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	<title>MIND READERS DICTIONARY &#187; Rhetoric</title>
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		<title>Chickenhawk: How did fear come to signify bravery?</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/should-i-doubt-myself/should-i-fight-on/chickenhawk/</link>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 10 Sep 2008 01:14:15 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Should I fight on?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[bravery]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[confidence]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[connotations]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Decision making]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[denotations]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[fear]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[one-sided]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Politics]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[republicans]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Rhetoric]]></category>

		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/?p=1036</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[Neo-conservatives and militant Islamic fundamentalists both claim to be braver than the rest of us because they see a clear and present danger that we don&#8217;t. Both movements fear that liberalism and tolerance are powerful corruptive forces that are about to take over the world. They have that much in common. They differ on their [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Preacher practices: Four iffy ways to square lofty standards with lowly behaviors.</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/should-i-doubt-myself/should-i-hold-onto-my-dream-or-face-reality/preacher-practices/</link>
		<comments>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/should-i-doubt-myself/should-i-hold-onto-my-dream-or-face-reality/preacher-practices/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Mon, 01 Sep 2008 16:50:54 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Should I give in?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I hold onto my dream or face reality?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[coherence]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Decision making]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[double-standard]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[incoherence]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Politics]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[practice]]></category>
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		<category><![CDATA[self-deception]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[standards]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[theory]]></category>

		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/?p=1018</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[I&#8217;ve been writing a lot lately about the trouble with commitments to being nice or caring (Virtue Verbiage; Conventional Wisdom) and have gotten interesting feedback on these columns. A few said these were especially useful. One particularly liked that I said people should be nice, which wasn&#8217;t my point. Several doubted my claim that people [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Virtue Verbiage: Thou shalt always throw</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/communication/virtue-verbiage/</link>
		<comments>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/communication/virtue-verbiage/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Tue, 26 Aug 2008 17:10:04 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[How can I communicate this to her?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Is this worth wondering about?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I give in?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[bad]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Decision making]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[ethics]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[good]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Learning]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[moral absolutes]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[morality]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Paradoxes]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Politics]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Rhetoric]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[right and wrong]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[two-sided]]></category>

		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/?p=994</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[Yesterday I found myself at a business consultant&#8217;s birthday party where I met a warm fellow who was eager to tell me about a book he has just written about caring. Like all consultants, he was able to describe how dysfunctional large organizations can be and quick also to identify the one thing that would [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Philosophizing: Hard because it&#8217;s easy</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-do-better/is-there-something-to-learn-here/philosophizing/</link>
		<comments>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-do-better/is-there-something-to-learn-here/philosophizing/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Wed, 16 Jul 2008 02:31:19 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Should I get over it?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[big questions]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[cosmology]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Decision making]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[falsifiability]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Learning]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[methodology]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Paradoxes]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Philosophy]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[practicality]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[psychology]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Rhetoric]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[theory]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[unprovability]]></category>

		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/?p=978</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[By Jeremy Sherman, Ph.D. A man boasts about his successful marriage. &#8220;What&#8217;s your secret?&#8221; a friend asks. &#8220;Simple division of labor,&#8221; the husband says. &#8220;I make all the big decisions; my wife makes all the small ones.&#8221; &#8220;I don&#8217;t understand,&#8221; says his friend. &#8220;For instance?&#8221; &#8220;For instance, my wife decides where I work, where we [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Fallibilism: Every belief is a bet but some bets are better than others</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/communication/fallibilism/</link>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 16 Jul 2008 02:12:09 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<category><![CDATA[Is this worth wondering about?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I fight on?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I get over it?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I hold onto my dream or face reality?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[bible]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[confidence levels]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Decision making]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[epistemology]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Evolution]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[fallibalism]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[fundamentalism]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[god]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Philosophy]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Politics]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Religion]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Rhetoric]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[salvataion]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[self-certainty]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[self-doubt]]></category>

