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	<title>MIND READERS DICTIONARY &#187; Should I be thinking about the bigger picture?</title>
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		<title>The Second Fundamental: Stalemates and infinite loops in a human-persuade-human world.</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/communication/the-second-fundamental/</link>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 27 Sep 2007 14:40:44 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[“You can’t change other people. All you can do is change your attitude.” People say this sort of thing when they’ve decided to stop trying to change someone. Maybe generalizing like this helps convince them to let go, but of course it’s not true. Influence happens. Influence is as old as ecosystems. We are extensions [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Minutia and Highfalutia: Evasion by scrambling to a safer level of analysis</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/should-i-say-it/minutia-and-highfalutia/</link>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 06 Sep 2007 12:03:34 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/blog/?p=680</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[You see a friend lost in the details of what looks to you like a fundamentally bad plan. You want to help your friend. You ask a leading question or two: “Do you sometimes wonder if your plan makes sense?” or “How do you feel it’s going lately, I mean overall?” Your friend generally welcomes [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Spit or Go Blind: Slang with cosmic implications</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/business/spit-or-go-blind/</link>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 26 Jul 2007 00:49:33 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/blog/?p=373</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[“I can’t tell whether to spit or go blind.” I’ve always liked this phrase (alternatively, “shit or go blind”). It’s slang for confusion in the face of options, and etymologists aren’t sure where it comes from. Its appeal, I suspect, is partly onomatopoetic—it sounds confused. Its appeal may also be the precision with which it [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Down &amp; Out, Up &amp; Out, Out &amp; Out: Reading between the lines on &#8220;Fine&#8221;</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/communication/down-out-up-out-out-out/</link>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 13 Jun 2007 11:21:44 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/blog/?p=29</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[“Fine.” A single syllable, so rich in possible meanings&#8211;does it mean fine as in “You’re right,” as in “You’re wrong,” as in “I fold,” or some complex blend of the three? Conflict within a relationship often leads to reflection about the relationship. Saying “fine,” we step out of the conflict for a little perspective. Psychologically [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Myopium: One day at a time as a drug.</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/should-i-stay/myopium/</link>
		<comments>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/should-i-stay/myopium/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Wed, 06 Jun 2007 00:00:00 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/blog/?p=87</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[In the short run I measure my progress by immediate, concrete standards. Did I meet my deadlines? Did she smile at me? Did they say something nice about me? Does my boss think I&#8217;m doing a good job? Did I get a good grade? These may or may not be good standards by which to [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Going Uncertain: Casting doubt on inconvenient possibilties.</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/finances/going-uncertain/</link>
		<comments>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/finances/going-uncertain/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Wed, 30 May 2007 20:30:55 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/blog/?p=52</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[&#8220;Yeah, but relax, you don&#8217;t know that for sure.&#8221; For the most part, people hate uncertainty. It&#8217;s mentally taxing. It distracts us from our focused pursuits. It reduces our confidence. It vaporizes our mojo. Still, we do welcome one kind of uncertainty&#8211;uncertainty that frees us from a larger uncertainty. If current projections about global warming [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Liar&#8217;s Paradox Moral Litmus Test: If you contradict yourself you can&#8217;t both be right</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/is-this-worth-fighting-for/conflict/liars-paradox-moral-litmus-test/</link>
		<comments>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/is-this-worth-fighting-for/conflict/liars-paradox-moral-litmus-test/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Wed, 23 May 2007 19:22:39 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/blog/?p=65</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[Some people, when admonished to comply with moral absolutes&#8211;to always be honest, generous, tolerant, or the like&#8211;nod their heads at the sage advice. Me, I no longer see moral absolutes; I only see moral dilemmas. I think of honesty, generosity, tolerance, and other seemingly monolithic virtues as questions, not answers. As of this week I [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Can&#8217;tibration: What do you mean, you can&#8217;t?</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/business/cantibration/</link>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 09 May 2007 16:15:54 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Dinner at an all-you-can-eat restaurant last week reminded me how fundamentally ambiguous the word can is. Its meaning falls between “want to” and “can endure without dying,” just as, conversely, the word need falls somewhere between “want” and “will die without.” Imagine an all-you-can-eat restaurant with a reverse bouncer, a big galoot who won’t let [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Sweating the petty vs. Petting the sweaty: Two ways to play the game of life</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/should-i-doubt-myself/should-i-hold-onto-my-dream-or-face-reality/sweating-the-petty-vs-petting-the-sweaty/</link>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 02 May 2007 20:46:35 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[&#8220;Life is a game.&#8221; People interpret the parallel between life and games in two ways. The most common implies that like a game, life is no big deal, so you should just relax. This notion can be a comfort when you&#8217;re feeling stressed&#8211;stressed, in fact by the other way to take the statement: that in [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Careful Caring: We can&#8217;t always care, so why feel guilty when called uncaring?</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/friends/careful-caring/</link>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 25 Apr 2007 16:43:52 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Can I trust them?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[How should I handle it with my friend?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[How should I handle this conflict?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Is there a win/win solution?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I be thinking about the bigger picture?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I commit?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I fight on?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I give in?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I hold onto my dream or face reality?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I sacrifice?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I stay?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I wait?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[What's the moral thing to do here?