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	<title>MIND READERS DICTIONARY &#187; Is this a double standard?</title>
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		<title>Barking Yourself Into a Corner: When opposition becomes a self-imposition</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/should-i-commit/barking-yourself-into-a-corner/</link>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 20 Mar 2006 19:03:03 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Can I do better?]]></category>
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		<category><![CDATA[Should I commit?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I give in?]]></category>
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		<category><![CDATA[backfiring]]></category>
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		<category><![CDATA[forgiveness]]></category>
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		<description><![CDATA[Last week I sang the undersung praises of negative role models. Our paths through life are constructed from a combination of dos and don&#8217;ts, which are made most vivid to our imitative minds when we find human exemplars of them. Some of my most effective teachers are dipshits who make me shudder with clarity about [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Virtual Virtue; Virtual Vice: Fake it till you make it&#8230;or forsake it</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-do-better/virtual-virtue-virtual-vice/</link>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 16 Mar 2006 10:25:48 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Can I do better?]]></category>
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		<category><![CDATA[Will it promote or discourage better behavior?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[and]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Causality]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[complements]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Decision making]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Environment]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[feedback loops]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[negative feedback loops]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[or]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Paradoxes]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Politics]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[positive feedback loops]]></category>
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		<category><![CDATA[substitutes]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[tradeoffs]]></category>
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		<category><![CDATA[virtual vice]]></category>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/blog/?p=167</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[Is virtual vice a virtue or a vice? Wordplay aside, my question is whether it&#8217;s good or bad to experience sin vicariously, for example, playing violent video games or watching violent movies. We can think of scenarios in which it&#8217;s bad: Underage children learning belligerence from video games that they take it out on people [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Rational: In search of a well reasoned definition</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/should-i-commit/rational/</link>
		<comments>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/should-i-commit/rational/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Sun, 12 Mar 2006 14:10:53 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Can I change him?]]></category>
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		<category><![CDATA[denominator]]></category>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/blog/?p=108</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[DEFINITION 1. Weighing all pros and cons. 2. Weighing some (not all) pros and cons. 3. Weighing the right pros and cons. 4. Weighing the pros and cons that I want you to. Socrates argued that we all want to better our circumstances. No one is out to get less of what they want. When [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Getting Philosophical: A good coping strategy sometimes</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/is-this-worth-fighting-for/conflict/getting-philosophical/</link>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 23 Feb 2006 00:00:00 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[How should I handle this conflict?]]></category>
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		<category><![CDATA[bachache]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[boetheus]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Causality]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[consolations of philosophy]]></category>
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		<category><![CDATA[equanimity]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Learning]]></category>
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		<category><![CDATA[philosophical]]></category>
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		<category><![CDATA[physical pain]]></category>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/blog/?p=48</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[Talking to the occasional troubled friend lately, I&#8217;ve had the urge to recommend getting philosophical about the trouble. But I&#8217;ve held my tongue, largely because getting philosophical has a bad reputation. It evokes images of indifferent or glib people saying, &#8220;Hey, shit happens, what&#8217;re ya gonna do? Life ain&#8217;t a bowl of cherries.&#8221; Or maybe [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Suspended Animation: Killing time between hearing and deciding about criticism</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/friends/suspended-animation/</link>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 14 Feb 2006 23:12:32 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/blog/?p=155</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[Months ago in this column I made a distinction between ingesting and digesting critical feedback. Ingesting is taking it in. Digesting is deciding what part is nutritious and what part is waste by-product. I argued that these two activities are best separated because ingesting feedback often hurts and makes us want to reject it ALL [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Negative Role Models: Because your heart&#8217;s aversion can be as motivating as your heart&#8217;s desire</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/communication/negative-role-models/</link>
		<comments>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/communication/negative-role-models/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Tue, 10 Jan 2006 17:50:50 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<category><![CDATA[How can I communicate this to her?]]></category>
