<?xml version="1.0" encoding="UTF-8"?>
<rss version="2.0"
	xmlns:content="http://purl.org/rss/1.0/modules/content/"
	xmlns:wfw="http://wellformedweb.org/CommentAPI/"
	xmlns:dc="http://purl.org/dc/elements/1.1/"
	xmlns:atom="http://www.w3.org/2005/Atom"
	xmlns:sy="http://purl.org/rss/1.0/modules/syndication/"
	xmlns:slash="http://purl.org/rss/1.0/modules/slash/"
	>

<channel>
	<title>MIND READERS DICTIONARY &#187; Should I commit?</title>
	<atom:link href="http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/category/should-i-commit/feed/" rel="self" type="application/rss+xml" />
	<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com</link>
	<description>For reading between the lines with greater comprehension</description>
	<lastBuildDate>Tue, 31 Jan 2012 22:43:25 +0000</lastBuildDate>
	<language>en</language>
	<sy:updatePeriod>hourly</sy:updatePeriod>
	<sy:updateFrequency>1</sy:updateFrequency>
	<generator>http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.4</generator>
		<item>
		<title>Seven Wonderings of the Modern World: The human tough judgment calls</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/communication/seven-wonderings-of-the-modern-world/</link>
		<comments>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/communication/seven-wonderings-of-the-modern-world/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Tue, 10 Jun 2008 17:07:47 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[How can I communicate this to her?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Is this worth wondering about?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I commit?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I fight on?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I get over it?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I give in?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I hold onto my dream or face reality?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I sacrifice?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I say it?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I stay?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[acids]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Am I missing the forest for trees?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[decided]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[deciding]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Decision making]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Faith vs. reason]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[gratification]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[human nature]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[long-term]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[myopium]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Paradoxes]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Philosophy]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[short-term]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Tough choices]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Tough judgment calls]]></category>

		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/?p=970</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[I&#8217;ve been doing Mind Readers Dictionary steadily for close to five years&#8211;one article, one idea per week. Only now am I getting around the stuff that started it all for me, the universal tough judgment calls at the heart of all the uncertainty we feel in any and every area of life. Last week I [...]]]></description>
		<wfw:commentRss>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/communication/seven-wonderings-of-the-modern-world/feed/</wfw:commentRss>
		<slash:comments>1</slash:comments>
		</item>
		<item>
		<title>Seven Wonderings of the Ancient World: Life&#8217;s universal tough judgment calls</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/should-i-commit/seven-wonderings-of-the-ancient-world/</link>
		<comments>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/should-i-commit/seven-wonderings-of-the-ancient-world/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Tue, 03 Jun 2008 17:37:24 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Should I commit?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I fight on?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I sacrifice?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I stay?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[alpha errors]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[ancient world]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[beta errors]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[croakers]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Decision making]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[doubting]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Evolution]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[facultative sexuality]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Faith vs. reason]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[false negatives]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[false positives]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[frogs]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[indecision]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[questions evolution answers]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[slime]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Tough choices]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Tough judgment calls]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[uncertainty]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[wonderings of the world]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[wonders of the world]]></category>

		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/?p=969</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[&#8220;If everybody minded their own business,&#8221; the Duchess said in a hoarse growl, &#8220;the world would go round a deal faster than it does.&#8221; Lewis Carroll, Alice in Wonderland* Minding one&#8217;s own business commonly means not minding other people&#8217;s business, but its literal meaning is still implied&#8211;don&#8217;t mind others&#8217; business because you have business of [...]]]></description>
		<wfw:commentRss>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/should-i-commit/seven-wonderings-of-the-ancient-world/feed/</wfw:commentRss>
		<slash:comments>0</slash:comments>
		</item>
		<item>
		<title>ACIDs (Ambiguous Cues; Incompatible Dos): What eats at us when something does</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/should-i-commit/acids/</link>
		<comments>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/should-i-commit/acids/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Wed, 21 May 2008 22:41:03 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Is this worth wondering about?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I commit?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I fight on?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I get over it?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I give in?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I hold onto my dream or face reality?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I sacrifice?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I say it?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I stay?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Am I missing the forest for trees?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Decision making]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[dilemmas]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[forks in the road]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[horns of dilemma]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[raising difficult children]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Tough choices]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Universal tough judgment calls]]></category>