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Am I missing the forest for trees?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Am I sliding?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[blame]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[care]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[charity]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[connotations]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Decision making]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[denotations]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[generosity]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[guilt]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[kindness]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[loaded terms]]></category>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/blog/?p=18</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[&#8220;Don&#8217;t say I don&#8217;t care. I do care.&#8221; Like many words, care means different kinds of things. It has its descriptive meaning&#8211;its denotation: Caring is a certain kind of behavior. But it also has its prescriptive meaning&#8211;its connotation: Caring is good. You should care. Being uncaring is bad. Combining denotation and connotation you get a [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Coherence: Making our ideas consistent with each other</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/communication/coherence/</link>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 11 Apr 2007 17:50:37 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[How can I communicate this to her?]]></category>
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		<category><![CDATA[Should I be thinking about the bigger picture?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I give in?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I sacrifice?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I say it?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I stay?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[What's the moral thing to do here?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Am I missing the forest for trees?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Am I sliding?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Causality]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[coherence]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[correspondence]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Decision making]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[double standards]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Hierarchy]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[inconsistency]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Learning]]></category>
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		<category><![CDATA[logical inconsistency]]></category>
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		<category><![CDATA[right hand not knowing what left is doing]]></category>
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		<category><![CDATA[two faced]]></category>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/blog/?p=22</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[&#8220;You’re wrong; it&#8217;s not the same thing at all.&#8221; You press a friend on an inconsistency, some double standard that has him talking out of both sides of his mouth. He denies it and you&#8217;re left to wonder who&#8217;s right, him or you? Well of course it depends. Maybe he is being consistent and his [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Co-Satisficing: Squeaky wheels and vicious cycles</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/communication/co-satisficing/</link>
		<comments>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/communication/co-satisficing/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Wed, 04 Apr 2007 01:57:39 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<category><![CDATA[Is this worth wondering about?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I be thinking about the bigger picture?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Causality]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Decision making]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[dialectical]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Emergence]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Evolution]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[habit]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Hierarchy]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Learning]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[liar's paradox]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Logic]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[negative feedback loops]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[oscillation]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[paradox]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Paradoxes]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Reciprocating engines]]></category>
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		<category><![CDATA[undecideables]]></category>

		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/blog/?p=21</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[&#8220;Darling, you&#8217;re absolutely right. I haven&#8217;t been paying you much attention, but from now on things are going to be different.&#8221;. &#8220;On&#8221; is the iffy word here. We’re generally not wise enough that a word to the wise, wises us up forever more. As long as the pressure is high, we respond. When the pressure [...]]]></description>
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		<title>R.O.S.C.O. (Right On Schedule, Chill Out): Global warming as inevitable</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/communication/rosco-right-on-schedule-chill-out/</link>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 15 Mar 2007 02:18:39 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Can I trust them?]]></category>
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		<category><![CDATA[How should I handle it with my friend?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[How should I handle this conflict?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[How should I negotiate this?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Is there a win/win solution?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Is this a sign?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Is this worth wondering about?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I be thinking about the bigger picture?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I commit?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I fight on?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I get over it?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I give in?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I hold onto my dream or face reality?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I sacrifice?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I say it?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I stay?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[What should we do about this family issue?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[What's the moral thing to do here?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[acceptance]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Am I expecting too much?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Am I missing the forest for trees?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Am I sliding?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[anxiety]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Causality]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[context]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Decision making]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Emergence]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[empathy]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Evolution]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[forgivenses]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[global warming]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Learning]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[natural]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[naturalist fallacy]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[normalist fallacy]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Paradoxes]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Philosophy]]></category>
