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	<title>MIND READERS DICTIONARY &#187; Is there a win/win solution?</title>
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		<title>Within or about:  Three positions one can take in an argument.</title>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 05 Dec 2008 01:01:55 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Last week I said I envied Obama&#8217;s patience in conflict, and this week as promised brings more about what it takes to display that sort of poise. This discussion also keys into two of the main themes that run through my thinking and writing. One is that the foundation of good behavior is built not [...]]]></description>
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		<title>No, Really: Deeper meaning in conversational packing peanuts</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 15 Oct 2007 03:12:45 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/?p=929</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[There’s an old Greek story about a law teacher who guaranteed to refund a student’s tuition if he didn’t win his first case. After graduating, one student refused to pay. So the teacher sued him. The student didn’t mind, though. If he lost this, his first case, he wouldn’t have to pay his tuition. If [...]]]></description>
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		<title>The Second Fundamental: Stalemates and infinite loops in a human-persuade-human world.</title>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 27 Sep 2007 14:40:44 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/?p=927</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[“You can’t change other people. All you can do is change your attitude.” People say this sort of thing when they’ve decided to stop trying to change someone. Maybe generalizing like this helps convince them to let go, but of course it’s not true. Influence happens. Influence is as old as ecosystems. We are extensions [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Extended Memotype: On Advice, Part 1</title>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 21 Sep 2007 07:36:19 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[People who give advice are annoying, kind, nosy, generous, pushy, helpful, proud, selfless, self-serving, and domineering. My advice is to ignore them completely and at your own expense. I&#8217;ve been given advice-and as you know, I give my share of advice, too. Well, perhaps more than my share. I&#8217;ve been thinking about the dynamics of [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Minutia and Highfalutia: Evasion by scrambling to a safer level of analysis</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/should-i-say-it/minutia-and-highfalutia/</link>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 06 Sep 2007 12:03:34 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/blog/?p=680</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[You see a friend lost in the details of what looks to you like a fundamentally bad plan. You want to help your friend. You ask a leading question or two: “Do you sometimes wonder if your plan makes sense?” or “How do you feel it’s going lately, I mean overall?” Your friend generally welcomes [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Sorry: That big dumb powerful word</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/communication/sorry/</link>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 30 Aug 2007 12:47:28 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/blog/?p=601</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[A friend who once lived in England told me that the word sorry is used differently there, that it is less an apology than an expression of sympathy. Over the years my friend and I have listed alternative meanings of the word sorry and assigned each a country of origin (without much regard to real [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Sorrytaliatory Cycle: &#8220;I owe you an apology or a scolding, I can&#8217;t tell which.&#8221;</title>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 22 Aug 2007 21:51:23 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/blog/?p=602</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[Sorrytaliatory Cycle: My mistake—no, yours—no, mine—no . . . “Excuse me, my unfocused words. I was flying blind. If you can find it in your heart . . . if you’ve got one. . .” “Shame,” by Randy Newman from the album “Bad Love” Decision theory recognizes that any yes/no question entails the prospect of [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Spit or Go Blind: Slang with cosmic implications</title>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 26 Jul 2007 00:49:33 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/blog/?p=373</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[“I can’t tell whether to spit or go blind.” I’ve always liked this phrase (alternatively, “shit or go blind”). It’s slang for confusion in the face of options, and etymologists aren’t sure where it comes from. Its appeal, I suspect, is partly onomatopoetic—it sounds confused. Its appeal may also be the precision with which it [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Yintimidation: Wolf in she&#8217;s clothing</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/communication/yintimidation/</link>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 17 Jul 2007 12:45:00 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Big gruff men &#8211; supersaturated with testosterone &#8211; bully people with their stentorian voices, raised hackles, and looming bulk. Wielding the yang sword of decisiveness they impose their will, and women and children scramble for safety. The scrambling pays off in counterstrategies. When you don’t have yang working for you, you make yin work instead. [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Offanonda Meditation: Learning flexibility in fits and starts</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/business/offanonda-meditation/</link>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 12 Jul 2007 11:25:58 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Absence does not make the heart grow fonder; it reveals the depth of your heart’s fondness. Lately I realized just how partial I’ve been to my PC, which for reasons no tech support person can yet divine has taken to launching into long reveries in the middle of my work. Out of the blue, the [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Rather Partial: The delicate art of clinging right.</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/children/rather-partial/</link>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 04 Jul 2007 15:34:46 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[I’ve been a parent for twenty-seven years—but for the past ten, you could say I’ve been a partial parent. Since my divorce my ex-wife and I have each had the kids half-time, so I’ve altered between being the one parent on the scene and in effect hardly being parental at all. The other day I [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Youjustifications: Why are we fighting? Let me not count the ways</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/business/youjustifications/</link>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 28 Jun 2007 14:54:14 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Youjustifications : I&#8217;m right because you just&#8230; Again, he&#8217;s ready to leave for an event and she&#8217;s not. He asks her how long she&#8217;ll be, honestly, because once he knows, he can adjust, do something to pass the time, manage his impatience with distractions. It&#8217;s just the uncertainty that irritates him. To appease his impatience [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Liar&#8217;s Paradox Moral Litmus Test: If you contradict yourself you can&#8217;t both be right</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/is-this-worth-fighting-for/conflict/liars-paradox-moral-litmus-test/</link>
