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		<title>Virtue Verbiage: Thou shalt always throw</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 26 Aug 2008 17:10:04 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<category><![CDATA[Is this worth wondering about?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I give in?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[bad]]></category>
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		<category><![CDATA[ethics]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[good]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Learning]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[moral absolutes]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[morality]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Paradoxes]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Politics]]></category>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/?p=994</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[Yesterday I found myself at a business consultant&#8217;s birthday party where I met a warm fellow who was eager to tell me about a book he has just written about caring. Like all consultants, he was able to describe how dysfunctional large organizations can be and quick also to identify the one thing that would [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Philosophizing: Hard because it&#8217;s easy</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-do-better/is-there-something-to-learn-here/philosophizing/</link>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 16 Jul 2008 02:31:19 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Should I get over it?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[big questions]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[cosmology]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Decision making]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[falsifiability]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Learning]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[methodology]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Paradoxes]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Philosophy]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[practicality]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[psychology]]></category>
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		<category><![CDATA[theory]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[unprovability]]></category>

		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/?p=978</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[By Jeremy Sherman, Ph.D. A man boasts about his successful marriage. &#8220;What&#8217;s your secret?&#8221; a friend asks. &#8220;Simple division of labor,&#8221; the husband says. &#8220;I make all the big decisions; my wife makes all the small ones.&#8221; &#8220;I don&#8217;t understand,&#8221; says his friend. &#8220;For instance?&#8221; &#8220;For instance, my wife decides where I work, where we [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Means and Ends: Opening a can (and can&#8217;t) of worms.</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/what-should-i-do/means-and-ends/</link>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 07 Jul 2008 18:06:01 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[What should I do?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Accept vs. Aspire]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Causality]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[cause]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Decision making]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[demand]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[ends]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[explanations]]></category>
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		<category><![CDATA[necessities]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Paradoxes]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Philosophy]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[reasons]]></category>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/?p=974</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[Q: Why do dogs lick their genitals? A: Because they can. As with all jokes, this one is a bait and switch. We were expecting a motive and got a de-constraint instead. The question led us to think about the dog&#8217;s ends (no pun intended), and instead we&#8217;re shunted to consideration of the dog&#8217;s means. [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Seven Wonderings of the Modern World: The human tough judgment calls</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/communication/seven-wonderings-of-the-modern-world/</link>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 10 Jun 2008 17:07:47 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<category><![CDATA[deciding]]></category>
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		<category><![CDATA[Faith vs. reason]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[gratification]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[human nature]]></category>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/?p=970</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[I&#8217;ve been doing Mind Readers Dictionary steadily for close to five years&#8211;one article, one idea per week. Only now am I getting around the stuff that started it all for me, the universal tough judgment calls at the heart of all the uncertainty we feel in any and every area of life. Last week I [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Granularity: Think as big as possible but no bigger</title>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 28 May 2008 21:23:47 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<category><![CDATA[Am I missing the forest for trees?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Decision making]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Einstein]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[granularity]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[guidance]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Hierarchy]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Insanity]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[macro]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[micro]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[mission]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Paradoxes]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Philosophy]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[scale]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[scope]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Serenity prayer]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[size]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[tactics]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[tasks]]></category>
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		<category><![CDATA[zoom]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[zoom lens]]></category>

		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/?p=968</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[I&#8217;ve argued before that there are three types of guidance or wisdom. The first and simplest is the &#8220;always do X&#8221; type. For example, always think positive thoughts, always follow your father&#8217;s advice, or always do what the Bible says. The second is the &#8220;a time for X; a time for Y&#8221; type, the wise [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Generic Tough Judgment Calls:  Why don&#8217;t we have names for them?</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/communication/generic-tough-judgment-calls/</link>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 09 May 2008 14:59:43 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[How can I communicate this to her?]]></category>
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		<category><![CDATA[Should I fight on?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I get over it?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I give in?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I hold onto my dream or face reality?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I sacrifice?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I say it?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I stay?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[acids]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Am I missing the forest for trees?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[close calls]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[coinings]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Decision making]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[language]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[neologism]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Paradoxes]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[psychology]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Tough choices]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Tough judgment calls]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[uncertainty]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Universal tough judgment calls]]></category>