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		<category><![CDATA[Which move helps my career?]]></category>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/blog/?p=89</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[A few issues back I wrote about &#8220;dipshit theory,&#8221; a theory people commonly employ to explain frustrating behavior as simply as possible. Q: Why would he do that?! A: Because he&#8217;s a dipshit. I argued that exploiting dipshit theory is both effective and dangerous. Its simplicity makes it effective for stopping the unfruitful mental churning [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Substrate Neutrality: The mental health benefits of saying, &#8220;I wouldn&#8217;t put it past me.&#8221;</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-trust-them/negotiation/substrate-neutrality/</link>
		<comments>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-trust-them/negotiation/substrate-neutrality/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Thu, 01 Dec 2005 23:24:38 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<category><![CDATA[all one]]></category>
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		<category><![CDATA[experience]]></category>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/blog/?p=153</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[In what&#8217;s called Lojong practice, Buddhists meditate on slogans. My favorite says, &#8220;Drive all blames to one.&#8221; This slogan promises an end to squabbles over who is right and who is wrong, suggesting a big clearinghouse somewhere to which we can drive all blames. Of course, if the slogan is to be of practical use, [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Floodlighting: When the going stays tough, the tough make a master list</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/communication/floodlighting/</link>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 04 Oct 2005 18:23:07 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<category><![CDATA[menu]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[options]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[peripheral vision]]></category>
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		<category><![CDATA[try to change it]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[tunnel vision]]></category>

		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/blog/?p=43</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[In an argument, participants typically take turns shining a spotlight on the options they want or don&#8217;t want. I&#8217;m fascinated by how rarely anyone shines a floodlight instead of a spotlight, aiming to expose all options at once. By &#8220;all options&#8221; I mean more than just the prevailing proposals—but less than the infinite variety of [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Dilemmacist: When life gives you dilemmas&#8230;</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/communication/dilemmacist/</link>
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		<pubDate>Sun, 17 Jul 2005 18:21:11 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[I’ve got an unusual approach to stress. When I face a dilemma I don’t drink, exercise, pray, put my foot down, take a pill, meditate, go into denial, lose sleep, talk people’s ears off, take action, run away howling, watch TV, tell jokes nervously, get depressed, or assume I’m an idiot. I mean I do [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Broken Symmetry: Blowing bubbles of fairness in an unfair world</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/business/broken-symmetry/</link>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 07 Jul 2005 22:49:32 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/blog/?p=16</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[In the late 1970s, I worked for a hippie Peace Corps, constructing water systems in rural Guatemalan villages. I go back every few years to visit, particularly one village that I&#8217;ve as much as adopted. It was the sight of my greatest achievement and my greatest disgrace. I had found a solution to their water [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Seesaw: Explanations as the shaky balance between what is and what should be</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/communication/seesaw/</link>
		<comments>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/communication/seesaw/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Sat, 28 May 2005 22:36:27 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/blog/?p=143</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[&#8220;No, you don&#8217;t understand. You see, I show up late for work because I have trouble waking up on time.&#8221; If someone&#8217;s behavior is bugging you, the generous way to broach the topic is to ask what drives the behavior. If there&#8217;s a good explanation, you can learn to accommodate it. If there isn&#8217;t, you [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Misdenominational: What we really mean by irrational</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/communication/misdenominational/</link>
		<comments>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/communication/misdenominational/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Wed, 06 Apr 2005 19:08:58 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/blog/?p=80</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[&#8220;I just don&#8217;t have it in me after all. My father did, but I don&#8217;t. He was successful, and I&#8217;m not. I know it&#8217;s irrational to compare, but I can&#8217;t help it.&#8221; Being rational means using ratios — weighing one thing against another: a numerator against a denominator, oneself against one&#8217;s dad. Irrationality, therefore, means [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Fine and Gross Emotor Skills: Better heart-to-head coordination</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/children/fine-and-gross-emotor-skills/</link>
		<comments>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/children/fine-and-gross-emotor-skills/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Sun, 27 Mar 2005 19:12:10 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/blog/?p=38</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[&#8220;My first business failure was maybe just bad luck, but when I failed twice it really stung. I realized that there was something fundamentally wrong and I just had to figure out what it was in a hurry. I didn&#8217;t eat for two days. I just thought about it and thought about it. Then it [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Give or Take: Life&#8217;s age-old obsession with where to draw the line</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/business/give-or-take/</link>
