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		<title>Within or about:  Three positions one can take in an argument.</title>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 05 Dec 2008 01:01:55 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/?p=1560</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[Last week I said I envied Obama&#8217;s patience in conflict, and this week as promised brings more about what it takes to display that sort of poise. This discussion also keys into two of the main themes that run through my thinking and writing. One is that the foundation of good behavior is built not [...]]]></description>
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		<title>The Tact Game: Is there always a winning way to give critical feedback?</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/communication/the-tact-game/</link>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 04 Nov 2008 18:58:24 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<category><![CDATA[criticism]]></category>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/?p=1193</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[It&#8217;s commonly held that critical feedback never has to hurt so long as you deliver it tactfully. Tact transcends all resistance. There&#8217;s a nice way to say anything. I live by that belief and promote it to my students. I tell them to assume that there&#8217;s nothing they can&#8217;t say to anyone as long as [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Exit interview: The pros and cons of giving feedback as a relationship ends</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/communication/exit-interview/</link>
		<comments>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/communication/exit-interview/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Tue, 04 Nov 2008 18:58:03 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/?p=1195</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[I left a band recently. I had my reasons but wasn&#8217;t sure whether to share them on exit. I didn&#8217;t want to be dishonest. I can remember times when people gave me vacuous excuses for parting with me. Here I had invested heavily in a relationship and they were too stingy to let me in [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Floating for-ness: Under a firm mantle of function, molten motives churn.</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/communication/floating-for-ness/</link>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 24 Apr 2008 02:34:51 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/?p=963</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[You&#8217;re in love, or so you think. You certainly feel in love, but now that you&#8217;ve been run through the mill a few times, you wonder what the feeling really means. You love being loved. But think about it, why does this person love you? What&#8217;s the motivation? When someone says, &#8220;I love you,&#8221; what [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Brain Velcro: Why good things happen to bad ideas</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/communication/brain-velcro/</link>
		<comments>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/communication/brain-velcro/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Tue, 08 Apr 2008 19:27:55 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Most people even mildly interested in evolution have heard about the &#8220;selfish gene.&#8221; The concept is simple yet with counterintuitive implications. Richard Dawkins, who coined the term, argues that the best way to understand evolution is to imagine that genes selfishly want to preserve themselves, and so produce elaborate replicator vehicles (us) designed to help [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Self-efficacy: How supply permits demand</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/career/self-efficacy/</link>
		<comments>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/career/self-efficacy/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Wed, 02 Apr 2008 00:32:37 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<category><![CDATA[self-esteem]]></category>
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		<description><![CDATA[&#8220;Give the work to the busy man,&#8221; my mother used to say. It made sense. A busy man (or woman, in her case) had momentum and a can-do spirit. The technical name for a can-do spirit is self-efficacy, a belief that you are capable of being effective. Psychologist Albert Bandura, who coined the term, attributes [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Turing&#8217;s Blurring Anxiety (TBA): Forgiving dead jerks but not live ones.</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/communication/turings-blurring-anxiety/</link>
		<comments>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/communication/turings-blurring-anxiety/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Tue, 12 Feb 2008 17:13:21 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/?p=952</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[What do you say about a deceased jerk, someone who treated you badly before shuffling off this mortal coil?The natural temptation is to say, &#8220;She could have done better,&#8221; but what could that mean? That had she tried a little harder, she would have been able to control her vices? Meaning if she had been [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Guesswork: Enough is enough, but how much is enough?</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/communication/guesswork/</link>
		<comments>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/communication/guesswork/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Tue, 12 Feb 2008 17:10:39 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/?p=951</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[Three weeks ago I recounted a lot of tough problems raised over the ages about how cause and effect really work. One of the toughest was that if cause and effect works like we normally think it does-thing A bumps into thing B and moves it in a precisely predictable direction, then the whole universe [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Deduction: The dream and nightmare of absolute certainty him in a</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/communication/deduction/</link>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 12 Feb 2008 17:07:39 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/?p=950</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[Last week I began comparing and contrasting computers and minds, examining both human intuitions and appetites regarding the prospect that our minds are governed by the same kind of direct one-to-one-correspondence kind of cause-and-effect we see in the physical world (Aristotle&#8217;s efficient cause). If minds are really like computers, just translating information from one form [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Co-dependence: When do two wrongs make a right?</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/children/co-dependence/</link>
		<comments>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/children/co-dependence/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Thu, 03 Jan 2008 03:35:58 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/?p=947</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[I&#8217;m trying a new way to deal with effronteries. When someone does me harm, I have an old habit of compensating myself with the grant of retaliatory superiority. I automatically think, &#8220;This proves that I&#8217;m different from (and better than) them. I hold to the high standards better than they do, and I&#8217;m therefore entitled [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Transceiver Bias: Writing and reading are not the same thing</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/business/transceiver-bias/</link>
		<comments>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/business/transceiver-bias/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Thu, 03 Jan 2008 03:35:07 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Transceivers transmit and receive, and we do too. &#8220;Transceiver bias&#8221; is my name for self-image distortions that arise from receiving information about how we&#8217;re doing while we&#8217;re preoccupied with transmitting information, that is, expressing ourselves. We&#8217;re often surprised by photographs of ourselves. They don&#8217;t look like what we see in the mirror. Part of this [...]]]></description>
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		<title>The Golden Paradox: If we always sacrificed for each other, no one would ever have to make sacrifices</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/business/the-golden-paradox/</link>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 25 Dec 2007 19:27:09 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[You know me. I&#8217;ve got hardly any moral principles; I&#8217;m all about moral dilemmas. I made the case a while ago (see Liar&#8217;s Paradox Moral Litmus Test) that if you can come up with a Liar&#8217;s Paradox-like statement regarding some moral principle, then it really isn&#8217;t a moral principle. Instead, it&#8217;s a moral dilemma. In [...]]]></description>