		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/?p=966</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[Recently, I was listening to an NPR report on Jimmy Carter&#8217;s meeting with leaders of the Palestinian militant Hamas party. The reporter had two experts on to debate the merits of Carter&#8217;s action. One argued that Carter sent the wrong message. Diplomatic engagement only encourages Hamas leaders to stand irrationally firm. The other said Carter [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Deduction: The dream and nightmare of absolute certainty him in a</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/communication/deduction/</link>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 12 Feb 2008 17:07:39 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<category><![CDATA[What to do about finances?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Which move helps my career?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[abduction]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Am I missing the forest for trees?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[ambiguity tolerance]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Can I get resolution on this?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Causality]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Certainty]]></category>
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		<category><![CDATA[deduction]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[destiny]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Environment]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Evolution]]></category>
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		<category><![CDATA[trial and error]]></category>

		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/?p=950</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[Last week I began comparing and contrasting computers and minds, examining both human intuitions and appetites regarding the prospect that our minds are governed by the same kind of direct one-to-one-correspondence kind of cause-and-effect we see in the physical world (Aristotle&#8217;s efficient cause). If minds are really like computers, just translating information from one form [...]]]></description>
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		<title>The Golden Paradox: If we always sacrificed for each other, no one would ever have to make sacrifices</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/business/the-golden-paradox/</link>
		<comments>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/business/the-golden-paradox/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Tue, 25 Dec 2007 19:27:09 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<category><![CDATA[Should I give in?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I hold onto my dream or face reality?]]></category>
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		<category><![CDATA[What should I do about this business problem?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[What should we do about this family issue?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Which move helps my career?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[accommodation]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[charity]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Decision making]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Environment]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Evolution]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[give and take]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Golden rule]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Hierarchy]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[kindness]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Learning]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[moral dilemma]]></category>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/?p=944</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[You know me. I&#8217;ve got hardly any moral principles; I&#8217;m all about moral dilemmas. I made the case a while ago (see Liar&#8217;s Paradox Moral Litmus Test) that if you can come up with a Liar&#8217;s Paradox-like statement regarding some moral principle, then it really isn&#8217;t a moral principle. Instead, it&#8217;s a moral dilemma. In [...]]]></description>
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		<title>The Other Golden Rule:  Do unto yourself as you do unto others</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/communication/the-other-golden-rule/</link>
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		<pubDate>Sun, 16 Dec 2007 02:24:46 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/?p=943</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[The Golden Rule-do unto others as you would have them do unto you, is about as basic as morality gets. It&#8217;s the bridge between empathy and sympathy, between putting yourself in someone else&#8217;s shoes and making some accommodation to them as a result. Putting oneself in someone else&#8217;s shoes is, of course, a figure of [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Yearnocracies: Negotiating the slippery slope between hope and hoax</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/friends/yearnocracies/</link>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 23 Oct 2007 03:34:51 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<category><![CDATA[demand]]></category>
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		<category><![CDATA[law of attraction]]></category>
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		<category><![CDATA[wishful thinking]]></category>

		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/?p=934</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[Real estate has buyer&#8217;s and seller&#8217;s markets&#8211;and other industries have them as well. Information industries have a particular kind of seller&#8217;s market in which demand is high for information that is not reliably available. Cancer treatment, money management, leadership training, alternative medicine, psychotherapy, get-rich-quick training courses, spiritual guidance, diet programs&#8211;these are just some of the [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Exploratory Commitment: The try/buy dichotomy</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/career/exploratory-commitment/</link>
		<comments>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/career/exploratory-commitment/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Tue, 23 Oct 2007 01:50:52 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[How should I negotiate this?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I commit?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I fight on?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I sacrifice?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I stay?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Which move helps my career?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[buy]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Causality]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Decision making]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Environment]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Evolution]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[feedback]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Goethe]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[investment]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Paradoxes]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Philosophy]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Politics]]></category>
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		<category><![CDATA[Romance]]></category>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/?p=932</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[Last week I discussed the relationship between the questions &#8220;How can I succeed?&#8221; and &#8220;Can I succeed?&#8221; The two questions form a loop. In one direction, ambition inspires you to ask, &#8220;Can I succeed?&#8221; To answer that question, you ask, &#8220;Well, how can I succeed?&#8221; Then you explore particular plans to do so. If you [...]]]></description>
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		<title>No, Really: Deeper meaning in conversational packing peanuts</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-trust-them/negotiation/no-really/</link>
		<comments>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-trust-them/negotiation/no-really/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Mon, 15 Oct 2007 03:12:45 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Can I trust them?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[How should I negotiate this?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Is there a win/win solution?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Is this a sign?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Is this worth wondering about?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Buddhism]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Decision making]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Hierarchy]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[irony]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[levels]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[liar's paradox]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[paradox]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Paradoxes]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Philosophy]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Rhetoric]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[self-contradiction]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[self-maintenance]]></category>

