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	<title>MIND READERS DICTIONARY &#187; Decision making</title>
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		<title>Crypto-prescription: How to pretend you&#8217;re not giving advice when you are.</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/what-should-i-do/crypto-prescription/</link>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 19 Feb 2009 02:53:52 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[What should I do?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[charles darwin]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Decision making]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[evolutionary theory]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Tough judgment calls]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[uncertainty]]></category>

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		<description><![CDATA[Giving advice is risky business. You lose friends. You get accused of being bossy, nosey, a know-it-all, controlling. It can invite reciprocation, and, if like many of us you are better at dishing out advice than taking it in, that&#8217;s no fun. People in glass houses shouldn&#8217;t throw stones. Fortunately, some rhetorical tricks can make [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Seven habits of sometimes effective critics: Unreliable sure-fire recipes for speaking your mind</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/communication/seven-habits/</link>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 04 Nov 2008 19:08:27 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[How can I communicate this to her?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[How should I handle this conflict?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I say it?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[criticism]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Decision making]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[diplomacy]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[feedback]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[How should I negotiate this?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[kindness]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[niceness]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[strategy]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[tolerance]]></category>

		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/?p=1204</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[Sure-fire recipes are wonderful things, and the history of civilization can be read as the search for and discovery of such recipes. Unfortunately, it can also be read as a long line of claims to have discovered allegedly sure-fire recipes that turn out to be not so sure-fire after all. Every day we experience the [...]]]></description>
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		<title>The Tact Game: Is there always a winning way to give critical feedback?</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/communication/the-tact-game/</link>
		<comments>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/communication/the-tact-game/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Tue, 04 Nov 2008 18:58:24 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[How can I communicate this to her?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[How should I handle it with my friend?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[How should I handle this conflict?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I say it?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[criticism]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Decision making]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[diplomacy]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[feedback]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[How should I negotiate this?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[kindness]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[niceness]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[strategy]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[tolerance]]></category>

		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/?p=1193</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[It&#8217;s commonly held that critical feedback never has to hurt so long as you deliver it tactfully. Tact transcends all resistance. There&#8217;s a nice way to say anything. I live by that belief and promote it to my students. I tell them to assume that there&#8217;s nothing they can&#8217;t say to anyone as long as [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Exit interview: The pros and cons of giving feedback as a relationship ends</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/communication/exit-interview/</link>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 04 Nov 2008 18:58:03 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[How can I communicate this to her?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[How should I handle it with my friend?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[How should I handle this conflict?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I say it?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I stay?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[criticism]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Decision making]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[diplomacy]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[ending relationships]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[exits]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[feedback]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[How should I negotiate this?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[kindness]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[niceness]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[quitting]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[strategy]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[tolerance]]></category>

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		<description><![CDATA[I left a band recently. I had my reasons but wasn&#8217;t sure whether to share them on exit. I didn&#8217;t want to be dishonest. I can remember times when people gave me vacuous excuses for parting with me. Here I had invested heavily in a relationship and they were too stingy to let me in [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Generalizing: Learn the lessons of history, but which ones?</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-do-better/is-there-something-to-learn-here/generalizing/</link>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 23 Oct 2008 00:13:23 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Should I get over it?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Bush]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Decision making]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[denial]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[generalizing]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[induction]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Learning]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[lessons of history]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[overgeneralizing]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Politics]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[racism]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[republicans]]></category>

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		<description><![CDATA[A few months before Katrina, I caught one of the early Mardi Gras parades in a rural town outside New Orleans. Race relations there seemed different from those here in Northern California. Blacks were more outgoing and friendly to whites, and yet there also seemed to be more racial segregation. At the parade, the floats [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Nounism: Taking THINGS too seriously</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/communication/nounism/</link>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 22 Oct 2008 23:55:36 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[How can I communicate this to her?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I get over it?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I hold onto my dream or face reality?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Causality]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Decision making]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Emergence]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[language]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[name calling]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[nouns]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Palin]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[permanence]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Politics]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[reification]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[republicans]]></category>