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		<title>The Other Golden Rule:  Do unto yourself as you do unto others</title>
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		<pubDate>Sun, 16 Dec 2007 02:24:46 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/?p=943</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[The Golden Rule-do unto others as you would have them do unto you, is about as basic as morality gets. It&#8217;s the bridge between empathy and sympathy, between putting yourself in someone else&#8217;s shoes and making some accommodation to them as a result. Putting oneself in someone else&#8217;s shoes is, of course, a figure of [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Thanksgrieving:  Cheer up &#8217;cause it&#8217;s downhill from here</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/children/thanksgrieving/</link>
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		<pubDate>Sun, 02 Dec 2007 01:41:41 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/?p=940</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[In response to last week&#8217;s song, people wrote with praises (thank you) and concerns for my health. I&#8217;m fine. More than fine. I can&#8217;t imagine being much happier than I am these days. I&#8217;m very lucky. I say this to ward off concern about my wellbeing in response to the following tune. When we&#8217;re down, [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Yearnocracies: Negotiating the slippery slope between hope and hoax</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/friends/yearnocracies/</link>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 23 Oct 2007 03:34:51 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/?p=934</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[Real estate has buyer&#8217;s and seller&#8217;s markets&#8211;and other industries have them as well. Information industries have a particular kind of seller&#8217;s market in which demand is high for information that is not reliably available. Cancer treatment, money management, leadership training, alternative medicine, psychotherapy, get-rich-quick training courses, spiritual guidance, diet programs&#8211;these are just some of the [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Hope: As an answer or a question</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/communication/hope/</link>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 23 Oct 2007 01:27:31 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/?p=930</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[Success is as dangerous as failure; hope is as hollow as fear. Lao Tzu (translation: Stephen Mitchell) One interpretation of this line from the Tao Te Ching supports a popular piece of advice: You shouldn&#8217;t care about success or failure. Caring only makes you anxious and competitive. If you succeed at not caring, you neither [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Mindreader’s Rights: Don&#8217;t tell me what I&#8217;m thinking</title>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 05 Oct 2007 23:42:13 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/?p=928</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[Doctor: Bob, bad news. You’ve got cancer. Bob: Well, I’m going to want a second opinion. Doctor: All right, you’re ugly too. Joe: X is true. Sue: No it’s not. Joe: You just don’t want to admit it’s true because you’re stubborn. Sue: That’s not true. Joe: Yes it is. Sue: Don’t tell me what [...]]]></description>
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		<title>The Second Fundamental: Stalemates and infinite loops in a human-persuade-human world.</title>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 27 Sep 2007 14:40:44 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[“You can’t change other people. All you can do is change your attitude.” People say this sort of thing when they’ve decided to stop trying to change someone. Maybe generalizing like this helps convince them to let go, but of course it’s not true. Influence happens. Influence is as old as ecosystems. We are extensions [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Sorry: That big dumb powerful word</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/communication/sorry/</link>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 30 Aug 2007 12:47:28 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/blog/?p=601</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[A friend who once lived in England told me that the word sorry is used differently there, that it is less an apology than an expression of sympathy. Over the years my friend and I have listed alternative meanings of the word sorry and assigned each a country of origin (without much regard to real [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Sorrytaliatory Cycle: &#8220;I owe you an apology or a scolding, I can&#8217;t tell which.&#8221;</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/communication/sorrytaliatory-cycle/</link>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 22 Aug 2007 21:51:23 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/blog/?p=602</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[Sorrytaliatory Cycle: My mistake—no, yours—no, mine—no . . . “Excuse me, my unfocused words. I was flying blind. If you can find it in your heart . . . if you’ve got one. . .” “Shame,” by Randy Newman from the album “Bad Love” Decision theory recognizes that any yes/no question entails the prospect of [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Poser-Proof Practices: Don&#8217;t tell&#8211;show</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/communication/poser-proof-practices/</link>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 16 Aug 2007 13:26:17 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[How can I communicate this to her?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[How should I handle it with my friend?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[How should I handle this conflict?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[How should I negotiate this?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Is this a sign?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Is this worth wondering about?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I hold onto my dream or face reality?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[What should I do about this business problem?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[What should we do about this family issue?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Which move helps my career?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[actions speak louder than words]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Decision making]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Don't tell]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Evolution]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[fake it til you make it]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[faking it]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[honesty]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[poser]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[poseur]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Romance]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[show]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[signalling]]></category>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/blog/?p=471</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[You expect people to walk their talk. When they have for a while you gain confidence that they will continue to do so, that they’re as good as their word. With established rapport, the question of whether they keep their word doesn’t even come up. But when you haven’t known someone long or when some [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Aspirational Tense: &#8220;I most definitely am, I hope.&#8221;</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/business/aspirational-tense/</link>
