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		<title>&#8220;Good Chemistry&#8221;: Valentine&#8217;s reflections on a bad but convenient metaphor</title>
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		<pubDate>Sun, 17 Mar 2013 17:37:39 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Note: Though I mail articles less frequently, I write as much as ever at my Psych Today Blog: Ambigamy: Insights for the deeply romantic and deeply skeptical. If there’s one thing that clearly isn’t chemistry, it’s human attraction. Yes, there’s a sort of animal magnetism about human attraction, but scientifically speaking animal magnetism is an [...]]]></description>
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		<title>How Sweet! You Remembered Our Inadversary: A love letter marking the day our love got real</title>
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		<pubDate>Sun, 17 Mar 2013 17:37:17 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Note: Though I mail articles less frequently, I write as much as ever at my Psych Today Blog: Ambigamy: Insights for the deeply romantic and deeply skeptical. Darling, I love us. That’s why I remember our kissiversary, the anniversary of our first kiss. And our sexiversary, the first time we got it on. We felt [...]]]></description>
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		<title>To Woe Them Is To Know Them: Are you and your mate compatible in how you negotiate your incompatibilities?</title>
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		<pubDate>Sun, 17 Mar 2013 17:36:43 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Note: Though I mail articles less frequently, I write as much as ever at my Psych Today Blog: Ambigamy: Insights for the deeply romantic and deeply skeptical. Simplifying, there are two ways into a romantic relationship and the most popular one is the most dangerous: Never is heard a discouraging word (we hope): We’ll be [...]]]></description>
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		<title>A Guide To Jerk Management</title>
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		<pubDate>Sun, 17 Mar 2013 17:36:26 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/?p=3332</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[Note: Though I mail articles less frequently, I write as much as ever at my Psych Today Blog: Ambigamy: Insights for the deeply romantic and deeply skeptical. One of my most consuming questions is what makes someone a jerk, a person worth doubting, ignoring or even fighting. I’m not satisfied with the conventional answers, for [...]]]></description>
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		<title>If Yoga Is Relaxing Into Stretches, We Can Do It All Day</title>
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		<pubDate>Sun, 17 Mar 2013 17:36:03 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/?p=3334</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[Note: Though I mail articles less frequently, I write as much as ever at my Psych Today Blog: Ambigamy: Insights for the deeply romantic and deeply skeptical. The word yoga comes from Sanskrit for union or yoking, as in yoking yourself to the great spirit. In practice though yoga seems primarily to be the union [...]]]></description>
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		<title>What Is Your Exasper-Rate? Exasperation is good&#8211;the question is when and how fast?</title>
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		<pubDate>Sun, 17 Mar 2013 17:35:24 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/?p=3340</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[Note: Though I mail articles less frequently, I write as much as ever at my Psych Today Blog: Ambigamy: Insights for the deeply romantic and deeply skeptical. I embrace exasperation as a fundamental, natural and useful human response. I say this because some people don’t, or pretend they don’t anyway, especially when they’re exasperated that [...]]]></description>
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		<title>What Is Your FA Q?</title>
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		<pubDate>Sun, 17 Mar 2013 17:34:04 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/?p=3338</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[Note: Though I mail articles less frequently, I write as much as ever at my Psych Today Blog: Ambigamy: Insights for the deeply romantic and deeply skeptical. IQ measures conceptual intelligence. EQ measures general emotional intelligence and while thought and emotion seem to encompass all of human capacity it’s often useful to hone in on [...]]]></description>
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		<title>The Eternal Moral Codes We Live By Except When We Don’t</title>
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		<pubDate>Sun, 17 Mar 2013 17:33:17 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/?p=3336</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[Note: Though I mail articles less frequently, I write as much as ever at my Psych Today Blog: Ambigamy: Insights for the deeply romantic and deeply skeptical. I haven’t written an article in a few weeks and the reasons are themselves good grounds for an article. Truth is, I’ve been feeling like a hypocrite. I [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Crawling In Love:  A Sometimes Healthier Alternative To Falling</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 28 Jan 2013 00:55:33 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Note:  This is my 400th article here an Mindreaders Dictionary. I love the muse that this blog has become for me.  It’s a rush more exhilarating than skiing. It’s a slippery slope down which you’re liable to break hearts including your own. Falling in love is fun; falling in love is dangerous. When we fall [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Post-Traumatic Ass Disorder: Diagnosing Humanity&#8217;s Achilles Heel</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 28 Jan 2013 00:19:35 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[An old Jewish Joke: Louie: Moshe, is that you? You’ve changed so much! You used to be so tall and now you’re short. You used to be so fit and now you’re fat. You used to have a full head of hair and now you’re bald. What happened? Murry: I’m not Moshe, I’m Murry. Louie: [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Fighter&#8217;s Fault Fallacy: The dumb but convenient rule that all fighters are equally at fault</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 28 Jan 2013 00:19:10 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[There’s a nasty virus going around and I’d like to at least identify it, if not help eradicate it. It’s the assumption that fighting is unnecessary and that therefore whenever there’s a fight there’s a simple formula for deciding who’s at fault: All parties equally. The Fighter’s Fault Fallacy&#8211;If you’re not playing nice, you’re part [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Chicken and Ostrich:  Two birds; one stone cold stupid theory about calm&#8217;s correlation to competence</title>
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		<pubDate>Sun, 27 Jan 2013 00:57:00 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Climate change is real. As real as real can be. Be scared. Be very, very scared. The folks who deny the reality aren’t scared, or so they say. They’re brave enough to doubt, like the great scientists of the past who challenged conventional wisdom and proved heroically right. It takes guts to stand up to [...]]]></description>
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		<title>If Teen Boys Talked About Girls The Way Women Talk About Men: The Rhetoric of Scarcity Resentment</title>