		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/?p=1106</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[Last week New Yorker columnist George Packer noted that while Sarah Palin&#8217;s syntax is mangled, more significantly it lacks verbs. It&#8217;s mostly nouns. Maverick, hockey mom, Joe sixpack, elitist, terrorist, small-town people&#8211;lots of heavily loaded nouns. Loaded nouns and the adjectives that modify them are part of everyone&#8217;s vocabulary, but in recent decades&#8211;under the influence [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Reality and &#8220;Reality&#8221;: Our high-stakes referendum on two definitions</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/communication/reality/</link>
		<comments>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/communication/reality/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Wed, 22 Oct 2008 22:59:57 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[How can I communicate this to her?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I get over it?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I hold onto my dream or face reality?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I say it?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Causality]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Decision making]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[epistemology]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[facts]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Politics]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[pragmatism]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[reality]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[republicans]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[rove]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[self-serving]]></category>

		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/?p=1107</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[Our election is 13 days away. If you&#8217;re bothered by my political focus lately, please know I&#8217;ll be back to the usual soon. This election is proving to be a referendum on the central tenets of Mindreaders Dictionary. I can&#8217;t resist making the connections. I watch this election from several perspectives. Among them: Mine: What [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Teflon Tyranny: The hidden cost of self-defense</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/should-i-say-it/teflon-tyranny/</link>
		<comments>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/should-i-say-it/teflon-tyranny/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Fri, 19 Sep 2008 01:27:49 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Should I get over it?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I hold onto my dream or face reality?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I say it?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Decision making]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[diplomacy]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[feedback]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[megalomania]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[politeness]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[psychopath]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[receptivity]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Romance]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[self-certainty]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[sociopath]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[teflon]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[tyrany]]></category>

		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/?p=1072</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[Studying politics and history, one character keeps popping up and making trouble. Here are his essential characteristics: 1. He believes he knows what everyone should do. 2. He believes it is his mission to get everyone to do it. 3. He is 100% confident in this belief and mission. 4. He is also 100% confident [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Lying: In politics as in everyday life, it&#8217;s not whether but when</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/should-i-say-it/lying/</link>
		<comments>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/should-i-say-it/lying/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Fri, 19 Sep 2008 01:13:59 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Should I fight on?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I hold onto my dream or face reality?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I say it?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[deception]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Decision making]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[diplomacy]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[intimacy]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[kindness]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[lying]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[niceness]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Politics]]></category>

		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/?p=1065</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[By Jeremy Sherman, Ph.D. You may have offended your friend; you&#8217;re not sure. You feel like apologizing. But if the insult didn&#8217;t even register, then you&#8217;ll open the very can of worms you&#8217;re trying to close. Still, if your friend is offended and fuming, you&#8217;d really better fix it. Should you say something? Another friend [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Plato: Why Democrats and Republicans drive each other crazy</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-do-better/is-there-something-to-learn-here/plato/</link>
		<comments>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-do-better/is-there-something-to-learn-here/plato/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Fri, 19 Sep 2008 01:04:26 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Should I fight on?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I get over it?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I hold onto my dream or face reality?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[decided]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[deciding]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Decision making]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Plato]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[platonism]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Politics]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[question]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[republicans]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Socrates]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[sophists]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[tyrants]]></category>

		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/?p=1060</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[All philosophy is &#8220;footnotes to Plato,&#8221; or so said philosopher Alfred North Whitehead. He was exaggerating, but I will say this. All human life (including this year&#8217;s elections) plays out Plato&#8217;s most famous story, but with two divergent endings. You have probably heard about Plato&#8217;s cave. Even if you haven&#8217;t, if you&#8217;ve seen The Matrix, [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Teamwork: We&#8217;re in charge, whatever that means</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/communication/teamwork/</link>
		<comments>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/communication/teamwork/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Fri, 19 Sep 2008 00:34:30 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[How can I communicate this to her?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I fight on?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I say it?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[What should I do about this business problem?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[boards]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[bosses]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[committees]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Decision making]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Hierarchy]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[process]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[teamwork]]></category>