		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/?p=967</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[Last week I argued that we need names for the generic tough judgment calls we all deal with. I gave a few examples: Should I be receptive or assertive? Should I manipulate or be honest? I argued that we pretend we can live by one-sided principles &#8211; assert your rights, accept things as they are, [...]]]></description>
		<wfw:commentRss>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/should-i-commit/acids/feed/</wfw:commentRss>
		<slash:comments>1</slash:comments>
		</item>
		<item>
		<title>Generic Tough Judgment Calls:  Why don&#8217;t we have names for them?</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/communication/generic-tough-judgment-calls/</link>
		<comments>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/communication/generic-tough-judgment-calls/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Fri, 09 May 2008 14:59:43 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[How can I communicate this to her?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Is this worth wondering about?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I commit?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I fight on?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I get over it?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I give in?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I hold onto my dream or face reality?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I sacrifice?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I say it?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I stay?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[acids]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Am I missing the forest for trees?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[close calls]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[coinings]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Decision making]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[language]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[neologism]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Paradoxes]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[psychology]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Tough choices]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Tough judgment calls]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[uncertainty]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Universal tough judgment calls]]></category>

		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/?p=966</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[Recently, I was listening to an NPR report on Jimmy Carter&#8217;s meeting with leaders of the Palestinian militant Hamas party. The reporter had two experts on to debate the merits of Carter&#8217;s action. One argued that Carter sent the wrong message. Diplomatic engagement only encourages Hamas leaders to stand irrationally firm. The other said Carter [...]]]></description>
		<wfw:commentRss>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/communication/generic-tough-judgment-calls/feed/</wfw:commentRss>
		<slash:comments>1</slash:comments>
		</item>
		<item>
		<title>Exaptation: The loose link between representation and function</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/communication/exaptation/</link>
		<comments>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/communication/exaptation/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Sun, 27 Apr 2008 15:18:39 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[How can I communicate this to her?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Is this worth wondering about?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I commit?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I get over it?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I give in?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I stay?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Causality]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Decision making]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[function]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[meaning]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Politics]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[pragmatism]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[representation]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Rhetoric]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Romance]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[root causes]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[semiotics]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[significance]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[uses]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Wisdom]]></category>

		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/?p=964</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[I&#8217;m a musician. I&#8217;ll admit that when I was a teen, I got into it as a way to improve my status with women. I don&#8217;t know that it ever helped much; I&#8217;m no superstar. Still, I&#8217;ve stayed a musician. Music has stayed functional in my life. But now, music represents something other than status [...]]]></description>
		<wfw:commentRss>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/communication/exaptation/feed/</wfw:commentRss>
		<slash:comments>0</slash:comments>
		</item>
		<item>
		<title>Floating for-ness: Under a firm mantle of function, molten motives churn.</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/communication/floating-for-ness/</link>
		<comments>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/communication/floating-for-ness/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Thu, 24 Apr 2008 02:34:51 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[How can I communicate this to her?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[How should I handle it with my friend?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Is this worth wondering about?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I commit?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I get over it?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I stay?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Am I missing the forest for trees?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Causality]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[cause]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Decision making]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Evolution]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[function]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[pragmatism]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[reliability]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[representation]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Romance]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[root causes]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Tough choices]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Wisdom]]></category>

