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	<title>MINDREADERS DICTIONARY</title>
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		<title>Optimism, pessimism, possumism: What Precious, Avatar, The Hurt Locker, Climate Crisis, and an overflowing toilet have in common</title>
		<description><![CDATA[“It’s a mystery,” said the plumber.  “Your toilet is overflowing.  I have no idea what this could mean.”
“You’ve got something unique here,” said the doctor.  “I can’t imagine what would cause you to have a fever, headache and chills.”
Unless they’re kidding, these aren’t experts in their fields.  Experts know how to [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/what-should-i-do/optimism-pessimism-possumism-what-precious-avitar-the-hurt-locker-climate-crisis-and-an-overflowing-toilet-have-in-common/</link>
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		<title>Mirror Mortals: Why we&#8217;re the bravest species ever and need to be braver still</title>
		<description><![CDATA[A decade ago I asked a successful author friend of mine for advice on writing.  I had tapped into a mother lode of theories that had me bursting with ideas. I never aimed to be a writer, but what else can you do with all of these things to say?  After some desultory [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/what-should-i-do/mirror-mortals/</link>
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		<title>Consciously Unconscious:  How much more rational are we once we know we aren&#8217;t?</title>
		<description><![CDATA[I just got back from the annual Social Psychology meeting in Las Vegas. Are you following this amazing field?  It’s not hard to follow, what with the wealth of marvelously accessible books with monosyllabic titles like Blink, Switch, Nudge, and Sway, not to mention The Hidden Brain, Predictably Irrational, The political brain, On being [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/what-should-i-do/consciously-unconscious-how-much-more-rational-are-we-once-we-know-we-arent/</link>
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		<title>Rebound: Time heals, but a new relationship is quicker</title>
		<description><![CDATA[When an important relationship ends, just grieve. Don’t go looking for a rebound.  You can’t run away from your problems. Only time will heal.
I agree with that common advice whole-halfedly. I think it’s absolutely half-true, and so would like to make the case for the other half.
Life is incredibly short. We don’t have forever to [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/what-should-i-do/rebound/</link>
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		<title>Optimal Illusion: How do you know which lies to believe?</title>
		<description><![CDATA[I came here to exercise but it&#8217;s definitely not working. The gym&#8217;s owner keeps coming over to talk to me about God. He&#8217;s born again. He asked me what I&#8217;m listening to and like a fool I told him it&#8217;s a book about Darwin.
&#8220;Let me ask you this,&#8221; he say. &#8221;If we came from monkeys, why [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/what-should-i-do/optimal-illusion/</link>
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		<title>Strategic Gullibility Pt. 2:  New, truer approach to science, religion reconciliation</title>
		<description><![CDATA[Last week I had started something I’ll continue here and in one more article.  I had argued that we all have the right to believe what get us through the night.  I called that the Right to Believe.  I also argued that, collectively we need to be able to be able to deploy unfettered the [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/what-should-i-do/strategic-gullibility-pt-2/</link>
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		<title>Strategic Gullibility Pt. 1: Real and perceived security through conscious self-deception</title>
		<description><![CDATA[My life is so completely cushy that I can afford to visit distressing thoughts and scenarios.  I can watch a movie like Slumdog Millionaire and feel empathy from my safe vantage point. I can even find the ending a little hokey. I&#8217;m betting that it wouldn&#8217;t be so easy if I were suffering more. [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/what-should-i-do/strategic-gullibility/</link>
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		<title>Affirmationomics:  Following the honey trail to what REEEAALLY motivates us</title>
		<description><![CDATA[&#8220;Every life could be said to be defined by two great love stories. The first &#8212;  the story of our quest for sexual love &#8212; is well known and well charted. Its vagaries form the staple of music and literature; it is socially accepted and celebrated. The second &#8212; the story of our quest [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/what-should-i-do/affirmationomics-2/</link>
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		<title>Bipolar Ambigamy:  On not admitting you&#8217;re sending mixed messages</title>
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Life is sweet; life is dangerous. You have to be positive; you have to be careful. Love makes the world go round; people are scary.