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		<pubDate>Sat, 11 Aug 2007 17:01:50 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[How should I handle it with my friend?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I commit?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I fight on?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I give in?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I hold onto my dream or face reality?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I sacrifice?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[What should I do about this business problem?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[What to do about finances?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Which move helps my career?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Accept vs. Aspire]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Am I expecting too much?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Am I sliding?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[ambition]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[aspiration]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Decision making]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Environment]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[hope]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[naturalist falacy]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[normalist falacy]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[optimal illusion]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Romance]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[self-deception]]></category>

		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/blog/?p=381</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[The relationship between reality and interpretation is always tenuous. Who’s to say what’s real? There is no simple formula to ensure that an interpretation matches reality—and besides, if there were one, we’d be ambivalent about using it. Our impressions bob and weave around our reality. Reality delivers a right uppercut and our impressions slide out [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Realincarnation: Requiem for the immortal soul</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/friends/realincarnation/</link>
		<comments>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/friends/realincarnation/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Wed, 01 Aug 2007 11:06:18 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Can I trust them?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[How should I handle it with my friend?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[How should I handle this conflict?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[How should I negotiate this?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Is this a sign?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Is this worth wondering about?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I get over it?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I give in?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I say it?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I stay?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Am I missing the forest for trees?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Causality]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Decision making]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Evolution]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[optimal illusion]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Philosophy]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[reincarnation]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Religion]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Rhetoric]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[science]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[science and religion]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[scientific method]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[terror management]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[truth]]></category>

		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/blog/?p=482</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[I lost a friend a few months ago. I miss him, but he is gone, though he lives on in my memory. My friend didn’t die, but our connection did—and it happened over the subject of death. He used to drop by unannounced late in the evening. I welcomed him in, and welcomed also his [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Spit or Go Blind: Slang with cosmic implications</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/business/spit-or-go-blind/</link>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 26 Jul 2007 00:49:33 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Can I trust them?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[How should I handle it with my friend?]]></category>
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		<category><![CDATA[Is there a win/win solution?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Is this a sign?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Is this worth wondering about?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I be thinking about the bigger picture?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I commit?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I get over it?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I give in?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I hold onto my dream or face reality?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I say it?]]></category>
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		<category><![CDATA[What should we do about this family issue?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Which move helps my career?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[accommodation]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Am I expecting too much?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Am I missing the forest for trees?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Am I sliding?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[assertion]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[attend]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Decision making]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[ignore]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Learning]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[optimal illusion]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Politics]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Religion]]></category>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/blog/?p=373</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[“I can’t tell whether to spit or go blind.” I’ve always liked this phrase (alternatively, “shit or go blind”). It’s slang for confusion in the face of options, and etymologists aren’t sure where it comes from. Its appeal, I suspect, is partly onomatopoetic—it sounds confused. Its appeal may also be the precision with which it [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Yintimidation: Wolf in she&#8217;s clothing</title>
		<link>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/communication/yintimidation/</link>
		<comments>http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/can-i-change-him/communication/yintimidation/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Tue, 17 Jul 2007 12:45:00 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeremy Sherman</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Can I trust them?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[How can I communicate this to her?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[How should I handle it with my friend?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[How should I handle this conflict?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[How should I negotiate this?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Is there a win/win solution?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I fight on?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I give in?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Should I sacrifice?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[butterfly punch]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[deceit]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Decision making]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[feminism]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[fight]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[gentle]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[kind]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[manipulation]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[nice]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[passive agressive]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[receptivity]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Romance]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[surrender]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[yang]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[yin]]></category>

		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mindreadersdictionary.com/blog/?p=168</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[Big gruff men &#8211; supersaturated with testosterone &#8211; bully people with their stentorian voices, raised hackles, and looming bulk. Wielding the yang sword of decisiveness they impose their will, and women and children scramble for safety. The scrambling pays off in counterstrategies. When you don’t have yang working for you, you make yin work instead. [...]]]></description>
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