		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/?p=929</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[There’s an old Greek story about a law teacher who guaranteed to refund a student’s tuition if he didn’t win his first case. After graduating, one student refused to pay. So the teacher sued him. The student didn’t mind, though. If he lost this, his first case, he wouldn’t have to pay his tuition. If [...]]]></description>
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		<title>The Second Fundamental: Stalemates and infinite loops in a human-persuade-human world.</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/communication/the-second-fundamental/</link>
		<comments>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/communication/the-second-fundamental/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Thu, 27 Sep 2007 14:40:44 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Can I trust them?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[How can I communicate this to her?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[How should I handle it with my friend?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[How should I handle this conflict?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[How should I negotiate this?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Is there a win/win solution?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Is this worth wondering about?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I be thinking about the bigger picture?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I fight on?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I get over it?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I give in?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I hold onto my dream or face reality?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I say it?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[What should I do about this business problem?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[What should we do about this family issue?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Am I missing the forest for trees?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Causality]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Decision making]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Emergence]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[extended phenotype]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[give and take]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Hierarchy]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[hypersensitive]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[influence]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Learning]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[levels]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[nagging]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Paradoxes]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Philosophy]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Politics]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[pushy]]></category>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/?p=927</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[“You can’t change other people. All you can do is change your attitude.” People say this sort of thing when they’ve decided to stop trying to change someone. Maybe generalizing like this helps convince them to let go, but of course it’s not true. Influence happens. Influence is as old as ecosystems. We are extensions [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Minutia and Highfalutia: Evasion by scrambling to a safer level of analysis</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/should-i-say-it/minutia-and-highfalutia/</link>
		<comments>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/should-i-say-it/minutia-and-highfalutia/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Thu, 06 Sep 2007 12:03:34 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Can I trust them?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Is there a win/win solution?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Is this worth wondering about?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I be thinking about the bigger picture?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I get over it?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I give in?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I hold onto my dream or face reality?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I say it?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Am I missing the forest for trees?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Decision making]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[defensive]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[evasion]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Hierarchy]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[levels]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[liar's paradox]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[logical types]]></category>
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		<category><![CDATA[Romance]]></category>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/blog/?p=680</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[You see a friend lost in the details of what looks to you like a fundamentally bad plan. You want to help your friend. You ask a leading question or two: “Do you sometimes wonder if your plan makes sense?” or “How do you feel it’s going lately, I mean overall?” Your friend generally welcomes [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Sorrytaliatory Cycle: &#8220;I owe you an apology or a scolding, I can&#8217;t tell which.&#8221;</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/communication/sorrytaliatory-cycle/</link>
		<comments>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/communication/sorrytaliatory-cycle/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Wed, 22 Aug 2007 21:51:23 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Can I trust them?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[How can I communicate this to her?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[How should I handle it with my friend?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[How should I handle this conflict?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Is there a win/win solution?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Is this worth wondering about?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I fight on?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I give in?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I sacrifice?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I say it?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I stay?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[anger]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Causality]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Decision making]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[fear]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[guilt]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Hierarchy]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Paradoxes]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[pride]]></category>
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		<category><![CDATA[Romance]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[shame]]></category>