I&#8217;m an ambigamist not just about embracing a partner but every aspect of life. I watch myself and everyone I know wrestle with the tension between open and closed, romance and [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/what-should-i-do/bipolar/</link>
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		<title>Externally self-motivated: A winding tale of love, unemployment, evolution, theology, apples, and oranges</title>
		<description><![CDATA[The podcast is back. Click the buttons above to have this article read or sped-read to you.
My writing drives some people crazy because I make big jumps from one topic to another. One minute I&#8217;m talking romance, the next I&#8217;m talking the origins of life.  I aim to edit for smooth transitions but there&#8217;s [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/what-should-i-do/exselfmo/</link>
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		<title>Love, work, play: Physics, organism, organization and romance in a nutshell</title>
		<description><![CDATA[The podcast is back. Click the buttons above to have this article read or speedread to you.
Meg, a single woman in San Francisco had her habits and routines. She did yoga after work pretty much every day. Some nights she got together with friends; other nights she stayed home and watched DVDs or read.
Her friends [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/what-should-i-do/love-work-play-physics-organism-organization-and-romance-in-a-nutshell/</link>
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		<title>Ad laxus fallacy:  They drove you into the sand but that doesn&#8217;t mean they&#8217;re on solid ground.</title>
		<description><![CDATA[The podcast is back. Click the buttons above to have this article read or spedread to you.
A Holiday gift for someone thoughtful in your life?  Consider the New York Times Best-selling graphic novel Logicomix. It&#8217;s a beautiful story about the death of the 2,400-year-old dream of creating a system of logic that wasn’t founded [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/what-should-i-do/ad-laxus/</link>
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		<title>Getting Smugged: A crime against your sanity</title>
		<description><![CDATA[You know the feeling, maybe from an infuriating debate with a self-satisfied, complacent, and condescending bureaucrat.  Your temperature is rising. His is not.  He finds it very amusing to see you getting so worked up. He admires his patience with you.
You asked nicely at first. He was offhandedly dismissive.  Frustrated, you tried [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/what-should-i-do/getting-smugged-a-crime-against-your-sanity/</link>
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		<title>Self-confidence: Less self-generated than you notice until you&#8217;re unemployed.</title>
		<description><![CDATA[Unemployment has reached its highest level in 26 years.  If you&#8217;re un-, or under-employed this one&#8217;s for you.  It&#8217;s for you too if your children recently moved out,  if you just quit a club or ended a friendship or partnership. Really, its for anyone whose life somehow became less populated recently.
Until a [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/what-should-i-do/self-confidence-less-self-generated-than-you-notice-until-youre-unemployed/</link>
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		<title>Broken Symmetry:  Nobel Physicist helps explain why you miss places, loved ones.</title>
		<description><![CDATA[The bittersweet sad intense pain of missing a place, a person, a crew, a time.
What&#8217;s with that? How does that happen? Here&#8217;s a take on it you probably haven&#8217;t heard before.
I&#8217;ll start way back with the big bang.  If everything was all concentrated and homogeneous at the origin, how did our universe ever get [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/what-should-i-do/broken-symmetry-nobel-physicist-helps-explain-why-you-miss-places-loved-ones/</link>
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		<title>Causality&#8217;s gremlins: We think we&#8217;ve eliminated them, but nope.</title>
		<description><![CDATA[Witches, goblins, and gremlins with magical powers, kings hand-picked by God, glass spheres with star-holes encapsulating the earth, rocks falling to earth because they want to be where they belong&#8230;
Yup, the cluelessness of past generation&#8217;s assumptions is laughable. It makes us proud we&#8217;ve overcome it. It also makes us wonder what we assume today that [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/what-should-i-do/causalitys-gremlins-we-think-weve-eliminated-them-but-nope/</link>
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		<title>Constraint propagation: A completely new take on souls.</title>
		<description><![CDATA[It&#8217;s not true about the 21 grams. That was an error in measurement back in 1907 when Duncan McDougall claimed to have weighed a soul. There&#8217;s no weight loss with death, which is fine with most people because we&#8217;ve long assumed the soul was a weightless, sizeless, timeless substance anyway.