		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/?p=963</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[You&#8217;re in love, or so you think. You certainly feel in love, but now that you&#8217;ve been run through the mill a few times, you wonder what the feeling really means. You love being loved. But think about it, why does this person love you? What&#8217;s the motivation? When someone says, &#8220;I love you,&#8221; what [...]]]></description>
		<wfw:commentRss>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/communication/floating-for-ness/feed/</wfw:commentRss>
		<slash:comments>0</slash:comments>
		</item>
		<item>
		<title>Self-efficacy: How supply permits demand</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/career/self-efficacy/</link>
		<comments>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/career/self-efficacy/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Wed, 02 Apr 2008 00:32:37 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[How should I handle it with my friend?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I commit?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I fight on?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I get over it?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I sacrifice?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I stay?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[What should we do about this family issue?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Which move helps my career?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[ability]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[childrearing]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Decision making]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Evolution]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Learning]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[self-efficacy]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[self-esteem]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[self-worth]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[skill-buildiing]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[training]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Wisdom]]></category>

		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/self-efficacy-how-supply-permits-demand/</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[&#8220;Give the work to the busy man,&#8221; my mother used to say. It made sense. A busy man (or woman, in her case) had momentum and a can-do spirit. The technical name for a can-do spirit is self-efficacy, a belief that you are capable of being effective. Psychologist Albert Bandura, who coined the term, attributes [...]]]></description>
		<wfw:commentRss>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/career/self-efficacy/feed/</wfw:commentRss>
		<slash:comments>0</slash:comments>
		</item>
		<item>
		<title>Guesswork: Enough is enough, but how much is enough?</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/communication/guesswork/</link>
		<comments>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/communication/guesswork/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Tue, 12 Feb 2008 17:10:39 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[How can I communicate this to her?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[How should I handle it with my friend?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[How should I handle this conflict?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Is this worth wondering about?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I commit?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I fight on?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I get over it?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I give in?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I sacrifice?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I stay?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[What should I do about this business problem?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Which move helps my career?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[abduction]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[ambiguity]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Can I get resolution on this?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Causality]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Decision making]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[deduction]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Environment]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[fallibalism]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[induction]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Learning]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Philosophy]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Politics]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Religion]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Rhetoric]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[risk]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Romance]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[uncertainty]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Wisdom]]></category>

		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/?p=951</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[Three weeks ago I recounted a lot of tough problems raised over the ages about how cause and effect really work. One of the toughest was that if cause and effect works like we normally think it does-thing A bumps into thing B and moves it in a precisely predictable direction, then the whole universe [...]]]></description>
		<wfw:commentRss>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/communication/guesswork/feed/</wfw:commentRss>
		<slash:comments>0</slash:comments>
		</item>
		<item>
		<title>The Free Willies: Are computers like humans? Are humans like computers?</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/communication/the-free-willies-are-computers-like-humans-are-humans-like-computers/</link>
		<comments>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/communication/the-free-willies-are-computers-like-humans-are-humans-like-computers/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Tue, 12 Feb 2008 17:03:30 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[How can I communicate this to her?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[How should I handle this conflict?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Is this worth wondering about?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I commit?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I get over it?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[What should I do about this business problem?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[What to do about finances?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Which move helps my career?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[abduction]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Am I missing the forest for trees?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[ambiguity]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Can I get resolution on this?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Causality]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Decision making]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[deduction]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[determinism]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Environment]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Evolution]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[induction]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Learning]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Philosophy]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[predestination]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[zombie]]></category>