		<comments>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/is-this-worth-fighting-for/conflict/liars-paradox-moral-litmus-test/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Wed, 23 May 2007 19:22:39 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/blog/?p=65</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[Some people, when admonished to comply with moral absolutes&#8211;to always be honest, generous, tolerant, or the like&#8211;nod their heads at the sage advice. Me, I no longer see moral absolutes; I only see moral dilemmas. I think of honesty, generosity, tolerance, and other seemingly monolithic virtues as questions, not answers. As of this week I [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Can&#8217;tibration: What do you mean, you can&#8217;t?</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/business/cantibration/</link>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 09 May 2007 16:15:54 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Dinner at an all-you-can-eat restaurant last week reminded me how fundamentally ambiguous the word can is. Its meaning falls between “want to” and “can endure without dying,” just as, conversely, the word need falls somewhere between “want” and “will die without.” Imagine an all-you-can-eat restaurant with a reverse bouncer, a big galoot who won’t let [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Careful Caring: We can&#8217;t always care, so why feel guilty when called uncaring?</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/friends/careful-caring/</link>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 25 Apr 2007 16:43:52 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/blog/?p=18</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[&#8220;Don&#8217;t say I don&#8217;t care. I do care.&#8221; Like many words, care means different kinds of things. It has its descriptive meaning&#8211;its denotation: Caring is a certain kind of behavior. But it also has its prescriptive meaning&#8211;its connotation: Caring is good. You should care. Being uncaring is bad. Combining denotation and connotation you get a [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Co-Satisficing: Squeaky wheels and vicious cycles</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/communication/co-satisficing/</link>
		<comments>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/communication/co-satisficing/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Wed, 04 Apr 2007 01:57:39 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/blog/?p=21</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[&#8220;Darling, you&#8217;re absolutely right. I haven&#8217;t been paying you much attention, but from now on things are going to be different.&#8221;. &#8220;On&#8221; is the iffy word here. We’re generally not wise enough that a word to the wise, wises us up forever more. As long as the pressure is high, we respond. When the pressure [...]]]></description>
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		<title>R.O.S.C.O. (Right On Schedule, Chill Out): Global warming as inevitable</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/communication/rosco-right-on-schedule-chill-out/</link>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 15 Mar 2007 02:18:39 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/blog/?p=106</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[I burnt my feet very badly once, spilling ignited gasoline on them by mistake. I went up in flames. For a while I felt no pain. I got to experience the way the body sets upper limits on excruciation in the short term. I take comfort from knowing that some sudden physical shocks don’t feel [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Bottom Fine Line: Beneath every bottom line secret to success there&#8217;s a fine line between success and failure</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/communication/bottom-fine-line-2/</link>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 07 Mar 2007 19:08:14 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/blog/?p=13</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[Have you heard about “The Secret”? A student invited me to his house to watch the DVD, which has sold over 1.5 million copies. He claimed it had changed his life. We made an informal field trip of it, but I had to cut the engagement short. It made my skin crawl. I couldn’t stay [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Mid-Wife Crisis: It’s the economy, stupid.</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/communication/mid-wife-crisis/</link>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 21 Feb 2007 17:26:21 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/blog/?p=76</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[I was married by 24 and had my first child at 25. By the standard of my parents’ generation, 24 was normal&#8211;my father married at that age&#8211;but by my generation’s standard (especially within my Northern California subculture), it was peculiar to get married so young. My firstborn child is eight years older than those of [...]]]></description>
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		<title>United States: Your life as an oxymoron</title>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 18 Jan 2007 03:00:11 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[An oxymoron is a phrase consisting of two words that contradict each other or at least seem to pose interesting inconsistencies. There are degrees of oxymoronicity. A circular square is physically impossible, and is therefore a strongly oxymoronic term. That we can even entertain the concept of a circular square proves that the mind can [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Reversals: Coinings for the other side of the coin</title>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 12 Jan 2007 02:34:00 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/blog/?p=140</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[Mind Reader’s Dictionary started out as a real dictionary. I wanted to collect and systematize the jargon of mind reading. I wanted the everyday terms such as mudslinging, preaching to the converted, and talking your ear off. I wanted to include the technical terms too, such as confirmation bias, satisficing, and ad hominem argument. I [...]]]></description>
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		<title>There Go I:   Anger from three angles</title>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 30 Nov 2006 21:41:12 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[About all my huffs and furies, I have to admit to a double standard. In my anger and disdain, I ignore all similarities between me and the objects of my wrath. I’m not typically hypocritical in real time, though that too is sometimes a possibility. When I’m angry or annoyed with someone, I’m probably not—at [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Truth or Care: Thanks but no thanks for sharing</title>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 09 Nov 2006 10:04:14 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/blog/?p=162</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[Look, I consider you one of my absolutely closest friends. Maybe you can help me with this. I need your honest but polite opinion. Pull no punches, but please be gentle. I need your advice about taking advice. See, I want two things from my friends. I want enthusiastic support and I want honest feedback. [...]]]></description>
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		<title>OK Corral: Words like arrows pointing the way to OK</title>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 01 Nov 2006 19:21:58 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[There&#8217;s an old debate in philosophy about what regular nouns represent. Proper nouns are easy by comparison, since they&#8217;re labels for particular things. Look for Jeremy Sherman in the real world and you can always point to me. But what about a regular noun like horse. Try to point to horse, and all you can [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Declaration of Co-dependence: You might as well face it—you’re addicted through love.</title>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 19 Oct 2006 14:46:18 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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