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		<title>Chickenhawk: How did fear come to signify bravery?</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/should-i-doubt-myself/should-i-fight-on/chickenhawk/</link>
		<comments>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/should-i-doubt-myself/should-i-fight-on/chickenhawk/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Wed, 10 Sep 2008 01:14:15 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Should I fight on?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[bravery]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[confidence]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[connotations]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Decision making]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[denotations]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[fear]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[one-sided]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Politics]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[republicans]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Rhetoric]]></category>

		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/?p=1036</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[Neo-conservatives and militant Islamic fundamentalists both claim to be braver than the rest of us because they see a clear and present danger that we don&#8217;t. Both movements fear that liberalism and tolerance are powerful corruptive forces that are about to take over the world. They have that much in common. They differ on their [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Preacher practices: Four iffy ways to square lofty standards with lowly behaviors.</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/should-i-doubt-myself/should-i-hold-onto-my-dream-or-face-reality/preacher-practices/</link>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 01 Sep 2008 16:50:54 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Should I give in?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I hold onto my dream or face reality?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[coherence]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Decision making]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[double-standard]]></category>
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		<description><![CDATA[I&#8217;ve been writing a lot lately about the trouble with commitments to being nice or caring (Virtue Verbiage; Conventional Wisdom) and have gotten interesting feedback on these columns. A few said these were especially useful. One particularly liked that I said people should be nice, which wasn&#8217;t my point. Several doubted my claim that people [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Right and Wrong: Where do you draw the starting line?</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-do-better/is-there-something-to-learn-here/right-and-wrong/</link>
		<comments>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-do-better/is-there-something-to-learn-here/right-and-wrong/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Tue, 26 Aug 2008 17:21:43 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Is this worth wondering about?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I get over it?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[bad]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Decision making]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Emergence]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Evolution]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[good]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[normativity]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[origins of life]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[pragmatism]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[right]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[wrong]]></category>

		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/?p=997</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[How old is the difference between right and wrong? Some think it dates back to the origins of the universe. Some believe that God, the prime mover, knew right from wrong and designed everything to play out the appropriate balance between the two. Others think right and wrong are as old as God but not [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Virtue Verbiage: Thou shalt always throw</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/communication/virtue-verbiage/</link>
		<comments>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/communication/virtue-verbiage/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Tue, 26 Aug 2008 17:10:04 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[How can I communicate this to her?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Is this worth wondering about?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I give in?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[bad]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Decision making]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[ethics]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[good]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Learning]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[moral absolutes]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[morality]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Paradoxes]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Politics]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Rhetoric]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[right and wrong]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[two-sided]]></category>

		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/?p=994</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[Yesterday I found myself at a business consultant&#8217;s birthday party where I met a warm fellow who was eager to tell me about a book he has just written about caring. Like all consultants, he was able to describe how dysfunctional large organizations can be and quick also to identify the one thing that would [...]]]></description>
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		<title>NPC&#8217;s: Non-player characters, God and lifeline theology</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/is-this-a-sign/is-this-worth-wondering-about/npcs/</link>
		<comments>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/is-this-a-sign/is-this-worth-wondering-about/npcs/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Wed, 16 Jul 2008 02:50:32 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Is this worth wondering about?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Causality]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[computer games]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Decision making]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[determinism]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[free will]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[god]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Religion]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[zombies]]></category>

		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/?p=979</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[The God many people imagine is omniscient. He knows everything. It&#8217;s handy to have a relationship with someone who knows everything. If you can contact him it&#8217;s like getting a lifeline on the game show &#8220;Who Wants to Be a Millionaire.&#8221; Whenever you&#8217;re unsure what to do in any particular situation you can ask God, [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Philosophizing: Hard because it&#8217;s easy</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-do-better/is-there-something-to-learn-here/philosophizing/</link>
		<comments>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-do-better/is-there-something-to-learn-here/philosophizing/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Wed, 16 Jul 2008 02:31:19 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Should I get over it?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[big questions]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[cosmology]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Decision making]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[falsifiability]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Learning]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[methodology]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Paradoxes]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Philosophy]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[practicality]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[psychology]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Rhetoric]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[theory]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[unprovability]]></category>