		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/?p=977</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[The other day I had a very interesting conversation with a truly engaged and engaging Christian. We were talking about the Bible. He&#8217;s a literalist. He believes that the Bible&#8217;s meaning is clear and certain, and that it&#8217;s only when other people engage in an act he calls &#8220;interpreting&#8221; that things get muddled. I asked [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Means and Ends: Opening a can (and can&#8217;t) of worms.</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/what-should-i-do/means-and-ends/</link>
		<comments>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/what-should-i-do/means-and-ends/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Mon, 07 Jul 2008 18:06:01 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[What should I do?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Accept vs. Aspire]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Causality]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[cause]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Decision making]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[demand]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[ends]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[explanations]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[means]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[necessities]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Paradoxes]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Philosophy]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[reasons]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Rhetoric]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[supply]]></category>

		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/?p=974</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[Q: Why do dogs lick their genitals? A: Because they can. As with all jokes, this one is a bait and switch. We were expecting a motive and got a de-constraint instead. The question led us to think about the dog&#8217;s ends (no pun intended), and instead we&#8217;re shunted to consideration of the dog&#8217;s means. [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Conventional wisdom: In times like these we need more of what specifically?</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/communication/conventional-wisdom/</link>
		<comments>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/communication/conventional-wisdom/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Sun, 04 May 2008 15:20:49 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[How can I communicate this to her?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Is this worth wondering about?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I fight on?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I sacrifice?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[What should I do about this business problem?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[absolutism]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Causality]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[certainties]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Decision making]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Environment]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Evolution]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[generosity]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[guinidng principles]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[kindness]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[moral absolutes]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[morals]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[nice]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Rhetoric]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[self-certainty]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Wisdom]]></category>

		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/?p=965</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[I didn&#8217;t choose to do all this philosophizing the way one chooses a career. I got into it by necessity. What I had to go on before was inadequate. I had hit a midlife crisis armed with state-of-the-art wisdom from self-help and Buddhism . . . and it just wasn&#8217;t up to the task. That [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Exaptation: The loose link between representation and function</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/communication/exaptation/</link>
		<comments>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/communication/exaptation/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Sun, 27 Apr 2008 15:18:39 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[How can I communicate this to her?]]></category>
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		<category><![CDATA[Should I commit?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I get over it?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I give in?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I stay?]]></category>
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		<category><![CDATA[function]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[meaning]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Politics]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[pragmatism]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[representation]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Rhetoric]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Romance]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[root causes]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[semiotics]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[significance]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[uses]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Wisdom]]></category>

