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		<title>Teamwork: We&#8217;re in charge, whatever that means</title>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 19 Sep 2008 00:34:30 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<title>Conventional wisdom: In times like these we need more of what specifically?</title>
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		<pubDate>Sun, 04 May 2008 15:20:49 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[I didn&#8217;t choose to do all this philosophizing the way one chooses a career. I got into it by necessity. What I had to go on before was inadequate. I had hit a midlife crisis armed with state-of-the-art wisdom from self-help and Buddhism . . . and it just wasn&#8217;t up to the task. That [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Brain Velcro: Why good things happen to bad ideas</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 08 Apr 2008 19:27:55 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Most people even mildly interested in evolution have heard about the &#8220;selfish gene.&#8221; The concept is simple yet with counterintuitive implications. Richard Dawkins, who coined the term, argues that the best way to understand evolution is to imagine that genes selfishly want to preserve themselves, and so produce elaborate replicator vehicles (us) designed to help [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Prevenge: &#8220;I&#8217;m like rubber; you&#8217;re like screwed.&#8221;</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/communication/prevenge-im-like-rubber-youre-like-screwed/</link>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 27 Mar 2008 14:51:31 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Have you ever blackmailed someone? I attempted to blackmail a policeman the other evening. I was driving somewhere in my usual hurry. After I rolled through a stop sign, he trailed me and gave me a ticket. I acted put out, sullen, unfriendly. He remained cheerful. After he gave me the ticket, he said, &#8220;Drive [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Butterfly punch: Shaming your opponent into putting on kid gloves before you knock him out.</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/communication/butterfly-punch/</link>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 12 Feb 2008 17:17:02 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/?p=953</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[Think back to a time when you fought really hard for something. Back then, how sure were you that you were right? How sure are you now that you were?If you&#8217;re like me, you pick your battles, and sometimes you pick wrong. You also intuitively track how often you changed your mind later about your [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Guesswork: Enough is enough, but how much is enough?</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 12 Feb 2008 17:10:39 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/?p=951</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[Three weeks ago I recounted a lot of tough problems raised over the ages about how cause and effect really work. One of the toughest was that if cause and effect works like we normally think it does-thing A bumps into thing B and moves it in a precisely predictable direction, then the whole universe [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Deduction: The dream and nightmare of absolute certainty him in a</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 12 Feb 2008 17:07:39 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/?p=950</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[Last week I began comparing and contrasting computers and minds, examining both human intuitions and appetites regarding the prospect that our minds are governed by the same kind of direct one-to-one-correspondence kind of cause-and-effect we see in the physical world (Aristotle&#8217;s efficient cause). If minds are really like computers, just translating information from one form [...]]]></description>
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		<title>The Free Willies: Are computers like humans? Are humans like computers?</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/communication/the-free-willies-are-computers-like-humans-are-humans-like-computers/</link>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 12 Feb 2008 17:03:30 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/?p=949</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[The World Wide Web, it&#8217;s like a giant human mind the way it processes billions of pieces of information. Someday it will become so smart it takes over the world. It will be able to think instead of us. Or so some cognitive scientists say. Your new computer too, it thinks so fast. The better [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Transceiver Bias: Writing and reading are not the same thing</title>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 03 Jan 2008 03:35:07 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Transceivers transmit and receive, and we do too. &#8220;Transceiver bias&#8221; is my name for self-image distortions that arise from receiving information about how we&#8217;re doing while we&#8217;re preoccupied with transmitting information, that is, expressing ourselves. We&#8217;re often surprised by photographs of ourselves. They don&#8217;t look like what we see in the mirror. Part of this [...]]]></description>
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		<title>The Golden Paradox: If we always sacrificed for each other, no one would ever have to make sacrifices</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 25 Dec 2007 19:27:09 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[You know me. I&#8217;ve got hardly any moral principles; I&#8217;m all about moral dilemmas. I made the case a while ago (see Liar&#8217;s Paradox Moral Litmus Test) that if you can come up with a Liar&#8217;s Paradox-like statement regarding some moral principle, then it really isn&#8217;t a moral principle. Instead, it&#8217;s a moral dilemma. In [...]]]></description>
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		<title>The Other Golden Rule:  Do unto yourself as you do unto others</title>
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		<pubDate>Sun, 16 Dec 2007 02:24:46 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/?p=943</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[The Golden Rule-do unto others as you would have them do unto you, is about as basic as morality gets. It&#8217;s the bridge between empathy and sympathy, between putting yourself in someone else&#8217;s shoes and making some accommodation to them as a result. Putting oneself in someone else&#8217;s shoes is, of course, a figure of [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Passive vs. Active Hope: Is a will a way or a way to a way?</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 23 Oct 2007 01:49:28 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/?p=931</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[Your marriage, business, career, plan to end world hunger isn&#8217;t going so well. Two questions might come to mind: &#8220;How can I succeed?&#8221; and &#8220;Can I succeed?&#8221; The first question focuses you on evaluating specific plans for their probability of success&#8211;hope in this plan or that. But drop that first word and you pop up [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Hope: As an answer or a question</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/communication/hope/</link>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 23 Oct 2007 01:27:31 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/?p=930</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[Success is as dangerous as failure; hope is as hollow as fear. Lao Tzu (translation: Stephen Mitchell) One interpretation of this line from the Tao Te Ching supports a popular piece of advice: You shouldn&#8217;t care about success or failure. Caring only makes you anxious and competitive. If you succeed at not caring, you neither [...]]]></description>