		<comments>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/business/give-or-take/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Sat, 12 Feb 2005 18:00:37 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[&#8220;This week, a few people hinted that I can be quite patronizing. At first, I was just insulted, but when I recognized that several people had used the very same word about me, I had to go look it up. &#8216;Patronizing&#8217; means acting as though I&#8217;m more intelligent than they are — which is awfully [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Rumination: Feedback loops in the mind</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/business/rumination/</link>
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		<pubDate>Sun, 30 Jan 2005 19:53:39 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/blog/?p=142</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[A reader writes: &#8220;I&#8217;m in a bind. My partner has chosen a risky option and wants me to go along with it. I want to be helpful, but I can&#8217;t tell whether it&#8217;s more helpful to support or oppose his decision. It&#8217;s his choice, really. Still, if it turns out to be a mistake, it [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Firewalls: What you don&#8217;t know and where you don&#8217;t know it</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/communication/firewalls/</link>
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		<pubDate>Sat, 15 Jan 2005 19:28:55 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/blog/?p=39</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[&#8220;I&#8217;ve got this friend who has been in an iffy relationship for a while now. She complains about it, wonders if it&#8217;s going right, thinks about leaving. Lately though, when we get together she always starts out talking about how she just needs to be more positive. That she can make it all work out [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Narcoleptic Narcissism: On why those who can do no wrong, do so much of it</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-do-better/is-there-something-to-learn-here/narcoleptic-narcissism/</link>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 16 Dec 2004 20:16:57 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/blog/?p=88</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[&#8220;Wow. Did you hear what he did? You&#8217;d think someone that successful would be sharper. Why do the ones who &#8216;can do no wrong,&#8217; often do so much of it?&#8221; Last week&#8217;s topic, redundancy and relaxation, has a lot to do with it. We live in two worlds, the real and the imagined, walk and [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Spin Doctor&#8217;s Hippocratic Oath: Spinning at the right time makes you smart but at the wrong time makes you a fool</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/communication/spin-doctors-hippocratic-oath/</link>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 23 Nov 2004 17:57:49 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/blog/?p=150</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[You&#8217;ve probably noticed that I&#8217;m fascinated by tough judgment calls, which I define as important speculative decisions that can&#8217;t be hedged. They&#8217;re speculative, because all available options have potential benefits and costs. They can&#8217;t be hedged, because the appropriate responses to the different options work at cross-purposes to each other; they are mutually undermining. Examples [...]]]></description>
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		<title>One hundred and achy degree turns: Overcorrecting for your last mistake</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/communication/one-hundred-and-achy-degree-turns/</link>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 25 Oct 2004 23:48:01 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/blog/?p=93</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[&#8220;Ouch. I thought I could trust you.&#8221; When people we trust do something unkind, it throws us off balance. As we fall, our assumption that we could trust them gets thrown from our hands. To catch ourselves, we reach out for something solid to hold on to. What we grab makes a big difference about [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Pot Calling the Kettle Capped: A universal double standard</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-do-better/is-there-something-to-learn-here/pot-calling-the-kettle-capped/</link>
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		<pubDate>Sun, 12 Sep 2004 14:27:39 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/blog/?p=100</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[It&#8217;s easy to see where other people are closed-minded. Just find something you&#8217;re open to that they&#8217;re not. We&#8217;re less likely to notice where we&#8217;re closed-minded and others aren&#8217;t for two reasons. First, we don&#8217;t tend to notice ourselves not noticing what we don&#8217;t notice. And second, when we do notice something that we&#8217;re closed [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Litmus Paper Tigers: The benefits of declaring absolutes whether we believe them or not</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-trust-them/negotiation/litmus-paper-tigers/</link>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 09 Sep 2004 21:27:08 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/blog/?p=68</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[What do you get when you cross a litmus test and a paper tiger? A litmus test is a test that relies on a single indicator. The term originates with litmus paper which turns red in acid and blue in alkaline solutions. A paper tiger is a person or institution that seems powerful but is [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Five Steps to Optimal Illusion: The path to sophisticated self-deception</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/friends/five-steps-to-optimal-illusion/</link>
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		<pubDate>Sat, 07 Aug 2004 01:08:27 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/blog/?p=41</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[Self-deception — the sweetest and sourest taboo: There&#8217;s no more reliable way to stimulate a rich discussion than to get catty about other people&#8217;s self-deceptions. And there&#8217;s no better way to curdle a conversation than to accuse someone of self-deception to his or her face: Self-deception is the other guy&#8217;s folly. We&#8217;re above it. Or, [...]]]></description>
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