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		<category><![CDATA[What's the spiritual thing to do?]]></category>

		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/blog/?p=106</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[I burnt my feet very badly once, spilling ignited gasoline on them by mistake. I went up in flames. For a while I felt no pain. I got to experience the way the body sets upper limits on excruciation in the short term. I take comfort from knowing that some sudden physical shocks don’t feel [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Chiasmic Questions: How do you jump-start virtuous cycles?</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-trust-them/negotiation/chiasmic-questions/</link>
		<comments>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-trust-them/negotiation/chiasmic-questions/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Thu, 01 Mar 2007 01:36:24 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[How should I handle this conflict?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[How should I negotiate this?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Is this worth wondering about?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I be thinking about the bigger picture?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Am I missing the forest for trees?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Causality]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[chaism]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Decision making]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Emergence]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Hierarchy]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[liar's paradox]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Logic]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[logical inconsistency]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[logical types]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[oxymoron]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[paradox]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Paradoxes]]></category>
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		<category><![CDATA[Tough choices]]></category>
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		<category><![CDATA[Wisdom]]></category>

		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/blog/?p=19</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[I love teaching at a small college because it forces me to be a generalist. I teach history, psychology, philosophy, economics, marketing, writing, and literature. As a result I work primarily with the patterns that connect various disciplines. Here’s one that keeps popping up. It’s a chiasmic* question&#8211;a question that addresses two alternatives, each an [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Flying By Instrument: The difference between doing and feeling like you&#8217;re doing</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/friends/flying-by-instrument/</link>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 14 Feb 2007 02:59:40 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[How should I handle it with my friend?]]></category>
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		<category><![CDATA[Is this a sign?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Is this worth wondering about?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I be thinking about the bigger picture?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I fight on?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I get over it?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I give in?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I hold onto my dream or face reality?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I say it?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I wait?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[aspirational gap]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[bi-mundiality]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Decision making]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[dreams]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[elluminate or eliminate the middle man]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Evolution]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[flying by instrument]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[interpretations]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Learning]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Logic]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[mental movies]]></category>
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		<category><![CDATA[reality check]]></category>
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		<category><![CDATA[Romance]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[symbolic]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[visions]]></category>

		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/blog/?p=45</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[Last week I wrote about the way my ambitions shrank to a more human scale at midlife. Before my midlife crisis I had grand plans. I thought making a big difference would bring me satisfaction and peace of mind. By midlife, having not achieved greatness, I felt the monkey slowly slide off my back. I [...]]]></description>
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		<title>United States: Your life as an oxymoron</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/communication/united-states/</link>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 18 Jan 2007 03:00:11 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<category><![CDATA[Should I commit?]]></category>
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		<category><![CDATA[Should I hold onto my dream or face reality?]]></category>
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		<category><![CDATA[Should I stay?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I wait?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[What should we do about this family issue?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[What's the moral thing to do here?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[boundaries]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Decision making]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[federalism]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[forest and trees]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Hierarchy]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[holon]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[I]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[individual]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[liar's paradox]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[me/we]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[oxymoron]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[paradox]]></category>
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		<category><![CDATA[self]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[u.s.]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[united states]]></category>