		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/?p=964</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[I&#8217;m a musician. I&#8217;ll admit that when I was a teen, I got into it as a way to improve my status with women. I don&#8217;t know that it ever helped much; I&#8217;m no superstar. Still, I&#8217;ve stayed a musician. Music has stayed functional in my life. But now, music represents something other than status [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Brain Velcro: Why good things happen to bad ideas</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/communication/brain-velcro/</link>
		<comments>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/communication/brain-velcro/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Tue, 08 Apr 2008 19:27:55 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[How can I communicate this to her?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[How should I handle it with my friend?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Is this worth wondering about?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I get over it?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I give in?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I hold onto my dream or face reality?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[What should I do about this business problem?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[brain velcro]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Causality]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Decision making]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Evolution]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[idea viruses]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[ideas]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Learning]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[liked and likely stories]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[memes]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Philosophy]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Politics]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[pr]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[promo]]></category>
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		<description><![CDATA[Most people even mildly interested in evolution have heard about the &#8220;selfish gene.&#8221; The concept is simple yet with counterintuitive implications. Richard Dawkins, who coined the term, argues that the best way to understand evolution is to imagine that genes selfishly want to preserve themselves, and so produce elaborate replicator vehicles (us) designed to help [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Prevenge: &#8220;I&#8217;m like rubber; you&#8217;re like screwed.&#8221;</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/communication/prevenge-im-like-rubber-youre-like-screwed/</link>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 27 Mar 2008 14:51:31 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<category><![CDATA[How should I negotiate this?]]></category>
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		<category><![CDATA[Should I get over it?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I give in?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[What should I do about this business problem?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[annoying people]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[blocking]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Decision making]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[defensiveness]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[denial]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[difficult people]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[double bind]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Politics]]></category>
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		<description><![CDATA[Have you ever blackmailed someone? I attempted to blackmail a policeman the other evening. I was driving somewhere in my usual hurry. After I rolled through a stop sign, he trailed me and gave me a ticket. I acted put out, sullen, unfriendly. He remained cheerful. After he gave me the ticket, he said, &#8220;Drive [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Butterfly punch: Shaming your opponent into putting on kid gloves before you knock him out.</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/communication/butterfly-punch/</link>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 12 Feb 2008 17:17:02 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<category><![CDATA[Am I missing the forest for trees?]]></category>
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		<category><![CDATA[moral dilemmas]]></category>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/?p=953</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[Think back to a time when you fought really hard for something. Back then, how sure were you that you were right? How sure are you now that you were?If you&#8217;re like me, you pick your battles, and sometimes you pick wrong. You also intuitively track how often you changed your mind later about your [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Guesswork: Enough is enough, but how much is enough?</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/communication/guesswork/</link>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 12 Feb 2008 17:10:39 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[How can I communicate this to her?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[How should I handle it with my friend?]]></category>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/?p=951</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[Three weeks ago I recounted a lot of tough problems raised over the ages about how cause and effect really work. One of the toughest was that if cause and effect works like we normally think it does-thing A bumps into thing B and moves it in a precisely predictable direction, then the whole universe [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Deduction: The dream and nightmare of absolute certainty him in a</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/communication/deduction/</link>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 12 Feb 2008 17:07:39 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/?p=950</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[Last week I began comparing and contrasting computers and minds, examining both human intuitions and appetites regarding the prospect that our minds are governed by the same kind of direct one-to-one-correspondence kind of cause-and-effect we see in the physical world (Aristotle&#8217;s efficient cause). If minds are really like computers, just translating information from one form [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Co-dependence: When do two wrongs make a right?</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/children/co-dependence/</link>
		<comments>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/children/co-dependence/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Thu, 03 Jan 2008 03:35:58 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/?p=947</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[I&#8217;m trying a new way to deal with effronteries. When someone does me harm, I have an old habit of compensating myself with the grant of retaliatory superiority. I automatically think, &#8220;This proves that I&#8217;m different from (and better than) them. I hold to the high standards better than they do, and I&#8217;m therefore entitled [...]]]></description>