		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/?p=949</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[The World Wide Web, it&#8217;s like a giant human mind the way it processes billions of pieces of information. Someday it will become so smart it takes over the world. It will be able to think instead of us. Or so some cognitive scientists say. Your new computer too, it thinks so fast. The better [...]]]></description>
		<wfw:commentRss>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/communication/the-free-willies-are-computers-like-humans-are-humans-like-computers/feed/</wfw:commentRss>
		<slash:comments>0</slash:comments>
		</item>
		<item>
		<title>The Golden Paradox: If we always sacrificed for each other, no one would ever have to make sacrifices</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/business/the-golden-paradox/</link>
		<comments>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/business/the-golden-paradox/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Tue, 25 Dec 2007 19:27:09 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[How should I handle it with my friend?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[How should I handle this conflict?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I commit?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I fight on?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I give in?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I hold onto my dream or face reality?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I sacrifice?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I say it?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I stay?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[What should I do about this business problem?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[What should we do about this family issue?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Which move helps my career?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[accommodation]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[charity]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Decision making]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Environment]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Evolution]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[give and take]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Golden rule]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Hierarchy]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[kindness]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Learning]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[moral dilemma]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[paradox]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Paradoxes]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Philosophy]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Politics]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Religion]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Rhetoric]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Romance]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[sacrifice]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Tough choices]]></category>

		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/?p=944</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[You know me. I&#8217;ve got hardly any moral principles; I&#8217;m all about moral dilemmas. I made the case a while ago (see Liar&#8217;s Paradox Moral Litmus Test) that if you can come up with a Liar&#8217;s Paradox-like statement regarding some moral principle, then it really isn&#8217;t a moral principle. Instead, it&#8217;s a moral dilemma. In [...]]]></description>
		<wfw:commentRss>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/business/the-golden-paradox/feed/</wfw:commentRss>
		<slash:comments>2</slash:comments>
		</item>
		<item>
		<title>Ambigamy:  Love&#8217;s lost labors</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/career/ambigamy-2/</link>
		<comments>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/career/ambigamy-2/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Sun, 02 Dec 2007 01:44:32 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Should I commit?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I sacrifice?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I stay?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[What should we do about this family issue?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[What to do about finances?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Which move helps my career?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[commitment]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Decision making]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[divorce]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[fidelity]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[infrastructure]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[love]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[marriage]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[popular music]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Rhetoric]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Romance]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[sex]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[song]]></category>

		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/?p=941</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[Last song in a series of three, here&#8217;s one whose target audience is not the middle-aged but rather the young and restless. It was inspired by an argument I couldn&#8217;t get started with someone who only wanted to talk about how the media was to blame for youth culture&#8217;s slide into promiscuity. I agreed with [...]]]></description>
		<wfw:commentRss>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/career/ambigamy-2/feed/</wfw:commentRss>
		<slash:comments>1</slash:comments>
<enclosure url="http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/allthatsleftislove.mp3" length="3743727" type="audio/mpeg" />
		</item>
		<item>
		<title>Thanksgrieving:  Cheer up &#8217;cause it&#8217;s downhill from here</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/children/thanksgrieving/</link>
		<comments>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/children/thanksgrieving/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Sun, 02 Dec 2007 01:41:41 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[How should I handle it with my friend?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Is this worth wondering about?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I commit?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[What should we do about this family issue?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[addiction]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Am I missing the forest for trees?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Decision making]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[expectation]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[for granted]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[generosity]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[gratitude]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[grocery stores]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Politics]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Religion]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Romance]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Tough choices]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Wisdom]]></category>

		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/?p=940</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[In response to last week&#8217;s song, people wrote with praises (thank you) and concerns for my health. I&#8217;m fine. More than fine. I can&#8217;t imagine being much happier than I am these days. I&#8217;m very lucky. I say this to ward off concern about my wellbeing in response to the following tune. When we&#8217;re down, [...]]]></description>
		<wfw:commentRss>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/children/thanksgrieving/feed/</wfw:commentRss>
		<slash:comments>0</slash:comments>
<enclosure url="http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/downhillfromhere.mp3" length="7396431" type="audio/mpeg" />
		</item>
		<item>
		<title>Swan Song:  I&#8217;m sure gonna miss me when I&#8217;m gone</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/should-i-commit/swan-song/</link>
		<comments>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/should-i-commit/swan-song/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Sun, 02 Dec 2007 01:37:42 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Should I commit?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I fight on?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I give in?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I stay?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Causality]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[death]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Decision making]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[heaven]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[hell]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[life]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[reincarnation]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[self]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[selves]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[terror management]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[time]]></category>