		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/blog/?p=602</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[Sorrytaliatory Cycle: My mistake—no, yours—no, mine—no . . . “Excuse me, my unfocused words. I was flying blind. If you can find it in your heart . . . if you’ve got one. . .” “Shame,” by Randy Newman from the album “Bad Love” Decision theory recognizes that any yes/no question entails the prospect of [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Down &amp; Out, Up &amp; Out, Out &amp; Out: Reading between the lines on &#8220;Fine&#8221;</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/communication/down-out-up-out-out-out/</link>
		<comments>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/communication/down-out-up-out-out-out/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Wed, 13 Jun 2007 11:21:44 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[How can I communicate this to her?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[How should I handle it with my friend?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[How should I handle this conflict?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[How should I negotiate this?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I be thinking about the bigger picture?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I fight on?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I get over it?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I give in?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I hold onto my dream or face reality?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I say it?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I stay?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[What should I do about this business problem?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[What should we do about this family issue?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Am I expecting too much?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Am I missing the forest for trees?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[analysis]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Decision making]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[dominance]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[going meta]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Hierarchy]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Learning]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[levels]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[logical types]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[meta]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Paradoxes]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Politics]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Religion]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Romance]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[subordination]]></category>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/blog/?p=29</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[“Fine.” A single syllable, so rich in possible meanings&#8211;does it mean fine as in “You’re right,” as in “You’re wrong,” as in “I fold,” or some complex blend of the three? Conflict within a relationship often leads to reflection about the relationship. Saying “fine,” we step out of the conflict for a little perspective. Psychologically [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Going Uncertain: Casting doubt on inconvenient possibilties.</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/finances/going-uncertain/</link>
		<comments>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/finances/going-uncertain/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Wed, 30 May 2007 20:30:55 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Can I trust them?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[How should I handle this conflict?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Is this worth wondering about?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I be thinking about the bigger picture?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I fight on?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I get over it?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I give in?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I sacrifice?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I stay?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[What to do about finances?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Am I missing the forest for trees?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Am I sliding?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Causality]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Certainty]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[confidence levels]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Decision making]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[deflection]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[denial]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Environment]]></category>
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		<category><![CDATA[Learning]]></category>
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		<category><![CDATA[Rhetoric]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Romance]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[self-deception]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[spin]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[wishful thinking]]></category>

		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/blog/?p=52</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[&#8220;Yeah, but relax, you don&#8217;t know that for sure.&#8221; For the most part, people hate uncertainty. It&#8217;s mentally taxing. It distracts us from our focused pursuits. It reduces our confidence. It vaporizes our mojo. Still, we do welcome one kind of uncertainty&#8211;uncertainty that frees us from a larger uncertainty. If current projections about global warming [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Liar&#8217;s Paradox Moral Litmus Test: If you contradict yourself you can&#8217;t both be right</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/is-this-worth-fighting-for/conflict/liars-paradox-moral-litmus-test/</link>
		<comments>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/is-this-worth-fighting-for/conflict/liars-paradox-moral-litmus-test/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Wed, 23 May 2007 19:22:39 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[How should I handle this conflict?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Is there a win/win solution?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I be thinking about the bigger picture?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I get over it?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Am I missing the forest for trees?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[care]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Causality]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[commitment]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Decision making]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Emergence]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Evolution]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[flexibility]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Hierarchy]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[liar's paradox]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[moral absolutes]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[moral dilemmas]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[moral principles]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Paradoxes]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Philosophy]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Politics]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Religion]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Rhetoric]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[self-cnotradiction]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[self-negation]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[self-reference]]></category>

		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/blog/?p=65</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[Some people, when admonished to comply with moral absolutes&#8211;to always be honest, generous, tolerant, or the like&#8211;nod their heads at the sage advice. Me, I no longer see moral absolutes; I only see moral dilemmas. I think of honesty, generosity, tolerance, and other seemingly monolithic virtues as questions, not answers. As of this week I [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Sweating the petty vs. Petting the sweaty: Two ways to play the game of life</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/should-i-doubt-myself/should-i-hold-onto-my-dream-or-face-reality/sweating-the-petty-vs-petting-the-sweaty/</link>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 02 May 2007 20:46:35 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Should I be thinking about the bigger picture?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I hold onto my dream or face reality?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I wait?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Am I expecting too much?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Am I missing the forest for trees?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Am I sliding?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Aristotle]]></category>
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		<category><![CDATA[Decision making]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[dream]]></category>
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		<category><![CDATA[ideal]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[ideals]]></category>
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		<category><![CDATA[perfection]]></category>
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		<category><![CDATA[reality check]]></category>
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		<category><![CDATA[What's the spiritual thing to do?]]></category>