		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/blog/?p=164</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[An oxymoron is a phrase consisting of two words that contradict each other or at least seem to pose interesting inconsistencies. There are degrees of oxymoronicity. A circular square is physically impossible, and is therefore a strongly oxymoronic term. That we can even entertain the concept of a circular square proves that the mind can [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Figments of Ultimate Satisfaction: Our high ideals may be our downfall</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/career/figments-of-ultimate-satisfaction-2/</link>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 22 Dec 2006 17:56:48 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<category><![CDATA[What to do about finances?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Which move helps my career?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Decision making]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[delusion]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[dreams]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[hope]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[idealism]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Learning]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[optimal illusion]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[perfectionism]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Philosophy]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[platonism]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Politics]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[reality checks]]></category>
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		<category><![CDATA[Romance]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[symbolic capacity]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[vision]]></category>
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		<category><![CDATA[wishfulthinking]]></category>

		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/blog/?p=37</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[Life is a game, though not because it’s casual, unimportant fun, which is what’s implied most often by that cliché. Indeed, that’s the greatest dissimilarity between games and life. Life is very much a big deal. How we do at it defines us personally. It shapes those who depend upon us, even people we don’t [...]]]></description>
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		<title>The Critical Gap: Spin, out of control</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/communication/critical-gap/</link>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 15 Nov 2006 18:42:39 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<category><![CDATA[Is this worth wondering about?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I be thinking about the bigger picture?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I expect less from them?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I expect more from them?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I fight on?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I get over it?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I give in?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I hold onto my dream or face reality?]]></category>
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		<category><![CDATA[What should I do about this business problem?]]></category>
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		<category><![CDATA[connotations]]></category>
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		<category><![CDATA[Decision making]]></category>
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		<category><![CDATA[Environment]]></category>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/blog/?p=158</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[We should have seen it coming. The human race is developing and spreading weapons of mass destruction far ahead of its capacity to defend against or control them. There’s a growing defense gap. We could have seen this coming too: The world supply of crazy leaders doesn’t seem to be in decline. We haven’t found [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Truth or Care: Thanks but no thanks for sharing</title>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 09 Nov 2006 10:04:14 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/blog/?p=162</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[Look, I consider you one of my absolutely closest friends. Maybe you can help me with this. I need your honest but polite opinion. Pull no punches, but please be gentle. I need your advice about taking advice. See, I want two things from my friends. I want enthusiastic support and I want honest feedback. [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Molassets: Developing our assets is slow, murky, sticky guesswork</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/career/molassets/</link>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 12 Oct 2006 01:58:04 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/blog/?p=83</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[We arrive here on Earth with no packing slip, no spec sheet, no list of our resources, talents, and weaknesses. These we gradually get hints of by trial and error, often through other people’s observations. I loom over this ambiguously personal thing called my body. From above, I see it as though through a fish-eye [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Low- and High-Stimulus Present: On two ways to be here now</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/career/low-and-high-stimulus-present/</link>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 22 Aug 2006 15:49:27 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/blog/?p=72</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[Sounds like a good thing, doesn’t it? Being present, not thinking about the past or the future, just being here now. Being present has long been touted as a healthy state—if not the healthiest state of all. I think what people call “being present” is really two opposite states confused with one another. Being in [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Hybrid Vehicle: When cruising downhill, charge your batteries for the uphills</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/career/hybrid-vehicle/</link>
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		<pubDate>Sat, 01 Jul 2006 20:40:58 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/blog/?p=56</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[I saw Al Gore’s movie, An Inconvenient Truth, and went right out and bought a used Honda Insight (66 mpg). I know my energy-conserving car makes a negligible dent in global warming. My father would have called my purchase a “votive act,” votive meaning showing or symbolizing a wish or desire. When he was diagnosed [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Pre-grief: Is something gained in letting go before something is lost?</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/communication/pre-grief/</link>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 22 Jun 2006 18:43:51 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/blog/?p=101</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[When my mother was diagnosed with cancer but still waiting for test results, she was very anxious. To counter her anxiety, she asked, “What’s the use of grieving now? If it’s bad, I’ll still have to grieve later.” As reasonable as this sentiment is, it didn’t help. She grieved both before and after the test [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Shop Talk: Compatibility in negotiating our incompatibilities.</title>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 14 Jun 2006 17:19:08 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[I’d heard that a famous old religious scholar lived down the street, so when I saw him at a block party a few years back, just when I was getting into this philosophizing, I approached him and asked if we could have lunch sometime. See, I had designed a new religion. I called it “Taowinism” [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Load Bearing Walls: Impasses where a lot rests upon our assumptions</title>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 08 Jun 2006 16:39:31 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Of all life’s pleasures, one of the sweetest is good conversation. I suppose for some, good conversation is just taking turns telling stories apropos of nothing in particular, but for the rest of us good conversation is a kind of rigorous play, the kind of detective work kids do together, exploring for new clues and [...]]]></description>
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