		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/?p=936</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[And now, something different. Last week I wrote three articles as songs. Here&#8217;s the first, an ironic song that parallels an article I wrote a few months ago called Realincarnation. You&#8217;ll find me singing and playing seven-string bass solo on it with a virtual band at www.mindreadersdictionary.com/imsuregonnamissme.mp3 I&#8217;m sure gonna miss me when I&#8217;m gone. [...]]]></description>
		<wfw:commentRss>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/should-i-commit/swan-song/feed/</wfw:commentRss>
		<slash:comments>0</slash:comments>
		</item>
		<item>
		<title>Exploratory Commitment: The try/buy dichotomy</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/career/exploratory-commitment/</link>
		<comments>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/career/exploratory-commitment/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Tue, 23 Oct 2007 01:50:52 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[How should I negotiate this?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I commit?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I fight on?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I sacrifice?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I stay?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Which move helps my career?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[buy]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Causality]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Decision making]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Environment]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Evolution]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[feedback]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Goethe]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[investment]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Paradoxes]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Philosophy]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Politics]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Religion]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Romance]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[speculation]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Tough choices]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[try]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Wisdom]]></category>

		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/?p=932</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[Last week I discussed the relationship between the questions &#8220;How can I succeed?&#8221; and &#8220;Can I succeed?&#8221; The two questions form a loop. In one direction, ambition inspires you to ask, &#8220;Can I succeed?&#8221; To answer that question, you ask, &#8220;Well, how can I succeed?&#8221; Then you explore particular plans to do so. If you [...]]]></description>
		<wfw:commentRss>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/career/exploratory-commitment/feed/</wfw:commentRss>
		<slash:comments>0</slash:comments>
		</item>
		<item>
		<title>Passive vs. Active Hope: Is a will a way or a way to a way?</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/business/passive-vs-active-hope/</link>
		<comments>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/business/passive-vs-active-hope/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Tue, 23 Oct 2007 01:49:28 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Should I commit?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I fight on?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I get over it?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I give in?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I hold onto my dream or face reality?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I sacrifice?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I stay?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[What should I do about this business problem?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[What should we do about this family issue?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[What to do about finances?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Which move helps my career?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Accept vs. Aspire]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[active hope]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Causality]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Decision making]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Evolution]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[expectations]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[passive hope]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[perfectionism]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[success]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[trying]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Wisdom]]></category>

		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/?p=931</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[Your marriage, business, career, plan to end world hunger isn&#8217;t going so well. Two questions might come to mind: &#8220;How can I succeed?&#8221; and &#8220;Can I succeed?&#8221; The first question focuses you on evaluating specific plans for their probability of success&#8211;hope in this plan or that. But drop that first word and you pop up [...]]]></description>
		<wfw:commentRss>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/business/passive-vs-active-hope/feed/</wfw:commentRss>
		<slash:comments>0</slash:comments>
		</item>
		<item>
		<title>Aspirational Tense: &#8220;I most definitely am, I hope.&#8221;</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/business/aspirational-tense/</link>
		<comments>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/business/aspirational-tense/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Sat, 11 Aug 2007 17:01:50 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[How should I handle it with my friend?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I commit?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I fight on?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I give in?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I hold onto my dream or face reality?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I sacrifice?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[What should I do about this business problem?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[What to do about finances?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Which move helps my career?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Accept vs. Aspire]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Am I expecting too much?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Am I sliding?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[ambition]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[aspiration]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Decision making]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Environment]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[hope]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[naturalist falacy]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[normalist falacy]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[optimal illusion]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Romance]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[self-deception]]></category>