		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/?p=978</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[By Jeremy Sherman, Ph.D. A man boasts about his successful marriage. &#8220;What&#8217;s your secret?&#8221; a friend asks. &#8220;Simple division of labor,&#8221; the husband says. &#8220;I make all the big decisions; my wife makes all the small ones.&#8221; &#8220;I don&#8217;t understand,&#8221; says his friend. &#8220;For instance?&#8221; &#8220;For instance, my wife decides where I work, where we [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Fallibilism: Every belief is a bet but some bets are better than others</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/communication/fallibilism/</link>
		<comments>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/communication/fallibilism/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Wed, 16 Jul 2008 02:12:09 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[How can I communicate this to her?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Is this worth wondering about?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I fight on?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I get over it?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I hold onto my dream or face reality?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[bible]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[confidence levels]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Decision making]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[epistemology]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Evolution]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[fallibalism]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[fundamentalism]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[god]]></category>
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		<category><![CDATA[Religion]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Rhetoric]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[salvataion]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[self-certainty]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[self-doubt]]></category>

		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/?p=977</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[The other day I had a very interesting conversation with a truly engaged and engaging Christian. We were talking about the Bible. He&#8217;s a literalist. He believes that the Bible&#8217;s meaning is clear and certain, and that it&#8217;s only when other people engage in an act he calls &#8220;interpreting&#8221; that things get muddled. I asked [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Means and Ends: Opening a can (and can&#8217;t) of worms.</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/what-should-i-do/means-and-ends/</link>
		<comments>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/what-should-i-do/means-and-ends/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Mon, 07 Jul 2008 18:06:01 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[What should I do?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Accept vs. Aspire]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Causality]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[cause]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Decision making]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[demand]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[ends]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[explanations]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[means]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[necessities]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Paradoxes]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Philosophy]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[reasons]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Rhetoric]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[supply]]></category>

		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/?p=974</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[Q: Why do dogs lick their genitals? A: Because they can. As with all jokes, this one is a bait and switch. We were expecting a motive and got a de-constraint instead. The question led us to think about the dog&#8217;s ends (no pun intended), and instead we&#8217;re shunted to consideration of the dog&#8217;s means. [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Meta-cons: Righteous indignation as a con about conning</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/should-i-doubt-myself/should-i-fight-on/meta-cons/</link>
		<comments>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/should-i-doubt-myself/should-i-fight-on/meta-cons/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Thu, 26 Jun 2008 22:39:22 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Should I fight on?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I give in?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Am I missing the forest for trees?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Decision making]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[fights]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[guns germs steel]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Hierarchy]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[jared diamond]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[mendicants]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[metacons]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[righteous indignation]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[tribal war]]></category>

		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/?p=971</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[A couple of weeks ago Jared Diamond, of Guns, Germs and Steel fame, had an article in the New Yorker describing tribal warfare in the New Guinea Highlands. Diamond takes us through a typical feud that started over accusations by one tribe that another tribe&#8217;s pig had messed up their garden. He follows Daniel, a [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Seven Wonderings of the Modern World: The human tough judgment calls</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/communication/seven-wonderings-of-the-modern-world/</link>
		<comments>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/communication/seven-wonderings-of-the-modern-world/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Tue, 10 Jun 2008 17:07:47 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[How can I communicate this to her?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Is this worth wondering about?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I commit?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I fight on?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I get over it?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I give in?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I hold onto my dream or face reality?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I sacrifice?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I say it?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I stay?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[acids]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Am I missing the forest for trees?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[decided]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[deciding]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Decision making]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Faith vs. reason]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[gratification]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[human nature]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[long-term]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[myopium]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Paradoxes]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Philosophy]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[short-term]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Tough choices]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Tough judgment calls]]></category>

