox]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Logic]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[logical inconsistency]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[logical types]]></category>
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		<description><![CDATA[I love teaching at a small college because it forces me to be a generalist. I teach history, psychology, philosophy, economics, marketing, writing, and literature. As a result I work primarily with the patterns that connect various disciplines. Here’s one that keeps popping up. It’s a chiasmic* question&#8211;a question that addresses two alternatives, each an [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Mid-Wife Crisis: It’s the economy, stupid.</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/communication/mid-wife-crisis/</link>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 21 Feb 2007 17:26:21 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Can I trust them?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[How can I communicate this to her?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[How should I handle it with my friend?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[How should I handle this conflict?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Is there a win/win solution?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Is this worth wondering about?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I commit?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I fight on?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I give in?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I stay?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[What should I do about this business problem?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[What should we do about this family issue?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[What to do about finances?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[What's the moral thing to do here?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Which move helps my career?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[alternatives]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Am I expecting too much?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Am I missing the forest for trees?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Am I sliding?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Causality]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[commitment]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Decision making]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[economy]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Environment]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Evolution]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[love]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[opportunity costs]]></category>
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		<description><![CDATA[I was married by 24 and had my first child at 25. By the standard of my parents’ generation, 24 was normal&#8211;my father married at that age&#8211;but by my generation’s standard (especially within my Northern California subculture), it was peculiar to get married so young. My firstborn child is eight years older than those of [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Some-nipotence; Some-nicsience: Having no power or knowledge would be easier</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/should-i-stay/some-nipotence-some-nicsience/</link>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 12 Jul 2004 18:59:56 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<category><![CDATA[Should I stay?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Am I expecting too much?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Am I sliding?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[bets]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Causality]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[commitments]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Decision making]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Emergence]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Evolution]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[fallibilism]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[god]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[godel]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[incompleteness]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[omnipotence]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[omniscience]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Paradoxes]]></category>
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		<category><![CDATA[theology]]></category>
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		<description><![CDATA[Definition: Some power; some knowledge— all we mortals have in comparison to omnipotent and omniscient super-beings we can imagine but cannot be. We have some power and some knowledge. We have the power to change some things we would like to change and to keep some things we would like to keep. We believe some [...]]]></description>
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