		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/blog/?p=381</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[The relationship between reality and interpretation is always tenuous. Who’s to say what’s real? There is no simple formula to ensure that an interpretation matches reality—and besides, if there were one, we’d be ambivalent about using it. Our impressions bob and weave around our reality. Reality delivers a right uppercut and our impressions slide out [...]]]></description>
		<wfw:commentRss>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/business/aspirational-tense/feed/</wfw:commentRss>
		<slash:comments>0</slash:comments>
		</item>
		<item>
		<title>Spit or Go Blind: Slang with cosmic implications</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/business/spit-or-go-blind/</link>
		<comments>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/business/spit-or-go-blind/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Thu, 26 Jul 2007 00:49:33 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Can I trust them?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[How should I handle it with my friend?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[How should I handle this conflict?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[How should I negotiate this?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Is there a win/win solution?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Is this a sign?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Is this worth wondering about?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I be thinking about the bigger picture?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I commit?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I get over it?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I give in?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I hold onto my dream or face reality?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I say it?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[What should I do about this business problem?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[What should we do about this family issue?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Which move helps my career?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[accommodation]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Am I expecting too much?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Am I missing the forest for trees?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Am I sliding?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[assertion]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[attend]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Decision making]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[ignore]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Learning]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[optimal illusion]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Politics]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Religion]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Rhetoric]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Romance]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[self-deception]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[yin and yang]]></category>

		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/blog/?p=373</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[“I can’t tell whether to spit or go blind.” I’ve always liked this phrase (alternatively, “shit or go blind”). It’s slang for confusion in the face of options, and etymologists aren’t sure where it comes from. Its appeal, I suspect, is partly onomatopoetic—it sounds confused. Its appeal may also be the precision with which it [...]]]></description>
		<wfw:commentRss>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/business/spit-or-go-blind/feed/</wfw:commentRss>
		<slash:comments>0</slash:comments>
		</item>
		<item>
		<title>Offanonda Meditation: Learning flexibility in fits and starts</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/business/offanonda-meditation/</link>
		<comments>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/business/offanonda-meditation/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Thu, 12 Jul 2007 11:25:58 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Can I trust them?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[How should I negotiate this?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Is there a win/win solution?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Is this a sign?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I commit?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I fight on?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I stay?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[What should I do about this business problem?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[What to do about finances?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Which move helps my career?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[braking]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[computers]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Decision making]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[discouragement]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[encouragement]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[intermittent]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[intermittent reinforcement]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Learning]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[on and off]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[partial]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[skidding]]></category>

		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/blog/?p=91</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[Absence does not make the heart grow fonder; it reveals the depth of your heart’s fondness. Lately I realized just how partial I’ve been to my PC, which for reasons no tech support person can yet divine has taken to launching into long reveries in the middle of my work. Out of the blue, the [...]]]></description>
		<wfw:commentRss>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/business/offanonda-meditation/feed/</wfw:commentRss>
		<slash:comments>0</slash:comments>
		</item>
		<item>
		<title>Rather Partial: The delicate art of clinging right.</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/children/rather-partial/</link>
		<comments>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/children/rather-partial/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Wed, 04 Jul 2007 15:34:46 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[How should I handle it with my friend?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Is there a win/win solution?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I commit?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I stay?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[What should we do about this family issue?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[aspiration]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[commitment]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Decision making]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[desire]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[heart]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[love]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[partial]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[partnership]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Romance]]></category>

		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/blog/?p=107</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[I’ve been a parent for twenty-seven years—but for the past ten, you could say I’ve been a partial parent. Since my divorce my ex-wife and I have each had the kids half-time, so I’ve altered between being the one parent on the scene and in effect hardly being parental at all. The other day I [...]]]></description>
		<wfw:commentRss>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/children/rather-partial/feed/</wfw:commentRss>
		<slash:comments>0</slash:comments>
		</item>
		<item>
		<title>Can&#8217;tibration: What do you mean, you can&#8217;t?</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/business/cantibration/</link>
		<comments>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/business/cantibration/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Wed, 09 May 2007 16:15:54 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Can I trust them?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[How should I handle it with my friend?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[How should I handle this conflict?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[How should I negotiate this?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Is there a win/win solution?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Is this a sign?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Is this worth wondering about?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I be thinking about the bigger picture?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I commit?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I fight on?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I sacrifice?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I say it?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I stay?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I wait?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[What should I do about this business problem?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[What to do about finances?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Which move helps my career?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Am I expecting too much?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Am I sliding?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[boundariies]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[can]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[can't]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Decision making]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[doing your part]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[expectation management]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[mutuality]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[responsibility]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Romance]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[victimhood]]></category>