		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/?p=970</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[I&#8217;ve been doing Mind Readers Dictionary steadily for close to five years&#8211;one article, one idea per week. Only now am I getting around the stuff that started it all for me, the universal tough judgment calls at the heart of all the uncertainty we feel in any and every area of life. Last week I [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Seven Wonderings of the Ancient World: Life&#8217;s universal tough judgment calls</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/should-i-commit/seven-wonderings-of-the-ancient-world/</link>
		<comments>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/should-i-commit/seven-wonderings-of-the-ancient-world/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Tue, 03 Jun 2008 17:37:24 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Should I commit?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I fight on?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I sacrifice?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I stay?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[alpha errors]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[ancient world]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[beta errors]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[croakers]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Decision making]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[doubting]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Evolution]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[facultative sexuality]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Faith vs. reason]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[false negatives]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[false positives]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[frogs]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[indecision]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[questions evolution answers]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[slime]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Tough choices]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Tough judgment calls]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[uncertainty]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[wonderings of the world]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[wonders of the world]]></category>

		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/?p=969</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[&#8220;If everybody minded their own business,&#8221; the Duchess said in a hoarse growl, &#8220;the world would go round a deal faster than it does.&#8221; Lewis Carroll, Alice in Wonderland* Minding one&#8217;s own business commonly means not minding other people&#8217;s business, but its literal meaning is still implied&#8211;don&#8217;t mind others&#8217; business because you have business of [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Granularity: Think as big as possible but no bigger</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/communication/granularity-think-as-big-as-possible-but-no-bigger/</link>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 28 May 2008 21:23:47 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[How can I communicate this to her?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Am I missing the forest for trees?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Decision making]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Einstein]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[granularity]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[guidance]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Hierarchy]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Insanity]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[macro]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[micro]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[mission]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Paradoxes]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Philosophy]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[scale]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[scope]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Serenity prayer]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[size]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[tactics]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[tasks]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Tough choices]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[zoom]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[zoom lens]]></category>

		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/?p=968</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[I&#8217;ve argued before that there are three types of guidance or wisdom. The first and simplest is the &#8220;always do X&#8221; type. For example, always think positive thoughts, always follow your father&#8217;s advice, or always do what the Bible says. The second is the &#8220;a time for X; a time for Y&#8221; type, the wise [...]]]></description>
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		<title>ACIDs (Ambiguous Cues; Incompatible Dos): What eats at us when something does</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/should-i-commit/acids/</link>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 21 May 2008 22:41:03 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Is this worth wondering about?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I commit?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I fight on?]]></category>
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		<category><![CDATA[Should I hold onto my dream or face reality?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I sacrifice?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I say it?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I stay?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Am I missing the forest for trees?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Decision making]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[dilemmas]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[forks in the road]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[horns of dilemma]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[raising difficult children]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Tough choices]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Universal tough judgment calls]]></category>

		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/?p=967</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[Last week I argued that we need names for the generic tough judgment calls we all deal with. I gave a few examples: Should I be receptive or assertive? Should I manipulate or be honest? I argued that we pretend we can live by one-sided principles &#8211; assert your rights, accept things as they are, [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Generic Tough Judgment Calls:  Why don&#8217;t we have names for them?</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/communication/generic-tough-judgment-calls/</link>
		<comments>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/communication/generic-tough-judgment-calls/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Fri, 09 May 2008 14:59:43 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[How can I communicate this to her?]]></category>
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		<category><![CDATA[Should I commit?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I fight on?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I get over it?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I give in?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I hold onto my dream or face reality?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I sacrifice?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I say it?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I stay?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[acids]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Am I missing the forest for trees?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[close calls]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[coinings]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Decision making]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[language]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[neologism]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Paradoxes]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[psychology]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Tough choices]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Tough judgment calls]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[uncertainty]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Universal tough judgment calls]]></category>

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		<description><![CDATA[Recently, I was listening to an NPR report on Jimmy Carter&#8217;s meeting with leaders of the Palestinian militant Hamas party. The reporter had two experts on to debate the merits of Carter&#8217;s action. One argued that Carter sent the wrong message. Diplomatic engagement only encourages Hamas leaders to stand irrationally firm. The other said Carter [...]]]></description>
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