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		<title>Within or about:  Three positions one can take in an argument.</title>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 05 Dec 2008 01:01:55 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Last week I said I envied Obama&#8217;s patience in conflict, and this week as promised brings more about what it takes to display that sort of poise. This discussion also keys into two of the main themes that run through my thinking and writing. One is that the foundation of good behavior is built not [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Seven habits of sometimes effective critics: Unreliable sure-fire recipes for speaking your mind</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/communication/seven-habits/</link>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 04 Nov 2008 19:08:27 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<category><![CDATA[feedback]]></category>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/?p=1204</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[Sure-fire recipes are wonderful things, and the history of civilization can be read as the search for and discovery of such recipes. Unfortunately, it can also be read as a long line of claims to have discovered allegedly sure-fire recipes that turn out to be not so sure-fire after all. Every day we experience the [...]]]></description>
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		<title>The Tact Game: Is there always a winning way to give critical feedback?</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/communication/the-tact-game/</link>
		<comments>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/communication/the-tact-game/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Tue, 04 Nov 2008 18:58:24 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/?p=1193</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[It&#8217;s commonly held that critical feedback never has to hurt so long as you deliver it tactfully. Tact transcends all resistance. There&#8217;s a nice way to say anything. I live by that belief and promote it to my students. I tell them to assume that there&#8217;s nothing they can&#8217;t say to anyone as long as [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Exit interview: The pros and cons of giving feedback as a relationship ends</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/communication/exit-interview/</link>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 04 Nov 2008 18:58:03 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[I left a band recently. I had my reasons but wasn&#8217;t sure whether to share them on exit. I didn&#8217;t want to be dishonest. I can remember times when people gave me vacuous excuses for parting with me. Here I had invested heavily in a relationship and they were too stingy to let me in [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Turing&#8217;s Blurring Anxiety (TBA): Forgiving dead jerks but not live ones.</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 12 Feb 2008 17:13:21 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<category><![CDATA[death]]></category>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/?p=952</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[What do you say about a deceased jerk, someone who treated you badly before shuffling off this mortal coil?The natural temptation is to say, &#8220;She could have done better,&#8221; but what could that mean? That had she tried a little harder, she would have been able to control her vices? Meaning if she had been [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Guesswork: Enough is enough, but how much is enough?</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/communication/guesswork/</link>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 12 Feb 2008 17:10:39 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<category><![CDATA[deduction]]></category>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/?p=951</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[Three weeks ago I recounted a lot of tough problems raised over the ages about how cause and effect really work. One of the toughest was that if cause and effect works like we normally think it does-thing A bumps into thing B and moves it in a precisely predictable direction, then the whole universe [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Deduction: The dream and nightmare of absolute certainty him in a</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/communication/deduction/</link>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 12 Feb 2008 17:07:39 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/?p=950</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[Last week I began comparing and contrasting computers and minds, examining both human intuitions and appetites regarding the prospect that our minds are governed by the same kind of direct one-to-one-correspondence kind of cause-and-effect we see in the physical world (Aristotle&#8217;s efficient cause). If minds are really like computers, just translating information from one form [...]]]></description>
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		<title>The Free Willies: Are computers like humans? Are humans like computers?</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/communication/the-free-willies-are-computers-like-humans-are-humans-like-computers/</link>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 12 Feb 2008 17:03:30 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/?p=949</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[The World Wide Web, it&#8217;s like a giant human mind the way it processes billions of pieces of information. Someday it will become so smart it takes over the world. It will be able to think instead of us. Or so some cognitive scientists say. Your new computer too, it thinks so fast. The better [...]]]></description>
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		<title>The Golden Paradox: If we always sacrificed for each other, no one would ever have to make sacrifices</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/business/the-golden-paradox/</link>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 25 Dec 2007 19:27:09 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/?p=944</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[You know me. I&#8217;ve got hardly any moral principles; I&#8217;m all about moral dilemmas. I made the case a while ago (see Liar&#8217;s Paradox Moral Litmus Test) that if you can come up with a Liar&#8217;s Paradox-like statement regarding some moral principle, then it really isn&#8217;t a moral principle. Instead, it&#8217;s a moral dilemma. In [...]]]></description>
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		<title>The Other Golden Rule:  Do unto yourself as you do unto others</title>
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		<pubDate>Sun, 16 Dec 2007 02:24:46 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/?p=943</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[The Golden Rule-do unto others as you would have them do unto you, is about as basic as morality gets. It&#8217;s the bridge between empathy and sympathy, between putting yourself in someone else&#8217;s shoes and making some accommodation to them as a result. Putting oneself in someone else&#8217;s shoes is, of course, a figure of [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Yearnocracies: Negotiating the slippery slope between hope and hoax</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/friends/yearnocracies/</link>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 23 Oct 2007 03:34:51 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/?p=934</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[Real estate has buyer&#8217;s and seller&#8217;s markets&#8211;and other industries have them as well. Information industries have a particular kind of seller&#8217;s market in which demand is high for information that is not reliably available. Cancer treatment, money management, leadership training, alternative medicine, psychotherapy, get-rich-quick training courses, spiritual guidance, diet programs&#8211;these are just some of the [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Hope: As an answer or a question</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/communication/hope/</link>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 23 Oct 2007 01:27:31 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Success is as dangerous as failure; hope is as hollow as fear. Lao Tzu (translation: Stephen Mitchell) One interpretation of this line from the Tao Te Ching supports a popular piece of advice: You shouldn&#8217;t care about success or failure. Caring only makes you anxious and competitive. If you succeed at not caring, you neither [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Mindreader’s Rights: Don&#8217;t tell me what I&#8217;m thinking</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/communication/mindreading-rights/</link>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 05 Oct 2007 23:42:13 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Doctor: Bob, bad news. You’ve got cancer. Bob: Well, I’m going to want a second opinion. Doctor: All right, you’re ugly too. Joe: X is true. Sue: No it’s not. Joe: You just don’t want to admit it’s true because you’re stubborn. Sue: That’s not true. Joe: Yes it is. Sue: Don’t tell me what [...]]]></description>