		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/blog/?p=17</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[Dinner at an all-you-can-eat restaurant last week reminded me how fundamentally ambiguous the word can is. Its meaning falls between “want to” and “can endure without dying,” just as, conversely, the word need falls somewhere between “want” and “will die without.” Imagine an all-you-can-eat restaurant with a reverse bouncer, a big galoot who won’t let [...]]]></description>
		<wfw:commentRss>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/business/cantibration/feed/</wfw:commentRss>
		<slash:comments>0</slash:comments>
		</item>
		<item>
		<title>Careful Caring: We can&#8217;t always care, so why feel guilty when called uncaring?</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/friends/careful-caring/</link>
		<comments>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/friends/careful-caring/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Wed, 25 Apr 2007 16:43:52 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Can I trust them?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[How should I handle it with my friend?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[How should I handle this conflict?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Is there a win/win solution?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I be thinking about the bigger picture?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I commit?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I fight on?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I give in?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I hold onto my dream or face reality?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I sacrifice?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I stay?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I wait?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[What's the moral thing to do here?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Am I missing the forest for trees?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Am I sliding?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[blame]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[care]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[charity]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[connotations]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Decision making]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[denotations]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[generosity]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[guilt]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[kindness]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[loaded terms]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[moral absolutes]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[moral principles]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Romance]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[shame]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Tough choices]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[What's the spiritual thing to do?]]></category>

		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/blog/?p=18</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[&#8220;Don&#8217;t say I don&#8217;t care. I do care.&#8221; Like many words, care means different kinds of things. It has its descriptive meaning&#8211;its denotation: Caring is a certain kind of behavior. But it also has its prescriptive meaning&#8211;its connotation: Caring is good. You should care. Being uncaring is bad. Combining denotation and connotation you get a [...]]]></description>
		<wfw:commentRss>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/friends/careful-caring/feed/</wfw:commentRss>
		<slash:comments>1</slash:comments>
		</item>
		<item>
		<title>MOGIBO (Me Outside. Good Inside. Bad Outside): Personal popularity in popular culture</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/communication/mogibo/</link>
		<comments>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/communication/mogibo/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Wed, 21 Mar 2007 16:56:09 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Can I trust them?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[How can I communicate this to her?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[How should I handle it with my friend?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[How should I handle this conflict?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[How should I negotiate this?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I commit?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I give in?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I hold onto my dream or face reality?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I sacrifice?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I stay?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[about]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[bad]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Decision making]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Emergence]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[good]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[happy]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Hierarchy]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[inside]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[levels]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Logic]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[lonely]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[outside]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Paradoxes]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[popular music]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Romance]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[song]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[within]]></category>