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		<pubDate>Sun, 27 Jan 2013 00:56:18 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[I don’t think many of us, male or female saw it coming. Maybe if we did we would have managed our lives differently. In high school and college we boys struggled and strained to find girls who would give us the time of day. It was a girl’s world, not a boy’s at least not [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Managing Your Tendency Toward Doom and Zoom Thinking</title>
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		<pubDate>Sun, 27 Jan 2013 00:55:11 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Husband: We’ve been over this so many times. I think it’s fine that he plays those video games. Wife: Well I don’t, and more and more I wonder about your parental judgment. Husband: Jeez, you are so incredibly stubborn. Listen to me: IT’S NO BIG DEAL! Wife: Actually, it may be a bigger deal. I’m [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Effort Justification:  The Harder It Gets, The More You Want It</title>
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		<pubDate>Sun, 27 Jan 2013 00:54:13 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/?p=3303</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[The more you want to reach a goal, the more you’ll strive to achieve it, but the reverse is also true. The more you’re forced to strive for a goal, the more you had better want it, even fabricating inflated reasons why it’s worth it. I first noticed this pattern when a friend fell in [...]]]></description>
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		<title>In Too Deep:  Twelve Tips For Backing Out of Collaborations</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 31 Dec 2012 21:08:56 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Something has shifted. You regarded him as your ally, collaborator and confidante, but now, not so much. You let him get in too close, too intimately involved and now you want to create some distance.  You’re done asking “what should we do?” Now you’re asking, “what should I do?” and especially “what should I do [...]]]></description>
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		<title>How To Be a Jerk</title>
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		<pubDate>Sat, 29 Dec 2012 01:49:43 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[No matter what your race, creed or political persuasion you can be a jerk. That&#8217;s because it&#8217;s not what you believe or do, it&#8217;s how you decide what you believe or do. It’s not the choices you make but how you make the choices. Here’s how to make choices: Always with your gut. You&#8217;re gut [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Attachment Parity: Do You Love Me Like I Love You?</title>
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		<pubDate>Sat, 29 Dec 2012 01:49:20 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Parity means equality, and attachment parity in partnership means being equally dedicated to and dependent upon each other. Attachment parity is what stable couples have, and what unstable couples seek. Want to understand the partnership dance, the steps people take when getting together, staying together and even breaking up? Follow the attachment parity. We’re ambivalent [...]]]></description>
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		<title>The Idiot&#8217;s Guide to Idiocy: Twelve Rules for Deciding Who Is Right When All Factions Are Sure That They Are</title>
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		<pubDate>Sat, 29 Dec 2012 01:45:20 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[When cultural tribes get as polarized as ours, progress will only resume when the tribes that are wrong eat their humble pie, back down and shut up.  And you know who you are.   You don’t? We all know which tribes should back down.  Trouble is, we disagree about which tribes they are. My tribe thinks the [...]]]></description>
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		<title>How To Be Disrespectful Respectfully: Seven Strange Secrets To Showing Maximum Respect</title>
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		<pubDate>Sat, 29 Dec 2012 01:43:16 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[&#8220;You&#8217;re being disrespectful!&#8221; is an arresting accusation made as though you should never be disrespectful, as though everyone always deserves total respect.  Being respectful is treated as synonymous with being nice, disrespectful as with sinning.   And yet none of us can or should respect everything and everybody equally. To do so would be to surrender [...]]]></description>
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		<title>The Singing Psychologist: Freedom isn&#8217;t free</title>
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		<pubDate>Sat, 29 Dec 2012 00:03:41 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Here&#8217;s a song I wrote about Ambigamy&#8217;s central paradox: To be uncompromisingly free we must compromise. Romantic love is just carefree, the dream that we can be ourselves, un-edited, unadorned and yet adored. But not everything about us is adorable or even safe at close range, so to make our partners feel safe enough to [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Shells, Shell Shock and Shellackings: Harvesting a deeper lesson for us all from the Republican defeat</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/what-should-i-do/shells-shell-shock-and-shellackings-harvesting-a-deeper-lesson-for-us-all-from-the-republican-defeat/</link>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 09 Nov 2012 23:29:55 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Romney insiders report today that he was “shell shocked” by his defeat, having not trusted polls, operating instead on faith that he would win, faith being a supreme virtue in his book. Of Mormon. My Democratic friends and I are overjoyed that, after our shellacking in 2010 the Republicans are getting the shellacking we think [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Single Midlife Man Finds Romantic Solution</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 06 Nov 2012 21:10:16 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[I promised it over a month ago and I think I’ve finally got it, an alternative to monogamy, promiscuity and celibacy, one that fits my appetites while keeping me sane and honorable. I’ll call it becoming a Loaner, a play on accepting myself as fundamentally alone, no longer deserving a mother surrogate to hold me [...]]]></description>
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		<title>That Old Bag of Defensive Rhetorical Tricks</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 06 Nov 2012 21:09:51 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[When Bush became an embarrassment even to Republicans, I prayed they would abandon not just the man but his bag of rhetorical tricks for dismissing all challengers and inconvenient truths. My prayers weren’t answered. That bag of rhetorical tricks is just so irresistible, and not just to Republicans. In a pinch, any of us reach into [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Are They Serious Or Just Power Hungry?</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 06 Nov 2012 21:08:15 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[It&#8217;s often hard to tell whether a debate is about substance or power. And it matters. It&#8217;s tacky to accuse your opponent of craving power when he&#8217;s actually talking substance, and it&#8217;s dangerous to discuss substance when he&#8217;s just vying for power. Since it matters, we need good ways to figure out when its about [...]]]></description>
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