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		<title>The Second Fundamental: Stalemates and infinite loops in a human-persuade-human world.</title>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 27 Sep 2007 14:40:44 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[“You can’t change other people. All you can do is change your attitude.” People say this sort of thing when they’ve decided to stop trying to change someone. Maybe generalizing like this helps convince them to let go, but of course it’s not true. Influence happens. Influence is as old as ecosystems. We are extensions [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Extended Memotype: On Advice, Part 1</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/communication/extended-memotype-on-advice-part-1/</link>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 21 Sep 2007 07:36:19 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[People who give advice are annoying, kind, nosy, generous, pushy, helpful, proud, selfless, self-serving, and domineering. My advice is to ignore them completely and at your own expense. I&#8217;ve been given advice-and as you know, I give my share of advice, too. Well, perhaps more than my share. I&#8217;ve been thinking about the dynamics of [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Cocky: Self-certainty made easy</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/communication/cocky/</link>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 11 Sep 2007 00:59:15 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Why does it take 6 million sperm to fertilize an egg? Because none of them will stop to ask directions.A remarkable number of derogatory terms analogize the male genitalia. I’ve wondered why, and I think I know at least a couple of the reasons. For one, we’re shy about our genitalia&#8211;so calling attention to them [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Sorry: That big dumb powerful word</title>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 30 Aug 2007 12:47:28 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/blog/?p=601</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[A friend who once lived in England told me that the word sorry is used differently there, that it is less an apology than an expression of sympathy. Over the years my friend and I have listed alternative meanings of the word sorry and assigned each a country of origin (without much regard to real [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Sorrytaliatory Cycle: &#8220;I owe you an apology or a scolding, I can&#8217;t tell which.&#8221;</title>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 22 Aug 2007 21:51:23 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Sorrytaliatory Cycle: My mistake—no, yours—no, mine—no . . . “Excuse me, my unfocused words. I was flying blind. If you can find it in your heart . . . if you’ve got one. . .” “Shame,” by Randy Newman from the album “Bad Love” Decision theory recognizes that any yes/no question entails the prospect of [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Poser-Proof Practices: Don&#8217;t tell&#8211;show</title>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 16 Aug 2007 13:26:17 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[You expect people to walk their talk. When they have for a while you gain confidence that they will continue to do so, that they’re as good as their word. With established rapport, the question of whether they keep their word doesn’t even come up. But when you haven’t known someone long or when some [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Realincarnation: Requiem for the immortal soul</title>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 01 Aug 2007 11:06:18 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[I lost a friend a few months ago. I miss him, but he is gone, though he lives on in my memory. My friend didn’t die, but our connection did—and it happened over the subject of death. He used to drop by unannounced late in the evening. I welcomed him in, and welcomed also his [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Spit or Go Blind: Slang with cosmic implications</title>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 26 Jul 2007 00:49:33 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/blog/?p=373</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[“I can’t tell whether to spit or go blind.” I’ve always liked this phrase (alternatively, “shit or go blind”). It’s slang for confusion in the face of options, and etymologists aren’t sure where it comes from. Its appeal, I suspect, is partly onomatopoetic—it sounds confused. Its appeal may also be the precision with which it [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Yintimidation: Wolf in she&#8217;s clothing</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/communication/yintimidation/</link>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 17 Jul 2007 12:45:00 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/blog/?p=168</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[Big gruff men &#8211; supersaturated with testosterone &#8211; bully people with their stentorian voices, raised hackles, and looming bulk. Wielding the yang sword of decisiveness they impose their will, and women and children scramble for safety. The scrambling pays off in counterstrategies. When you don’t have yang working for you, you make yin work instead. [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Youjustifications: Why are we fighting? Let me not count the ways</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/business/youjustifications/</link>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 28 Jun 2007 14:54:14 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/blog/?p=169</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[Youjustifications : I&#8217;m right because you just&#8230; Again, he&#8217;s ready to leave for an event and she&#8217;s not. He asks her how long she&#8217;ll be, honestly, because once he knows, he can adjust, do something to pass the time, manage his impatience with distractions. It&#8217;s just the uncertainty that irritates him. To appease his impatience [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Down &amp; Out, Up &amp; Out, Out &amp; Out: Reading between the lines on &#8220;Fine&#8221;</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/communication/down-out-up-out-out-out/</link>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 13 Jun 2007 11:21:44 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/blog/?p=29</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[“Fine.” A single syllable, so rich in possible meanings&#8211;does it mean fine as in “You’re right,” as in “You’re wrong,” as in “I fold,” or some complex blend of the three? Conflict within a relationship often leads to reflection about the relationship. Saying “fine,” we step out of the conflict for a little perspective. Psychologically [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Going Uncertain: Casting doubt on inconvenient possibilties.</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/finances/going-uncertain/</link>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 30 May 2007 20:30:55 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/blog/?p=52</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[&#8220;Yeah, but relax, you don&#8217;t know that for sure.&#8221; For the most part, people hate uncertainty. It&#8217;s mentally taxing. It distracts us from our focused pursuits. It reduces our confidence. It vaporizes our mojo. Still, we do welcome one kind of uncertainty&#8211;uncertainty that frees us from a larger uncertainty. If current projections about global warming [...]]]></description>
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