		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/blog/?p=82</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[MOGIBO is the sentiment expressed in many popular tunes, old and new: I’ve lost at love. I’m out of the loop and it’s sad. I can’t win in the mainstream. The world has left me behind. MOGIBO is one of just a few basic relationships possible between the in-crowd, the out-crowd, good and bad, and [...]]]></description>
		<wfw:commentRss>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/communication/mogibo/feed/</wfw:commentRss>
		<slash:comments>0</slash:comments>
		</item>
		<item>
		<title>R.O.S.C.O. (Right On Schedule, Chill Out): Global warming as inevitable</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/communication/rosco-right-on-schedule-chill-out/</link>
		<comments>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/communication/rosco-right-on-schedule-chill-out/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Thu, 15 Mar 2007 02:18:39 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Can I trust them?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[How can I communicate this to her?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[How should I handle it with my friend?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[How should I handle this conflict?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[How should I negotiate this?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Is there a win/win solution?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Is this a sign?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Is this worth wondering about?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I be thinking about the bigger picture?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I commit?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I fight on?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I get over it?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I give in?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I hold onto my dream or face reality?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I sacrifice?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I say it?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I stay?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[What should we do about this family issue?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[What's the moral thing to do here?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[acceptance]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Am I expecting too much?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Am I missing the forest for trees?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Am I sliding?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[anxiety]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Causality]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[context]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Decision making]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Emergence]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[empathy]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Evolution]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[forgivenses]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[global warming]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Learning]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[natural]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[naturalist fallacy]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[normalist fallacy]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Paradoxes]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Philosophy]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Politics]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Religion]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Rhetoric]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Romance]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[What's the spiritual thing to do?]]></category>

		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/blog/?p=106</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[I burnt my feet very badly once, spilling ignited gasoline on them by mistake. I went up in flames. For a while I felt no pain. I got to experience the way the body sets upper limits on excruciation in the short term. I take comfort from knowing that some sudden physical shocks don’t feel [...]]]></description>
		<wfw:commentRss>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/communication/rosco-right-on-schedule-chill-out/feed/</wfw:commentRss>
		<slash:comments>0</slash:comments>
		</item>
		<item>
		<title>Mid-Wife Crisis: It’s the economy, stupid.</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/communication/mid-wife-crisis/</link>
		<comments>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/communication/mid-wife-crisis/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Wed, 21 Feb 2007 17:26:21 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Can I trust them?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[How can I communicate this to her?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[How should I handle it with my friend?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[How should I handle this conflict?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Is there a win/win solution?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Is this worth wondering about?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I commit?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I fight on?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I give in?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I stay?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[What should I do about this business problem?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[What should we do about this family issue?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[What to do about finances?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[What's the moral thing to do here?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Which move helps my career?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[alternatives]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Am I expecting too much?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Am I missing the forest for trees?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Am I sliding?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Causality]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[commitment]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Decision making]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[economy]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Environment]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Evolution]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[love]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[opportunity costs]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[partnership]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Religion]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Romance]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[sex]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Tough choices]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[What's the spiritual thing to do?]]></category>

		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/blog/?p=76</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[I was married by 24 and had my first child at 25. By the standard of my parents’ generation, 24 was normal&#8211;my father married at that age&#8211;but by my generation’s standard (especially within my Northern California subculture), it was peculiar to get married so young. My firstborn child is eight years older than those of [...]]]></description>
		<wfw:commentRss>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/communication/mid-wife-crisis/feed/</wfw:commentRss>
		<slash:comments>0</slash:comments>
		</item>
		<item>
		<title>Letter and Spirit: Two-fisted adventures at home and in the classroom</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/communication/letter-and-spirit/</link>
		<comments>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/communication/letter-and-spirit/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Fri, 26 Jan 2007 03:12:40 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[How can I communicate this to her?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[How should I handle it with my friend?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I commit?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I fight on?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I give in?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I sacrifice?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I say it?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I stay?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Which move helps my career?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Decision making]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[dilemmas]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[letter and spirit of the law]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[letter of the law]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[means and ends]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[mission drift]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[personal stories]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[S.E.A.M.]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[school]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[spirit of the law]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[teaching]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Wisdom]]></category>

		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/blog/?p=64</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[I grew up in a very nice home on Chicago’s South Side, two stories with a full attic and basement. On the first floor we had the kitchen, dining room, living room, den, and the “powder room” or guest bathroom. My father ran a big company and once a year and invited his top executives&#8211;some [...]]]></description>
		<wfw:commentRss>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/communication/letter-and-spirit/feed/</wfw:commentRss>
		<slash:comments>0</slash:comments>
		</item>
	</channel>
</rss>