Still, weightless, size-less, timeless substances are [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/what-should-i-do/constraint-propagation-a-completely-new-take-on-souls/</link>
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		<title>Emergence research:  Just how does matter become mattering?</title>
		<description><![CDATA[I work in a field called emergence which is trying to solve such ginormous mysteries as how information emerges from energy, how life emerges from chemistry, how selves emerge from atoms, how soulishness emerges from life, how purpose emerges from non-purpose. 
We&#8217;re not asking whether they do. Evidence suggests strongly that they do, and not [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/what-should-i-do/emergence-research/</link>
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		<title>Get a life: Should it mean understand a life or just move on?</title>
		<description><![CDATA[When things don&#8217;t go well, those of us who are receptive/prone to self-doubt wonder why and whose fault it was. We toss and turn the hot potato of guilt. We want to hand it off quickly but the potato comes back. So we cycle.
People say &#8220;don&#8217;t over-think it,&#8221; and I understand.  You can think [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/what-should-i-do/get-a-life/</link>
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		<title>The Wetware Imperative: Stopping small-mindedness before it kills us</title>
		<description><![CDATA[There have always been small minded people who can&#8217;t see beyond their immediate self-interest, people who insist on short term gain even if it costs them more in the long run, people who insist on getting more for themselves even if it costs everyone around them.
Indeed there may be nothing but such people. We all [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/what-should-i-do/the-wetware-imperative/</link>
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		<title>The Invincible Man: Impeccable intentions disconnected from actions</title>
		<description><![CDATA[Imagine someone whose intentions are beyond reproach. He really really wants to do the right thing. He declares that he cares completely about you.  Nevertheless, his intentions have negligible effect on his actions. He does inconsiderate things that hurt.  If you call him on it, he treats it as an attack on his [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/what-should-i-do/the-invincible-man-impeccable-intentions-disconnected-from-actions/</link>
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		<title>Ups, downs, expectatitons and attachments: What the Buddha missed.</title>
		<description><![CDATA[Think with me a moment about a sad fact of life&#8211;together we can decide how to best to work around it: 
The higher you fly, the farther there is to fall. Every uptick in luck is packaged with a potential downturn of equal magnitude.  From cradle to grave sooner or later one has to [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/what-should-i-do/ups-downs-expectatitons-and-attachments-what-the-buddha-missed/</link>
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		<title>Bias: Is it a rare pathogen or as common as digestive track bacteria?</title>
		<description><![CDATA[&#8220;He who is burnt by hot milk blows on ice cream.&#8221;   An old Sufi saying. In other words, don&#8217;t over-generalize.  Or to generalize further, don&#8217;t over-, under-, or otherwise mis-generalize.
But how do you know whether you are?
The ice cream quote would be called a false induction&#8211;generalizing from too little evidence. This milk [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/what-should-i-do/bias-is-it-a-rare-pathogen-or-as-common-as-digestive-track-bacteria/</link>
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		<title>Expectation management: Is it better to have loved and lost?</title>
		<description><![CDATA[When my 19 year old daughter was about eight she wanted a cat.  We got to the pound late. She fixated on an odd looking Calico but just before committing, and a few minutes before the place closed, she shifted to an exquisite Tabby.  Cassidy has been with us these eleven years and [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/what-should-i-do/expectation-management/</link>
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		<title>Three paths to partnership closure:  One by land and two by sea</title>
		<description><![CDATA[Old business first: Here&#8217;s the missing link to the Polan chapter on pot from last week.
When a partnership ends, how do you decide what happened?  How do you formulate the end of the story? How do you get closure? How do you box its remains and label them for storage?
There are 50 ways to [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/what-should-i-do/closure/</link>
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