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	<title>MIND READERS DICTIONARY &#187; Should I expect less from them?</title>
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		<title>Within or about:  Three positions one can take in an argument.</title>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 05 Dec 2008 01:01:55 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/?p=1560</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[Last week I said I envied Obama&#8217;s patience in conflict, and this week as promised brings more about what it takes to display that sort of poise. This discussion also keys into two of the main themes that run through my thinking and writing. One is that the foundation of good behavior is built not [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Loving Ingratitude: A Thanksgiving sentiment</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/children/loving-ingratitude/</link>
		<comments>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/children/loving-ingratitude/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Wed, 22 Nov 2006 19:53:02 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<category><![CDATA[What should we do about this family issue?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[What's the moral thing to do here?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[attention]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[consciousness]]></category>
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		<category><![CDATA[gratitude]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[grocery store]]></category>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/blog/?p=71</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[We only notice difference. In experiments, a subject’s eyes are stabilized staring out into a still room. Within a short time the eyes see nothing. With nothing changing—no differences to notice—the eyes go blank. This Thanksgiving I’m conscious of my gratitude for a great many things. My gratitude is deeply biased, however. I’m unconscious of [...]]]></description>
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		<title>The Critical Gap: Spin, out of control</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/communication/critical-gap/</link>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 15 Nov 2006 18:42:39 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/blog/?p=158</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[We should have seen it coming. The human race is developing and spreading weapons of mass destruction far ahead of its capacity to defend against or control them. There’s a growing defense gap. We could have seen this coming too: The world supply of crazy leaders doesn’t seem to be in decline. We haven’t found [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Truth or Care: Thanks but no thanks for sharing</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/communication/truth-or-care/</link>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 09 Nov 2006 10:04:14 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/blog/?p=162</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[Look, I consider you one of my absolutely closest friends. Maybe you can help me with this. I need your honest but polite opinion. Pull no punches, but please be gentle. I need your advice about taking advice. See, I want two things from my friends. I want enthusiastic support and I want honest feedback. [...]]]></description>
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		<title>OK Corral: Words like arrows pointing the way to OK</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/communication/ok-corral/</link>
		<comments>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/communication/ok-corral/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Wed, 01 Nov 2006 19:21:58 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/blog/?p=92</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[There&#8217;s an old debate in philosophy about what regular nouns represent. Proper nouns are easy by comparison, since they&#8217;re labels for particular things. Look for Jeremy Sherman in the real world and you can always point to me. But what about a regular noun like horse. Try to point to horse, and all you can [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Youmeus Point: Out of the frying pan; into you&#8217;re fired</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-trust-them/negotiation/youmeus-point/</link>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 28 Sep 2006 17:00:52 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/blog/?p=170</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[If a problem arises between you and me, whose problem is it? Is it you, me or us? To resolve the problem, should you change, should I change, or should we change? Problems come to our attention by way of a feeling, an affective change in one of us &#8211; some physical sensation that tells [...]]]></description>
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		<title>After-math: What do you get when you&#8217;ve made a big decision?</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/is-this-worth-fighting-for/conflict/after-math/</link>
		<comments>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/is-this-worth-fighting-for/conflict/after-math/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Thu, 21 Sep 2006 15:48:28 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<category><![CDATA[benefits]]></category>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/blog/?p=7</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[First, what you don’t get: In most cases you don’t get immediate, conclusive results. You usually can’t tell for a while whether you made the right choice. Also, you don’t get whatever you decided against. That’s gone, along with all its potential benefits and costs.What you do get after you make a big decision is [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Parting Shots: Are you giving me feedback or telling me off?</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/should-i-stay/parting-shots/</link>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 15 Sep 2006 02:15:43 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/blog/?p=95</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[Why is it you rarely meet the exes who are responsible for the breakup? Where are all of those defective exes hiding? You almost never hear ex-lovers, ex-business partners or ex-team members say, “Yeah, we split up because they realized I’m not a nice person.” All of us say what we think we need to [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Co-passion: Gridlock at the crossroads of love</title>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 07 Sep 2006 13:08:46 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Many people wrote to say how much they liked last week’s article on romanticynicism—the joining of romanticism and cynicism—but the article left me wondering what I really meant by it. I said I’d prescribe romanticynicism to anyone, but the more I think about it the more it seems that romanticynicism is a question, not an [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Romanticynicism: Love in the irony age</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/friends/romanticynicism/</link>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 01 Sep 2006 01:14:51 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/blog/?p=141</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[Some people don’t feel safe in love unless it’s complete, absolute, and unconditional. Others (me, for one) only feel safe in love when it isn’t. I feel safest when I, and those who love with me, know that love can never be complete, absolute, and unconditional, that unconditional love is only unconditional under certain conditions. [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Low- and High-Stimulus Present: On two ways to be here now</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/career/low-and-high-stimulus-present/</link>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 22 Aug 2006 15:49:27 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Sounds like a good thing, doesn’t it? Being present, not thinking about the past or the future, just being here now. Being present has long been touted as a healthy state—if not the healthiest state of all. I think what people call “being present” is really two opposite states confused with one another. Being in [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Triads: Variation on a theme of variation on a theme</title>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 10 Aug 2006 16:28:14 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/blog/?p=161</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[Last issue, (Search &#8220;Lax&#8221;), I presented evolution’s three collaborative yet contentious cooks—variation, selection, and retention—and assigned them nicknames that express their personalities: 1. Lax: Loose variation, going with the flow 2. Axe: Discerning selection, the cut that accepts some things and rejects others 3. Ox: Persistent retention, stubbornly asserting itself to do more of the [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Hybrid Vehicle: When cruising downhill, charge your batteries for the uphills</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/career/hybrid-vehicle/</link>