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		<title>The Second Fundamental: Stalemates and infinite loops in a human-persuade-human world.</title>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 27 Sep 2007 14:40:44 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/?p=927</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[“You can’t change other people. All you can do is change your attitude.” People say this sort of thing when they’ve decided to stop trying to change someone. Maybe generalizing like this helps convince them to let go, but of course it’s not true. Influence happens. Influence is as old as ecosystems. We are extensions [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Poser-Proof Practices: Don&#8217;t tell&#8211;show</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/communication/poser-proof-practices/</link>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 16 Aug 2007 13:26:17 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/blog/?p=471</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[You expect people to walk their talk. When they have for a while you gain confidence that they will continue to do so, that they’re as good as their word. With established rapport, the question of whether they keep their word doesn’t even come up. But when you haven’t known someone long or when some [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Aspirational Tense: &#8220;I most definitely am, I hope.&#8221;</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/business/aspirational-tense/</link>
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		<pubDate>Sat, 11 Aug 2007 17:01:50 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/blog/?p=381</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[The relationship between reality and interpretation is always tenuous. Who’s to say what’s real? There is no simple formula to ensure that an interpretation matches reality—and besides, if there were one, we’d be ambivalent about using it. Our impressions bob and weave around our reality. Reality delivers a right uppercut and our impressions slide out [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Spit or Go Blind: Slang with cosmic implications</title>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 26 Jul 2007 00:49:33 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/blog/?p=373</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[“I can’t tell whether to spit or go blind.” I’ve always liked this phrase (alternatively, “shit or go blind”). It’s slang for confusion in the face of options, and etymologists aren’t sure where it comes from. Its appeal, I suspect, is partly onomatopoetic—it sounds confused. Its appeal may also be the precision with which it [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Offanonda Meditation: Learning flexibility in fits and starts</title>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 12 Jul 2007 11:25:58 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Absence does not make the heart grow fonder; it reveals the depth of your heart’s fondness. Lately I realized just how partial I’ve been to my PC, which for reasons no tech support person can yet divine has taken to launching into long reveries in the middle of my work. Out of the blue, the [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Youjustifications: Why are we fighting? Let me not count the ways</title>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 28 Jun 2007 14:54:14 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Youjustifications : I&#8217;m right because you just&#8230; Again, he&#8217;s ready to leave for an event and she&#8217;s not. He asks her how long she&#8217;ll be, honestly, because once he knows, he can adjust, do something to pass the time, manage his impatience with distractions. It&#8217;s just the uncertainty that irritates him. To appease his impatience [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Down &amp; Out, Up &amp; Out, Out &amp; Out: Reading between the lines on &#8220;Fine&#8221;</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/communication/down-out-up-out-out-out/</link>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 13 Jun 2007 11:21:44 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[“Fine.” A single syllable, so rich in possible meanings&#8211;does it mean fine as in “You’re right,” as in “You’re wrong,” as in “I fold,” or some complex blend of the three? Conflict within a relationship often leads to reflection about the relationship. Saying “fine,” we step out of the conflict for a little perspective. Psychologically [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Can&#8217;tibration: What do you mean, you can&#8217;t?</title>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 09 May 2007 16:15:54 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Dinner at an all-you-can-eat restaurant last week reminded me how fundamentally ambiguous the word can is. Its meaning falls between “want to” and “can endure without dying,” just as, conversely, the word need falls somewhere between “want” and “will die without.” Imagine an all-you-can-eat restaurant with a reverse bouncer, a big galoot who won’t let [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Mid-Wife Crisis: It’s the economy, stupid.</title>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 21 Feb 2007 17:26:21 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[I was married by 24 and had my first child at 25. By the standard of my parents’ generation, 24 was normal&#8211;my father married at that age&#8211;but by my generation’s standard (especially within my Northern California subculture), it was peculiar to get married so young. My firstborn child is eight years older than those of [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Feedback and Feedforward: The non-random system behind random acts of kindness</title>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 12 Aug 2005 19:10:56 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[&#8220;I can&#8217;t believe I let him get away with that. What was I thinking? I should have put my foot down.&#8221; Sometimes you reward people and they try harder, but sometimes you reward them and they stop trying. The same is true for punishment — sometimes it motivates, and sometimes it demotivates. Now why is [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Mistat: How the other guy becomes the one who started it</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 29 Jun 2004 02:35:56 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[DEFINITION: Perceiving a first-strike attack against you that didn&#8217;t actually happen. Mistaking a benign gesture for a &#8216;tat,&#8217; requiring a tit-for-tat retaliation. Mistats are the world&#8217;s greatest source of wasteful conflict. The moment of mistat is the instantaneous pivot point that can send an otherwise calm exchange up a viscous cycle of escalating conflict. Escalating, [...]]]></description>
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