		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/blog/?p=156</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[&#8220;Life is a game.&#8221; People interpret the parallel between life and games in two ways. The most common implies that like a game, life is no big deal, so you should just relax. This notion can be a comfort when you&#8217;re feeling stressed&#8211;stressed, in fact by the other way to take the statement: that in [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Coherence: Making our ideas consistent with each other</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/communication/coherence/</link>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 11 Apr 2007 17:50:37 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[How can I communicate this to her?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[How should I handle this conflict?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[How should I negotiate this?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Is this worth wondering about?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I be thinking about the bigger picture?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I give in?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I sacrifice?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I say it?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I stay?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[What's the moral thing to do here?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Am I missing the forest for trees?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Am I sliding?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Causality]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[coherence]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[correspondence]]></category>
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		<category><![CDATA[double standards]]></category>
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		<description><![CDATA[&#8220;You’re wrong; it&#8217;s not the same thing at all.&#8221; You press a friend on an inconsistency, some double standard that has him talking out of both sides of his mouth. He denies it and you&#8217;re left to wonder who&#8217;s right, him or you? Well of course it depends. Maybe he is being consistent and his [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Co-Satisficing: Squeaky wheels and vicious cycles</title>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 04 Apr 2007 01:57:39 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[&#8220;Darling, you&#8217;re absolutely right. I haven&#8217;t been paying you much attention, but from now on things are going to be different.&#8221;. &#8220;On&#8221; is the iffy word here. We’re generally not wise enough that a word to the wise, wises us up forever more. As long as the pressure is high, we respond. When the pressure [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Multi-Level-Headed: The ins and outs of humor</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/communication/multi-level-headed/</link>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 29 Mar 2007 02:31:22 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Last week I wrote about insider and outsider status within popular songs. I ended by extending that theme into humor. There is a lot of humor in which we watch to see whether the insider or the outsider prevails in status. Who’s in first place? Who’s in second? In picaresque humor like Beverly Hills Cop [...]]]></description>
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		<title>MOGIBO (Me Outside. Good Inside. Bad Outside): Personal popularity in popular culture</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/communication/mogibo/</link>
		<comments>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/communication/mogibo/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Wed, 21 Mar 2007 16:56:09 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Can I trust them?]]></category>
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		<description><![CDATA[MOGIBO is the sentiment expressed in many popular tunes, old and new: I’ve lost at love. I’m out of the loop and it’s sad. I can’t win in the mainstream. The world has left me behind. MOGIBO is one of just a few basic relationships possible between the in-crowd, the out-crowd, good and bad, and [...]]]></description>
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		<title>R.O.S.C.O. (Right On Schedule, Chill Out): Global warming as inevitable</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/communication/rosco-right-on-schedule-chill-out/</link>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 15 Mar 2007 02:18:39 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<category><![CDATA[What should we do about this family issue?]]></category>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/blog/?p=106</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[I burnt my feet very badly once, spilling ignited gasoline on them by mistake. I went up in flames. For a while I felt no pain. I got to experience the way the body sets upper limits on excruciation in the short term. I take comfort from knowing that some sudden physical shocks don’t feel [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Chiasmic Questions: How do you jump-start virtuous cycles?</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-trust-them/negotiation/chiasmic-questions/</link>
		<comments>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-trust-them/negotiation/chiasmic-questions/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Thu, 01 Mar 2007 01:36:24 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<category><![CDATA[Am I missing the forest for trees?]]></category>
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		<description><![CDATA[I love teaching at a small college because it forces me to be a generalist. I teach history, psychology, philosophy, economics, marketing, writing, and literature. As a result I work primarily with the patterns that connect various disciplines. Here’s one that keeps popping up. It’s a chiasmic* question&#8211;a question that addresses two alternatives, each an [...]]]></description>
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