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		<title>The Golden Paradox: If we always sacrificed for each other, no one would ever have to make sacrifices</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/business/the-golden-paradox/</link>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 25 Dec 2007 19:27:09 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/?p=944</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[You know me. I&#8217;ve got hardly any moral principles; I&#8217;m all about moral dilemmas. I made the case a while ago (see Liar&#8217;s Paradox Moral Litmus Test) that if you can come up with a Liar&#8217;s Paradox-like statement regarding some moral principle, then it really isn&#8217;t a moral principle. Instead, it&#8217;s a moral dilemma. In [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Ambigamy:  Love&#8217;s lost labors</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/career/ambigamy-2/</link>
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		<pubDate>Sun, 02 Dec 2007 01:44:32 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/?p=941</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[Last song in a series of three, here&#8217;s one whose target audience is not the middle-aged but rather the young and restless. It was inspired by an argument I couldn&#8217;t get started with someone who only wanted to talk about how the media was to blame for youth culture&#8217;s slide into promiscuity. I agreed with [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Yearnocracies: Negotiating the slippery slope between hope and hoax</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/friends/yearnocracies/</link>
		<comments>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/friends/yearnocracies/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Tue, 23 Oct 2007 03:34:51 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<category><![CDATA[demand]]></category>
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		<category><![CDATA[Evolution]]></category>
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		<category><![CDATA[law of attraction]]></category>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/?p=934</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[Real estate has buyer&#8217;s and seller&#8217;s markets&#8211;and other industries have them as well. Information industries have a particular kind of seller&#8217;s market in which demand is high for information that is not reliably available. Cancer treatment, money management, leadership training, alternative medicine, psychotherapy, get-rich-quick training courses, spiritual guidance, diet programs&#8211;these are just some of the [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Hope: As an answer or a question</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/communication/hope/</link>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 23 Oct 2007 01:27:31 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/?p=930</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[Success is as dangerous as failure; hope is as hollow as fear. Lao Tzu (translation: Stephen Mitchell) One interpretation of this line from the Tao Te Ching supports a popular piece of advice: You shouldn&#8217;t care about success or failure. Caring only makes you anxious and competitive. If you succeed at not caring, you neither [...]]]></description>
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		<title>No, Really: Deeper meaning in conversational packing peanuts</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-trust-them/negotiation/no-really/</link>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 15 Oct 2007 03:12:45 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/?p=929</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[There’s an old Greek story about a law teacher who guaranteed to refund a student’s tuition if he didn’t win his first case. After graduating, one student refused to pay. So the teacher sued him. The student didn’t mind, though. If he lost this, his first case, he wouldn’t have to pay his tuition. If [...]]]></description>
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		<title>The Second Fundamental: Stalemates and infinite loops in a human-persuade-human world.</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/communication/the-second-fundamental/</link>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 27 Sep 2007 14:40:44 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/?p=927</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[“You can’t change other people. All you can do is change your attitude.” People say this sort of thing when they’ve decided to stop trying to change someone. Maybe generalizing like this helps convince them to let go, but of course it’s not true. Influence happens. Influence is as old as ecosystems. We are extensions [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Extended Memotype: On Advice, Part 1</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/communication/extended-memotype-on-advice-part-1/</link>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 21 Sep 2007 07:36:19 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/?p=926</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[People who give advice are annoying, kind, nosy, generous, pushy, helpful, proud, selfless, self-serving, and domineering. My advice is to ignore them completely and at your own expense. I&#8217;ve been given advice-and as you know, I give my share of advice, too. Well, perhaps more than my share. I&#8217;ve been thinking about the dynamics of [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Minutia and Highfalutia: Evasion by scrambling to a safer level of analysis</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/should-i-say-it/minutia-and-highfalutia/</link>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 06 Sep 2007 12:03:34 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[You see a friend lost in the details of what looks to you like a fundamentally bad plan. You want to help your friend. You ask a leading question or two: “Do you sometimes wonder if your plan makes sense?” or “How do you feel it’s going lately, I mean overall?” Your friend generally welcomes [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Sorry: That big dumb powerful word</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/communication/sorry/</link>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 30 Aug 2007 12:47:28 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/blog/?p=601</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[A friend who once lived in England told me that the word sorry is used differently there, that it is less an apology than an expression of sympathy. Over the years my friend and I have listed alternative meanings of the word sorry and assigned each a country of origin (without much regard to real [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Sorrytaliatory Cycle: &#8220;I owe you an apology or a scolding, I can&#8217;t tell which.&#8221;</title>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 22 Aug 2007 21:51:23 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/blog/?p=602</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[Sorrytaliatory Cycle: My mistake—no, yours—no, mine—no . . . “Excuse me, my unfocused words. I was flying blind. If you can find it in your heart . . . if you’ve got one. . .” “Shame,” by Randy Newman from the album “Bad Love” Decision theory recognizes that any yes/no question entails the prospect of [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Realincarnation: Requiem for the immortal soul</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/friends/realincarnation/</link>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 01 Aug 2007 11:06:18 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[I lost a friend a few months ago. I miss him, but he is gone, though he lives on in my memory. My friend didn’t die, but our connection did—and it happened over the subject of death. He used to drop by unannounced late in the evening. I welcomed him in, and welcomed also his [...]]]></description>
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