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		<pubDate>Sat, 01 Jul 2006 20:40:58 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[I saw Al Gore’s movie, An Inconvenient Truth, and went right out and bought a used Honda Insight (66 mpg). I know my energy-conserving car makes a negligible dent in global warming. My father would have called my purchase a “votive act,” votive meaning showing or symbolizing a wish or desire. When he was diagnosed [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Pre-grief: Is something gained in letting go before something is lost?</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/communication/pre-grief/</link>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 22 Jun 2006 18:43:51 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/blog/?p=101</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[When my mother was diagnosed with cancer but still waiting for test results, she was very anxious. To counter her anxiety, she asked, “What’s the use of grieving now? If it’s bad, I’ll still have to grieve later.” As reasonable as this sentiment is, it didn’t help. She grieved both before and after the test [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Shop Talk: Compatibility in negotiating our incompatibilities.</title>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 14 Jun 2006 17:19:08 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[I’d heard that a famous old religious scholar lived down the street, so when I saw him at a block party a few years back, just when I was getting into this philosophizing, I approached him and asked if we could have lunch sometime. See, I had designed a new religion. I called it “Taowinism” [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Confidence Levels: Are you sure you&#8217;re sure?</title>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 31 May 2006 16:39:15 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/blog/?p=24</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[One of my favorite decision theory jokes goes like this: A man is boasting about his successful marriage. A friend asks him what&#8217;s the secret. &#8220;It&#8217;s a simple division of labor,&#8221; the happy husband says. &#8220;She makes all the little decisions and I make all the big ones.&#8221; &#8220;For example?&#8221; the friend asks. &#8220;She decides [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Your RV: Repetition and Variation as your re-creational vehicle</title>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 19 May 2006 03:16:30 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[When you&#8217;re deep into the details of some discipline, be it nursing, accounting, auto repair, or mind reading, the number of important factors and considerations gets so great that you need a way to organize them. Here, in the deeps of mind reading, the way to organize the multitude of factors is through careful abstract [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Your Fair-o-sphere: The bubble within which you try to make things fair</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/children/your-fair-o-sphere/</link>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 24 Mar 2006 20:19:24 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/blog/?p=171</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[Life is unfair. We all know it, which should make us wonder why we ever talk of fairness at all. We do because locally, within our sphere of influence and influences, we work to make life fairer. Out beyond these spheres, we ignore the unfairness. The size of one&#8217;s sphere depends on many factors. Generosity, [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Eleventh-Hour Initiative: Expect a snag just before rollout</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/communication/eleventh-hour-initiative/</link>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 22 Mar 2006 23:44:10 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/blog/?p=31</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[&#8220;I can&#8217;t believe what just happened. You remember, months ago, the committee told me to develop a promo plan? Well, as you know, I&#8217;ve been working on it. I brought them updates all along, which they approved, though it wasn&#8217;t clear how much attention they were paying.&#8221; &#8220;On schedule, I brought the promo plan to [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Suffering and Insensitivity: The anatomy of two necessary evils we must strive to eradicate</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/career/suffering-and-insensitivity/</link>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 20 Mar 2006 22:58:16 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/blog/?p=154</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[&#8220;I tell you what. If I were granted one wish, I would use it to end all suffering and insensitivity. A complete eradication, plain and simple.&#8221; Ending needless suffering and cruel insensitivity would be nice. How would you do it? With a granted wish, you could simply excise them surgically — cutting out the cancer [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Flail Blazing: Error increases when you&#8217;re chasing a moving target</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/business/flail-blazing/</link>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 20 Mar 2006 19:34:12 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/blog/?p=42</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[The increase in error that accompanies trail blazing activities. For example, when traveling, we generally get lost more often. When studying brand new material we generally make more errors. When starting a new job, we generally mess up more often. When inventing something new we generally make a lot of non-functional prototypes. Mistakes come with [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Hegeling: The cast of characters in every debate</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/business/hegeling/</link>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 13 Mar 2006 20:02:33 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/blog/?p=55</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[Philosopher Georg Wilhelm Friedrich Hegel got many things wrong, but one of his central themes rings true: Learning moves in cycles of thesis, antithesis, and synthesis. Hegel&#8217;s theory, outlined (and illustrated) below, suggests not only why people often disagree about how to end a debate but also details the five basic end points they advocate. [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Rational: In search of a well reasoned definition</title>
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		<pubDate>Sun, 12 Mar 2006 14:10:53 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/blog/?p=108</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[DEFINITION 1. Weighing all pros and cons. 2. Weighing some (not all) pros and cons. 3. Weighing the right pros and cons. 4. Weighing the pros and cons that I want you to. Socrates argued that we all want to better our circumstances. No one is out to get less of what they want. When [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Suspended Animation: Killing time between hearing and deciding about criticism</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 14 Feb 2006 23:12:32 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/blog/?p=155</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[Months ago in this column I made a distinction between ingesting and digesting critical feedback. Ingesting is taking it in. Digesting is deciding what part is nutritious and what part is waste by-product. I argued that these two activities are best separated because ingesting feedback often hurts and makes us want to reject it ALL [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Mother of All Questions: The sound of one world chanting &#8220;hmmm&#8230;?&#8221;</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/communication/mother-of-all-questions/</link>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 25 Jan 2006 12:27:50 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Most of the time we have answers enough—no questions on our minds. When a question crowds in, it&#8217;s usually some variation on or aspect of this one—the mother of all questions: WHAT CAN I DO WITH WHAT I&#8217;M DEALT TO GET TO THE GOOD? At first it reads as generic and bland. But notice all [...]]]></description>
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